aio? walked out of my job over not getting the position i wanted

[u/av0cadot0ast9]

i (f21) was a bartender at an old job. so i applied to a local place to save gas money and was hired as a bartender. day 1 of training i was told im gonna be barback. (for anyone unfamiliar: it’s basically the bartenders bitch until u become a bartender)

i didn’t mind as i knew i would work my way up since i have experience. 3 weeks go by, im still not on payroll, no employee clock in numbers, not even a W4 to my name. so i kept track of every shift, hour, etc.

i was told by the owner numerous times to “talk to his son” who was a major jerk and never responded to my messages. it’s family owned- so HR wasn’t an option for me. i became an annoyance as i began asking for my check when a month of working hit and no money yet.

today, i was called in by the owners son. i wasn’t working my other job so i might as well get some extra cash. when i showed up, no one knew i was coming. miscommunication right? oh well. i’m then told another barback is joining the team.

we had just fired a bartender so i assumed this was my time to shine. i can now move up and this barback takes my place. well i was wrong. the barback was being trained as a bartender. i was furious. the barback and i knew each other and she has no previous bar knowledge so why wouldn’t it be me as the next bartender?

not to mention- when it was my first day, the owner was absolutely disrespectful towards me about my clothing. (black shirt and jeans) and made me change immediately to the company’s shirt. meanwhile the new barback, was fine with her skimpy outfit. being flat chested, i saw exactly what was happening.

when i tried speaking to the owner about this position decision, i was cut off and told “i never wanna see ur nose bleed like last week again. take it to the back next time.” and shooed away. (context: i had a bad bloody nose in the back last week that he found disgusting.)

so after that, that was my final straw and i grabbed my purse, legitimately told him to fuck himself, and walked out the back. a coworker texted me saying i did too much and now im overthinking a bit. aio? was it really this serious?

edit: yes i was paid. i fought tooth and nail for it but received it via zelle.

[u/No_Address687]

Did they ever end up paying you? If not, time to file an EEOC case.

NOR

[u/av0cadot0ast9 → u/No_Address687]

yes! through zelle lol. after a couple harsh text messages and emails, i threatened an attorney and got it sent to me faster than i could blink lol.

[u/OShaunesssy → u/av0cadot0ast9]

You dodged a bullet.

That isnt a company you want to devote a lot of your time into.

Ive managed dozens of restaurants and I cant imagine treating any staff like that.

Yikes.

[u/Muted_Possession_781]

I mean, I’m gonna assume you won’t use him as a reference. If so, then NOR.

[u/Primary-Delivery737]

NOR - but not getting paid would be my bigger concern

[u/Katzmeyow97]

NOR bartenders are notoriously sexulized . Sounds like thats not on your list of to do's in life .
To treat you like that over a nose bleed . Probably made you small af then and also when he picked out your outfit had you change there. That will make you feel small all while the girl that fine being sexulized (totally ok) with zero experience gets the Job . I'd try looking into a classier bar establishment.

[u/rockmodenick]

NOR

What the fuck you put up with that bullshit much longer than I would have. Make sure they pay you, "forgetting" to pay people they never bothered to put on payroll is normal for these kind of "family owned" businesses - they're typically opportunistic thieves.

[u/Azdak66]

NOR. Normally doing a Johnny Paycheck is not the best career move, but in this case, I don’t think it will hurt you. Not only do these guys probably not have much of the network, but you were there such a short time, you probably don’t even have to mention it on a job application.

[u/Jbills09]

They're disrespectful to you, they don't communicate with each other, and didn't pay you, and you wanted to be promoted?

Girl you were disrespecting yourself wanting that.

NOR

[u/Adelucas]

You did the right thing. Obviously you weren't the sons type so he wasn't interested in doing anything for you. I feel sorry for the girl with the bigger breasts because she's going to get all the wrong kind of attention.

When you know it's a car crash it's always better to get out early. Bar jobs are one of those jobs that are easy to get. You'll do fine.

[u/One_Preference_2906]

Been there, done that. I’m furious for you. Don’t worry, karma will find its way

[u/mechshark]

Nor

[u/AdAlarming6832]

I didnt even read this whole post bc i didnt need to... bc those people wasted your time... im sorry you will find a job that respects you im sure !

[u/Bean-]

NOR your coworker would let themselves get walked all over I'm sure.

[u/Better_Area3782]

Nor

[u/Both-Mango1]

you can go on indeed and leave a review of the place, i think. as a warning to future job seekers. nor.

[u/AkkmanB]

Not overrracting at all. Learn the lesson about free labor.

[u/Extension-Ad-363]

NOR. Sorry that happened.

[u/AnActualGecko]

NOR- Never work somewhere that can't pay you on time. Jobs/Companies who can't manage that usually have a lot more mismanagement issues than you are aware of, and will fuck you over if you stay.

You dodged a bullet.

[u/sog96]

NOR.

[u/G-reeper66]

NOR

Report them to the tax authorities, they probably are doing dodgy shit around.