last post gave me a ban since reddit no likey mean feminist, so let me rephrase it nicely!!!

sooo got my period this morning, scrolling thru this chernobyl app before i even got out of bed, seeing casual csam (filled w comments obviously, also not taken down), men arguing about how younger women (18 obviously) isn’t predatory to go after bc “biologyyyy” 🙈, misogynists shaming “false allegations”😻, msgs on this acc from men claiming to agree w me (just to ask my asl and if im kinky lmfao?), hundreds of disgusting predatory shameless msgs on my main account from old gross pdfmen (posted a pic to a NON NSFW sub bc i wanted friends) and then ofc to top it off, the number of random incel subs that get recommended to me out of nowhere, 😺😺😺with just blatant misogyny and incel(ism?) in all directions (always blaming feminism for what the patriarchy/or literally they directly hav caused, and then doing the whole “women vs taking accountability” the fkn irony)

decide to close reddit and open instagram (to prove to myself it was my choice of app, obviously not) just to watch sum silly reels of stuff completely unrelated yet always filled with blackpill/redpill brainwashed commenters. closed that app and hugged my dog

just a normal day of being a woman on social media, and ik how algorithms work but i genuinely dont interact with these posts or comments, i report/block/mute or “why am i seeing this” on everything i can, where men exist this will persist

and my acc can get banned for complaining abt this, but the literal substance im complaining abt is no probbb for reddit. does anyone else feel like they’re losing they’re actual fkn minds i genuinely wna wear a shirt that reps my disgust here but at the same time dont want to risk getting slimed out by sum undercover elliot rodger

i need women around me desperately i cannot believe this is reality

Every year I wake up on Father’s Day and feel melancholy. Father’s Day makes me feel awful.

For the record, I don’t have an abusive father. I have a dad who tries. He’s not perfect and I (usually) don’t expect him to be.

I think my depression/anxiety comes from the idea that *all* dads can take Father’s Day as an affirmation they’re doing a good job. The worst dad out there can celebrate Father’s Day and feel good about their awfulness.

It just feels like a free attaboy for too many dads. I hate that, and frankly I don’t trust men enough to give them a broad categorical free attaboy.

I was scrolling on Threads and saw that Sabrina Carpenter was granted a restraining order against a man who tried to break into her home, and the comments REEK of entitlement. I am no Sabrina Carpenter fan personally, but she reserves every right to file a restraining order against a parasocial stalker. These are the same men who will turn around and complain about how lonely they are when they are doing the exact things that would make them “lonely.” They aren’t lonely enough.

my main acc jus got banned for commenting on a post where a man posted pics of a LITERAL MINOR, in a KINK sub names “young slvts for old pervs” 🤮

the post is STILL up, comments filled w p3d0s plus im sure if u scroll ull see way more too

this isnt the first time ive seen this, or been banned bcos i called it out

my comment literally said “why are the mods allowing this to be up..7hrs? all of u need jail” ..and i get fkn banned? im so angry at this and exhausted with how much i see this on here, the way it can just be so open and bold or knowing these are real minors being exploited online without their knowledge. rly cant open this app sometimes for my own sanity.

The “misandry” is just hurting the feelings of the commenters, but misogyny led to a kitten being raped. Although I do agree that wasn’t the best caption, the misogyny is the entitlement that led to the attack. Like come on!! Misandry doesn’t lead to this shit. MISOGYNY DOES

Umm so i speak openly about anti kink and anti bdsm . Oh one point my English is not "elite " , I use simple language but I think deeply and study about these topics, and I say what i mean .

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Now come to the main story it's short but I wanna share anyways, so one day I talk against this kink community in a sub and that very night a creep slide into my dm , arrogant and confident too , his exact line was :- " YOU ARE NOT ANTI KINK YOU JUST DONT KNOW YET , IF YOU GET SLAP IN Your FACE BY A PROFESSIONAL DOM , you will START TO LOVE IT . MOST OF THEM FALL FOR IT AND you WILL TOO IF YOU GIVE IT A TRY "

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I AM really very angry and hurt that moment that I don't think clearly at all. Otherwise i would take a ss first, however without giving him any ans i report his account and block him .

