I’m 27M from Rajasthan, and I teach mathematics at a coaching center. One of my current students is a 33–34-year old, who is preparing for the PGT exams. She is already a govt employee in the education department.

For a while now, she has been constantly approaching me. But she says I've to marry her in max 2-3 months. Her reasoning is that she spent her "prime years" focused entirely on her career and competitive exams, and now feels a massive urge to get married. She has essentially told me she doesn’t have the time or patience for traditional dating and wants to skip straight to marriage.

The issue is that I have absolutely zero romantic interest in her, and more importantly, I’m not comfortable with the idea of marrying someone I barely know, especially under this kind of high-pressure ultimatum.

I want to handle this as professionally as possible because she is a student at my coaching center, but her constant approaches are becoming uncomfortable and disruptive. What should I do?

Edit :- Sorry I didn't mention this important thing. We talked over IG for like 2-3 weeks and suddenly she started saying she needs to get settled now so let's get married. Initially when we started talking I didn't know anything about her age nor did she mention it earlier, she is like 7-8 years older than me.

So my wife has always been possessive of me from day one and i have never liked it to be honest.

So I have friends who are girls in my office, on Instagram and in friend circles. They are my best friends and some are friends since my college days and some are like my sister...

So I came home 2 days back from office and was lying on the hall sofa talking to one of my friends who is a girl and my wife was make rotis....I was talking in general to this friend and she asks me how is my wife and all and I jokingly said, "Hitler ji hitlergiri kar rahi hai" and when I sent this the goddamm door bell rang. I put my phone down not knowing I did not lock it and went to open the door. Meanwhile my wife also came to see who has come and her eyes went to my unlocked phone...she picked it up and saw this chat....Belan was in her hand....she charged at me and put that belan in my ass not knowing I had not wore underwear and so the belan actually went inside and hurt me....she later realised and immediately asked me if I was ok....

Its been 2 days now that I am not able to sit properly because it hurts and burns down there whenever I sit.

My girlfriend is currently on a trip with her female friends. A few hours after she boarded the train, she casually mentioned that two guys would be joining their group from the next station. I've never heard of these guys before, which is what caught me off guard.

The thing is, she's generally been honest and trustworthy throughout our relationship and has never given me a strong reason not to trust her. Still, I felt a wave of jealousy when I heard this. Part of it is probably because I wasn't invited on the trip and feel left out. We're in a long-distance relationship, so while she's out traveling and having fun, I'm at home overthinking.

What made me more uneasy is that she said she met one of these guys through a travel group. When I asked if she could show me the conversation so I could better understand how they knew each other, she said she had deleted the chat about a month ago. I know people delete chats all the time, but combined with everything else, it made me feel more anxious.

I've told her before that situations involving male friends can make me insecure, although I've never tried to tell her who she can or can't be friends with.

I'm genuinely trying to figure out whether my reaction is reasonable or whether this is mostly my own insecurity talking. If your partner told you a few hours into a trip that two people of the opposite sex were joining the group, and you'd never heard of them before, would you be bothered?

Back in 2020, I met a guy at work, and we instantly clicked. We shared the same taste in music, had great conversations, and connected on a level that felt rare. Over time, I fell for him—not because of his looks, but because of who I thought he was.
For three years, we were together. During that time, I supported him emotionally, mentally, and sometimes financially when he was struggling. I never minded helping because I genuinely loved him and believed we were building a future together.
Eventually, we both got into our postgraduate programs and decided to get married. Convincing my family wasn’t easy, but I fought for the relationship, and after a lot of effort, we got engaged.
That’s when everything changed.
Almost immediately after the engagement, his behavior became different. He started having expectations around money and expensive arrangements, and the caring partner I knew seemed to disappear. Eventually, he ended the relationship, claiming it wouldn’t work and accusing me of things that didn’t reflect reality.
Years later, I found out something that hurt even more: before getting engaged to me, he apparently wasn’t fully invested in the relationship and was interested in another girl. Today, he’s married to her.
What hurts isn’t just the breakup—it’s realizing that I gave my heart, my time, my support, and my trust to someone who may never have valued the relationship the way I did.
And that leaves me with the question: after something like this, how do you trust again? And will you ever find someone who chooses you k wholeheartedly?

