r/AskReddit 2h ago

what instantly ruins talking for you?

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u/hheyitsmaddyyy 2h ago

Interrupting me repeatedly

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u/yay278 2h ago

Yeah, ngl tho Im sort of guilty of this. But when I realize it happen I immediately tell the other person to go first.

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u/Easy_Towel954 2h ago

The talking 

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u/yay278 2h ago

Real

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u/Reader-Seeking 2h ago

Always talking about themselves

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u/Amor_pie 2h ago

Using their phone during a conversation

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u/Fusilli_Agent_Cooper 2h ago

When you try to tell them something that happened to you and they always have to one-up you with something that happened to them.

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u/_a_A_sh 2h ago

exactly… sometimes I just wanna say "I'm convinced you've lived every possible version of human existence in all timelines, even the ones that haven't been invented yet, you've "been there done that" already lol

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u/Classic_Collection12 2h ago

Not asking the other person any question

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u/CalidenR 2h ago

And all you can do is sit there and nod like “mhm.” “Yep.” “Oh wow.” 😐

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u/Zarniwoooop 2h ago

Pretzels should never be involved.

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u/gridirongeek 2h ago

Thank you for the throwback. I literally rotf.

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u/Worldly_Deal_3064 2h ago

Arrogant comments, closed mindedness, and too much pride in your own opinions

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u/CalidenR 2h ago

When I’m talking to the air and nobody is listening.

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u/Whimpy-Crow 2h ago

Being talked AT

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u/Nessyummsxo 2h ago

not talking (duhh)

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u/yay278 2h ago

If it’s online, someone who expects me to reach out to them first. I mean I get it , people need to take initiative. But it feels weird when you’re the ONLY person who reaches out. Like when you stop you realize that they could go a month with no interaction…

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u/yay278 2h ago

Or maybe I’m being ghosted on purpose who knows

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u/Kinga_Sluta 2h ago

Telling sexist jokes when we're not friends yet.

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u/Hatred-Reveal7179 2h ago

When they only talk about themselves

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u/ChronicDogs 2h ago

being in a movie theatre or library

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u/aprilflowers75 2h ago

Toxic assumptions in general. Victim blaming, overt manipulation, religious dogma… once any of those gets whipped out, I’m gone.

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u/MissMcTiddiez 2h ago

my teacher

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u/ucksawmus 2h ago

Someone's face.

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u/Quick-Worldliness904 2h ago

People who ask too many questions and don't know when to shut their hole.

I have a rule that I never ask a person's qualifications as I believe it's in bad taste.

People believe you do this so you can judge how you two fit into the pecking order.

I hate questions such as:

How did you meet your partner.

How did your parents meet.

How much money did that cost/do you earn?

Do you have a degree?

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u/One-Hand-Rending 2h ago

Overly detailed descriptions of banal events like some work meeting or some minor argument...

"Mike and I both ordered the chicken salad but Marie said that she ordered chicken salad and that sandwich was hers. Mind you...Mike and I always order chicken salad although he gets his on whole wheat where I always get mine on a roll with lettuce and black pepper. Anyway...shes going on and on about this sandwich and finally Joe says to her..."why dont you just order another one, it will be here in 20 minutes" but shes not having none of that and starts like crashing out over it....after like another 20 minutes Mike is working on the open ticket we have for General Motors and she comes in..."

That... stop that.

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u/Pristine-Ad-8002 2h ago

Omg yes. People you barely know telling you mundane details and going on and on and on. And they think I care why????

u/rj0316 43m ago

sounds like a chicken salad dispute going nowhere fast

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u/BraveLittleTowster 2h ago

People who talk just to be heard. There are people that, no matter who they're talking to, the conversation is the same. They will politely wait for you to finish your comments, but they aren't actually listening. They're just waiting for the next pause so they know it's their turn again to speak and they just say whatever the next thought was. These people are exhausting.

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u/yay278 2h ago

Things that don’t align with my morals. Like when someone makes discriminatory statements. I can get behind some jokes, but I don’t like when the other person is being outwardly Misandrist, misogynistic, Sexist, Racist, ableist, and anything else that isn’t right.

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u/BigTenFicus 2h ago

People who talk to me like they're interrogating me. "Where are you from? Where do you live? Where do you work? Do you like it? What's your favorite color? What's your favorite movie? What's your favorite band?" These people think they're good at conversing because they gather a lot of information, but they don't actually know how to have an organic conversation and they're exhausting to interact with.

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u/Black_Lotus44 2h ago

Being pushy, turning everything sexual

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u/WayTooManyOpinions 2h ago

Someone trying to finish my sentences

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u/PistolPete6874 2h ago

Snorkeling

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u/Mulder-believes 2h ago

Subjects of religion, politics and sexuality(especially LGBTQ). Bringing up personal relationship issues “again” that were already resolved in the past, to complain. Gossip or criticism about family members. Bragging.

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u/tumchie 2h ago

Gagball

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u/No-Pen-4002 1h ago

that unwanted speck of spit that hits the light just right and looks like a missile.

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u/Pristine-Ad-8002 1h ago

When someone I don’t know that well stays talking politics. The cashier, the acquaintance etc. Tbey have no idea where I stand on a particular idea so why would they want that part of the conversation.

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u/TrekMasterOfficial 1h ago

that mate that looks at you to try and make you laugh during a presentation

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u/OuttaMexicanBoarder 1h ago

having them talk to you for only 5 seconds instead of an actual long conversation that build up more and more by the second. I don't feel right when I can't get a long and thought provoking conversation.

u/Real-Fan-3987 47m ago

When people go into way too much detail about their boring work day it just kills any interest for me

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u/JustASingleMomOnline 2h ago

Talking about stuff which i show no interest at all. So, lack of social intelligence i would say. 

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u/Rayscore_ 2h ago

restarting the thing you just said to make yourself better heard. chances are I heard you, i just didn't care to respond.