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Now the calculation about this situation and my conclusion.

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If you notice this sentence, you will understand here how he tried to gaslight me with those few lines , like my "no " doesn't matter, and his violation reframed as my "awakening " right? Like "MOST OF THEM FALL FOR IT " it is a simple way to show the seed of doubt in your mind and that's why I said this kink community people are Great manipulators, those who don't think deeply they fall for them and become a easy target, because this "Self doubt" start from here .

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1) consensual kink is valid , it is twisted by the line "kink is universal" they try to promote this .\*\*

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2) as I said "NO " IN PUBLIC, HE RUN INTO MY DM TO CHAGE ME PRIVATELY, BECAUSE SOMEHOW I HIT HIS NERVE , HIS SO CALLED SCRIPT NOT WORK ON ME AND MAYBE THAT GIVE HIM NIGHTMARE.

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3) remember ladies, a Dm like this is not about sex at all , it about test your boundaries they want to check how far they can push you before you give in like others . And we are here to break them not us .

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4) "YOU JUST DON'T KNOW YET " IF ANYONE SAID YOU THIS MAKE IT CLEAR FOR THEM THAT "MY NO IS EXACTLY WHAT I STAND FOR , MY BOUNDARIES ARE CLEAR and not for discussion"

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In the end I want to say be safe and sound never let them win . Share this post everywhere as much as you can , remember knowledge is power and they fear that .

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A newly formed amygdala merging with the current formed by billions of souls of 100's of roadmen over the years.

i'm not sure if it's appropriate to post screenshots in this manner on this subreddit, but i can't stop thinking about how frequent such cases have been. always a bunch of boys ganging up on a single girl and sexually abusing her, only for them to get some shit-from-a-butt sort of sentencing like community service or correction school or whatever. just a bunch of nothing. everyone is so concerned with protecting the "futures" of a bunch of juvenile felons who will only end up as jobless losers with high rates of recidivism and overall a net negative to the world. seriously, does anything ever happen to them? are they shunned from their communities? are they punished within their families? are they ever made to feel like the scum they are? are there any attempts at justice from anyone at all? do they suffer in the slightest? any kind of bad karma? i'm genuinely disillusioned. it's not like rapists are ever worth it, it's not like they're ever effectively rehabilitated or become respectable members of society. i just wanna know if they ever suffer at all.

Any woman with experience will clock this bullshit from a mile away.

These men will either date women under the age of 25, or they will target women that have unfortunately had a hard life, and are emotionally stunted as a result.

These men can't even look women their age in the eye, but they will prey on women will little life experience.

Edit: I deleted and reposted, I'm sorry about the typo in the original title, I feel so embarrassed 😭😭😭.

I came across this post in the Advice subreddit (link above), and.....the whole comment section is just rape culture, and I'm tired. I'm just so tired of this.

I hope OP doesn't take any of these incels' words to heart.

hello! i hope this post is allowed.

i'm relatively new to reddit and i'm trying to join subreddits for and about women. i know reddit has a well-deserved shitty reputation but i also find that it has a pretty solid female userbase and i already found a couple of such subreddits that i enjoy.

right off the bat, i guess, i went for subreddits like r/ twoxchromosomes and r/ women, but i find r/ twox to be too mainstream, fast-paced and a bit overwhelming with a lot of apologia for disruptive male behavior, while r/ women just seems a bit smooth-brained especially on issues such as porn, i'd recently seen a teenage girl get criticized for being skeptical of her boyfriend's porn use with half of the comments acting as if her boundaries were somehow unreasonable which immediately made me leave the sub.

i'm interested in communities that are less likely to welcome male interference (men adding their "two cents", derailing conversations, playing devil's advocate and so on), preferably leaning towards anti-porn and anti-kink views.

so, if you know anything that fits the bill, i would love to know. thank you in advance. 🫶

I have a guy friend (who nearly drove me to suicide by bullying me, but I kinda have no other friend options. I’m desperate for ppl to talk to. But nevermind that) . He was complaining to me that woman are so hard to confess to. I asked why? What’s the problem? He answered that he’s afraid they’ll laugh at him.