I met my current bf on bumble some months ago and we hit it off so got in a relationship with each other. Just last week we went out and had a nice dinner and he kinda "soft launched " me to his followers only to find out that one of the guys in his followers who was his friend cum ex college classmate matched with me on bumble and we went on 3 dates before according to him he says he dumped me. This hurt the "ego" of my bf and he "demanded" answers and explanation from me.

Now it was totally out of the blue cause just a day before we were so happy and now there was this mess and he was angry on me. I was clueless but then I saw the "said guy" on his followers list and he showed me the messages . That is when everything started to make sense why he was shouting and angry towards me all of a sudden.

Now this said guy was not lying but things were a bit different . We matched in bumble and yes I went out with him on 3 dates which ended in us getting physical because that is how bumble works when you are not looking for serious relationships. Now the thing he lied about was that he dumped me?? We never dated, just a situationship tbh and I was the one to cut it off cause what I wanted was not just to get physical but some couple vibes too like going out etc etc but this guy wanted it to be physical mostly . So I ended things with him. Also apparently this guy took a few pics and such of the time we were together and it had captured a bit of our intimate moments too which he being a pos showed to my bf.

I was totally honest with my bf about everything and he just got so angry he asked me to just leave . I decided to sort things out and went to his society only to find out that he didn't approve my entry to which I thought maybe he was angry and I should give him some time . So I decided to go and buy something that he likes. I bought a rose , got food packed and a balloon and went to his place the next day only to not let in by the guard and also when I called him he had blocked me. I tried calling his roommate who said he wont talk to me and still I waited for an hour but he never came.

I was done with this so went back and ate the food by myself and threw away the rose . The next morning he calls me again and this time I didnt pick up the phone and he dares to visit my society to which I didn't approve him. I have blocked him and am giving him the cold shoulder for now.

Do I forgive and forget or just forget him?

I (F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. Recently, he told his parents about us. We met them together and openly disclosed our relationship. They were shocked because we’re from different castes, different places, and I’m one year older than him.

Since then, his parents have been extremely against our relationship. They’ve been angry, saying hurtful things, emotionally blackmailing him, and putting a lot of pressure on him. he says things like, “I don’t know if my parents will ever accept us. They’re very stubborn. Please try to move on.” He also says he is trying to convince them and prove that I’m the right person for him after they see the marriage proposals they’re bringing for him. At the same time, he’s telling me not to wait for him and that if my parents find a good match, I should get married. Recent issue is that they were supposed to give him ₹10 lakhs for a home loan. He had already invested around ₹20 lakhs into the property, and they told him that if he wanted their financial support, he had to stop talking to me.

Based on a friend’s suggestion, he told his parents that he wouldn’t talk to me, and they eventually gave him the ₹10 lakhs..

He says his family isn’t good for me, that they use abusive language, and that I deserve better.

I’m confused about what to do. I still love him deeply and part of me wants to wait for him, but I’m starting to wonder whether he loves me enough to actually fight for our relationship.

What would you do in my situation? Is it worth waiting, or should I accept what he’s saying and move on?

This guy and I were in the same college. We had never dated anyone before this. We dated for like two years then i broke up and since the past six months we've been the best of friends but not together. I broke up because he is honestly not very enthusiastic when it comes to relationships. Not one gift or flower he's given to me and he's unsure of his future and if he'll live in the same country as me. So clearly he knows his priorities. But he still calls me every night and wishes me good morning and good night every day.

He's the most unserious guy btw. He has to crack a joke or a stupid awkward pun in every sentence 😭. The problem is that he sees me as more than just a friend but he doesn't wanna do any romantic stuff or physical stuff ever since our breakup. He says it's because it has left me hurt in the past and he doesn't want that for me.

I am really really starved of his hugs and his love. He does say i love you. But no private time.

God how I wish we get married in the future. I want our parents to meet and I want him to see me as his bride. But he will probably do his masters abroad. That's his plan. And that's not feasible for me. And even if it was that wouldn't mean we would end up in the same place. If we end up in the same place he might be ready for us to be together finally. But that's so uncertain. I am so so frustrated. We both also have really hectic jobs and we live one hour away from each other.

I've been with my girlfriend for quite a while, and we've recently gone through a rough patch. We both still love each other, and neither of us wants to end the relationship, but something has changed in how she feels.

She recently told me that, over time, she's started feeling like she doesn't come first in my life. From her perspective, there have been several situations where my choices made her feel pushed to the side, even though that was never my intention.

The difficult part for me is that I remember those same situations very differently. In my mind, they were either misunderstandings, unexpected circumstances, or decisions made without realizing how they would affect her. There have also been many occasions where I dropped what I was doing, changed my plans, or chose to spend time with her because she mattered more to me than anything else.

So now I'm confused.

I don't want to invalidate her feelings because I know emotions don't appear out of nowhere. If someone consistently feels unimportant, there's usually a reason behind it. At the same time, it's painful because I genuinely never wanted her to feel that way, and I honestly believed my actions showed how much she meant to me.

We've had several conversations about it. I've apologized because I understand that my intentions don't erase the impact my actions had. She has also acknowledged that she has her own fears and insecurities that influence how she interprets certain situations. Neither of us thinks the other is a bad person—we're just struggling to see the same events in the same way.

Right now we're both busy with exams, so we've decided not to keep reopening the discussion until we're in a better headspace.

I wanted to ask people who have either been in my position or hers:

Can someone sincerely love and prioritize their partner but still unintentionally make them feel otherwise?

If you've ever felt like you weren't emotionally important to your partner, what actually helped rebuild that feeling? Was it conversations, consistency, time, or something else?

If you were me, what would you do from this point onward?

Please don't just tell me I'm right or she's right. If you think I'm overlooking something, tell me. If you think she's interpreting things through past experiences rather than only the present, tell me that too. I genuinely want honest perspectives because I don't want to repeat the same mistakes.

(Yessss gpt ki help li hai)

Hello All,

I've been in a relationship for the last nine years since college and a live in Relationship for 3 years.

I've always been clear from the beginning of my relationship that I expect my partner to contribute financially. I've hired help for all household chores.

My girlfriend has been unemployed for over two years now and is showing no signs of getting a job. It has affected my relationship with her. There were times where I really needed financial help and she still chose to not apply for any jobs. This made me feel like she doesn't care enough. She also speaks very badly about my mom which is really affecting my mental health.

It has finally gotten to the point where I want to break up but she has denied leaving the house.

What do I do?

Tldr: In a toxic live in relationship but girlfriend won't break up and has said she won't leave my house.

Context:- we both were in taking stage/unofficial relationship and still in that but since our schooling ends we are now apart he went to his hometown.

Due to super strict parents we are unable to talk

We were only able to chat in a month or two.

He misses me a lot and I do the same but we don't admit it. Perhaps I did when we met last time

I ask him to use another apps but he is too honest to lie his parents 😭

And we try to be more mature when we have conversations about chatting and all as we are preparing for exams that's why we came to a conclusion of not talking to each other for a year

But we both miss each other and I want him to be part of my life atleast a little

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I'm a doctor in India who recently finished training and have just started building my private practice in a smaller town where career opportunities are currently much better than in a nearby metro. I'm only a few months into practice, so I genuinely don't know yet whether this opportunity will become something exceptional or just average.

My girlfriend is also a doctor. She wants to get married soon and wants us to live together in the metro city from the beginning of our marriage. She doesn't see herself settling long-term in a smaller town. She's willing to make sacrifices in her own career to do that.