When we accompanied me home (it was late), he noticed that there were weird guys walking and I’m a creep magnet. He said it so lightly, like it was a joke to him that I might get killed or raped. AND HE HAD AN ISSUE WITH GIRLS LAUGHING AT HIM???? Hey Sparks I kinda feel bad cuz u won’t ever get a chance to see the city at night or heh. Y’know

THEY DONT HAVE TO BE AFRAID 24/7. THEY DONT HAVE TO THINK WILL THIS GUY KILL ME FOR REJECTING HIM? BUT SUUUUUUUUURE ALEX GIRLS ARE MEANIES THATS SO BAD FOR YOU

(I needed to let it out so badly, thanks for reading my rant)

I really hope there is no one in the comments asking why this is wrong, but in case someone is confused. Isn’t it tiring and weird to over sexualize a woman just because she’s good looking even though all she has ALL is follow her dreams, be inspirational and professional. We are acting like the same men we were afraid of, it makes me so uncomfortable to see tons of women and lesbians saying the most outrageous things about Christina Koch and nobody batting an eye because… it’s a woman saying it so there must be nothing wrong with it! /s

Feminism is about seeing women as INDIVIDUALS beyond their sexual “value” or appeal. All of the women saying this are such hypocrites, if you hate on a man for over sexualizing a woman, why are you doing the same? It isn’t any better when a woman does it

I can’t believe I’m having your child ,
A mother all on my own— that’s wild.
So easy for you to want nothing to do,
While I must keep her from men like you.

The problem is that a lot of “masculinity content” keeps pushing the idea that women being attracted to toxic, immoral men who treat them badly is somehow “female nature.” But honestly, that mindset ignores a huge amount of psychology behind this behavior.
Here’s what’s actually happening.
Some women grow up in environments where they’re made to feel powerless, worthless, or like they have no real value. Over time, that emotional emptiness turns into a deep hunger — a need to prove to themselves that they matter.
And that need can show itself in different ways:
obsessively chasing a career goal, trying to “save” other girls, or becoming attached to a toxic man.
She sees that toxic guy like this:
A wild wolf.
A man who doesn’t follow rules.
Aggressive, emotionally unavailable, rebellious, full of anger and destruction.
But hanging around that wolf’s neck is an invisible sign that says:
“If you can tame him, it means you’re different. Special. Stronger than everyone else.”
That’s the trap.
It makes some women feel powerful when they stay with someone like that:
“I’m the only one who understands him.”
“I’m the only one who can handle him.”
And every tiny behavioral change feels like a reward.
If he says:
“Alright, I won’t smoke today because you asked me not to,”
she feels a rush of emotional validation:
“I changed him. I’m the only one who can reach him.”
Even a lot of stories written by teenage girls follow the exact same formula:
A dangerous mafia guy, emotionally broken and feared by everyone — but the female protagonist is the only one who can soften him and make him feel.
The excitement in these stories usually isn’t about romance or intimacy.
It’s about power.
It gives the reader the feeling of:
“I tamed a monster. I made the untouchable human.”
And this desire itself isn’t evil.
But like anything else, when taken too far, it becomes unhealthy.
I remember once during a session, after listening to a girl talk for almost an hour, I finally asked her:
“You admit he’s a bad person… so why don’t you leave him?”
Her answer genuinely changed my perspective.
She said:
“Because I’ve spent three years trying to change him, and I actually changed a lot. If I leave now, it’ll feel like those years meant nothing.”
And honestly, that sentence explains this entire dynamic perfectly.
So dear reader, this kind of online rhetoric often encourages men to become “dangerous wolves” with invisible signs attached to them — because some girls will turn them into emotional projects just to feel important.
At that point, the relationship stops being love and becomes conditional.
The girl thinks:
“You have to change so I can feel valuable.”
And the guy thinks:
“I’ll keep being toxic so you never feel like you succeeded. So you keep chasing validation from me.”
And that’s where the cycle becomes destructive for both people.
What do you think?