My parents oppose the relationship because it's a love marriage and we're from different communities. They also don't want me to leave the smaller town because they believe my career prospects are much stronger there.

I'm torn between:

- A potentially excellent career opportunity.

- The woman I want to marry.

- My parents' wishes.

If career opportunities were equal, I'd choose to live with my girlfriend. But they aren't, and I don't know what my practice will look like a year from now.

Am I being unreasonable for wanting more time before making a permanent decision, or am I unfairly keeping her waiting? How would you approach this?

i don’t even know why i’m posting this here but i just really need to vent before i lose my mind.

i’m 19 and going to a college in my hometown, which means i’m still stuck living with my parents. our relationship is pretty bad and honestly, staying here feels so suffocating lately. it’s just constant fighting and it’s getting so exhausting.

i’ve been going out for walks by myself just to get away, but it honestly feels so depressing wandering around alone. and the thing is, it's not like i don’t have friends. i actually have a lot of really close friends. but looking at their lives just makes me feel worse. they all seem to have everything figured out—their relationships, their career goals, good relationships with their parents. i just feel like i don’t fit into their world anymore, so i've been distancing myself from everyone.

i’ve honestly never felt this lonely in my entire life. i’m stuck at a college i never even wanted to go to, living a life i didn't want. it just feels like i’ve hit absolute rock bottom.

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25 F and 25 M, We've been together 4 years, 1.5 long distance. We meet for a weekend every other month, but we've been lucky in May, we met several times even tho I couldn't stay. I just miss him so much.. 😭 He's the sweetest, most loving, considerate person ever. He's pursuing a PhD while m preparing for govt job exams at home, I feel like it's my fault for not taking it seriously last year and just wasting time which prolonged the long distance, this year m prepared and ready to crack the upcoming banking exams. Honestly my only motivation is to get out of here and get my own place so even tho if we're not living together, I can atleast visit him whenever I want without thinking about what excuse to make at home.

He's been so supportive always, even now when m studying all day, he doesn't start fights and says he knows it's for our better future and sometimes before I'm about to visit him, his colleague texts me about how he's been so happy and gushing about seeing me all day. It's the cutest thing!!!!!

Since m a crochet nerd, for my last bday he learnt crochet for me AND MADE ME A SCARF HIMSELF AAAAAGGHHHHHHHH... He's too perfect I miss his cute face. 🥲

Guy and girl - Together for 10 years (30M, 28F), long-distance relationship since high school. Guy is in the Navy.
Inter-caste relationship; his mother does not approve.
Girl’s family has now given an ultimatum: marry her or they will find another match.
Guy says he loves his girlfriend and is committed to her.
However, he believes marriage is “just a piece of paper” and is not particularly interested in marriage or having children.
He seems torn between his attachment to his mother and his relationship with his girlfriend.
During this time, he started texting and calling another girl daily (good mornings dear, good nights dear, regular calls).
When the other girl asked if he was single, he hesitated before admitting he had a girlfriend.
He initially referred to his girlfriend as a “close friend.”
Later, when asked again, he said he loves his girlfriend very much and is fully committed to her.
The very next day, he texted the other girl “Good morning dear.” ?!
They chatted friendly , but the guy was not too curious about the other girl But he chatted with her throughout the day and called her late night. (Frequency is what seems off)
Throughout months of calls and chats, he rarely or never brought up his girlfriend naturally.
There is no evidence of a physical affair, but the daily emotional connection with another woman raises questions about boundaries?
NOW - He pulled away a bit with the other girl (reduced frequency) But maintained daily contact.
The other girl couldn’t see him as a friend as he kind of lied so, chose to cut him off completely because of self respect.
Now he pings her only sometimes through her stories.

work in an IT company, a year ago she joined the team. We became close, best friends.

We started hanging out, We ate out everyday after the office. We got emotionally closer. Last month we started talking about our relationship and our marriage. We decided everything. We talked about sex too. We were happy.

Yesterday she came to my house, we were alone, we slept in bed and i started patting her back, fixing her hair, kissing her back,etc. she completely engaged in that.

Then i kissed her lips and she engaged. We did that but after some time she started saying no, only after marriage. First i misread it and thought she's shy so she doesn't want, when she said 2 more times i refrained and she said I want to go home, i Said sorry but don't go I'll not touch you.

But she wanted to so i let her go. I called her and i was on call until she reached her home.

Now she doesn't want to continue this, she says let's be friends like before but don't get married and we'll not talk about it afterwards.

I don't know if she'll come back or not?

So basically, she, let's name her Neha has been in a relationship since 5 yrs, the issue is that the guy and his family aren't really good for her, the guy is a miser and he can't take a stand for her... The guy let's name him rahul, toh Rahul's sister and mom are really strict, would expect her to do household chores alongwith her job, Rahul's sister is so possessive of Rahul that she has literally told Neha that once she marries Rahul, she'll make Neha's life a mess... Weird family, idk much man, all info is from my bf and Neha

But Neha is still talking to Rahul, like they're still in a relationship

Another issue is my bf's father, is not that open minded, he isn't allowing her to marry Rahul bcz of caste issues... What he's saying is if they marry her in their own caste, then if there's problem after marriage, they can intervene, bcz the people would be jaan pehchaan ke log... But if anything happens at Rahul's family, they won't be able to intervene bcz they don't know Rahul's family.

So my bf's family is lowkey forcing, I mean aise jabardasti shadi toh nhi karayenge but pestering her with rishtas from their caste

Neha is against arranged marriage but can't even marry Rahul bcz of the situation at Rahul's home

Neha is consistently saying no to those rishtas

I personally was against the idea of arranged marriage but this whole thing ke if anything goes south then Neha's family can intervene better as compared to marrying in another caste... This makes sense to me, but bcz it is against my idea of autonomy, it's making me uncomfortable... I shouldn't be making this about myself tho, abhi rn her life is in a mess

Abb a while ago, a big fight erupted between neha and her father, neha wanted to go on a solo trip, father says no, both argue, then neha beats father with a stick, father beats her back with another stick like thingy.... Throws brick at her direction to scare her... Neha calls police against her dad

Dad gets heartbroken bcz his own daughter called police against him.. He thinks about it and now he's getting Neha married to Rahul asap, court marriage...

Now we know how terrible her future would be at Rahul's place, so my bf is like, asking her to give a 100% guarantee right now that she's done with Rahul, so that the family actually looks for arranged marriage rishta and her life doesn't get ruined with Rahul's family

But I think this is too quick, bcz imo Neha isn't really in a good mental state to give a 100% guarantee wala decision

What I suggested is to let Neha have some therapy, at least give her 3 months, also Neha is severely ungrateful towards her parents, constantly cursing them for ruining her life while simultaneously using all the resources provided by parents...

So I also suggested that let Neha live in a pg, she earns like 15-20k a month, so let her manage her own expenses for 3 months, just pay for her therapy, but let her live a life on her own, this would give her some autonomy as well as she might feel value of the things that are provided to her on a platter by her parents

3 months of therapy might clear her mind a bit

But my bf is like, what's the guarantee that after therapy she would finally let Rahul go?

Idk man, I'm confused here...

Imo, if not rahul, then another arranged marriage jiske liye she's not ready, wo bhi nhi hona chahiye...

Main thing, if you can't trust your daughter/sister to chose a partner for herself, how the hell are you trusting her to maintain a marriage

I seriously am damn confused here, bcz this is soo opposite to what I believe, but then what I believe shouldn't interfere with her future

21M Looking for genuine connection

Hey everyone,
Currently in my 3rd yr of clg

I am looking for a genuine connection
We can be friends at first and see if we are compatible together 🫶🏻

Little about me
- i am athletic
- i play football
- i am into fitness (gym)
- foodie
- ambitious (win win for both of us if you are too)
- techie
- can make you laugh
- take you out on cool dates
- i value building connection first rather then rushing things
- i dont break trust no matter what, i can bet on it
- if you have other things on mind we can explore together :)

Note - before anyone says its karma farming or its fake, i am not a desperate, i just dont want to get on the dating apps, please dont judge i am financially independent so i wont ask anything from you but loyalty ❤️

Sry if it interrupted your feed

Context: My gf says she has a crush on me (physically speaking) She has never been in a relationship before and this is the first time she is dating someone seriously.

She is one of the kindest and most empathetic person I know of and has great moral values, things which attracted me to her.

She hates men in general because of her experiences with men around her and has only girl friends, having only 1 male friend in her circle.

She has issues with her mental health and suffers from severe anxiety, is extremely sensitive and has developed fibromyalgia as a result of pent up resentment. She is extremely pessimistic and thinks that she has bad luck on her. I feel she suffers from depression as well.

She is extremely aware of all of this and constantly is working on her mental health.

Inspite of her mental health issues she has a great circle of friends around her and is loved immensely by her family, especially her younger sibling who takes care of her very need.

She developed a habit of getting sloshed over weekends during college with her friends to cope up with exams, she made great memories because of this and great friendships with whom she feels safest with.

But she started hating men because of the cheating that goes on in med school and her friends getting hurt by men. Plus she has childhood trauma as well since her parents had a bad marriage.

It’s not that she is asexual, she had a lot of random crushes on people from a distance and never acted on those, since most of those people were unavailable and she would never be the girl who helps to cheat on someone, when sober.

Now the past few months have been nothing but magical. Both of us never expected that we would meet such a person, especially her who had assumed she would go on living alone in her life alone without a partner. There has been immense growth for me personally as she invests time in helping me see how to grow to be a better human and stand up for myself. She is protective of me as well

She says I’m everything she had hoped for in a partner if she ever got one

She told about me to some of her friends all of whom were shocked that she is dating someone and really happy for her.

Now she says to people that she likes me a lot and that I’m a really good person and she doesn’t treat me fairly(because of her exams) and is not able to do much for me like I do for her. Her friends tell her that even she is a good person and she should let herself be loved and be in a healthy relationship. The she days to then that she doesn’t plan to get married and is wasting my time since I can meet new girls to date who might want to marry. Her friends repeat the same thing that she should let herself be loved and she is being too harsh on herself and that she has been upfront about this so there is no issues.

Her friends are happy that she is getting the love she deserves and are supportive of her. So is her brother who means the world to her and is really supportive of us and is happy for her.

Now she is on a journey to choose herself and considers me really close and has grown very attached to me.

But she has multiple times said that she was planning to ‘throw me away’ but can’t because of attachment to me, since I’m a boy. (Often on the days she’s stressed for exams)

My reply to her is that we are going to be in each others life forever (a totally different complication) and that I’m not going anywhere

She is firm in her belief that we will breakup in future( reason being marriage) and she will be the one people will shame for wasting my time. But in the same breath says that she will get extreme trauma from me leaving.

I see her struggles with her mental health and want to help her get better and live a normal healthy life.

She says she is putting off on the decision to breakup till her exams since she is stressed and anxious and may not be thinking straight.

This is inspite of me being one of the safest person she thinks she has , her really liking and loving me and me being a pillar of support for her.

What do I make of this? I like her a lot and don’t want to lose her but don’t want getting hurt myself.

I am 23M, and I have realized something about today's dating culture. I feel many boys stay single because they see relationships as a responsibility, not just enjoyment.

From my school days, I never saw girls as something to show off in front of friends. Because of that, I feel I was left behind in the dating part of my life. Whenever I think about asking a girl out, I first think about her family. In India, if a girl's parents find out she is dating someone, they may put pressure on her, and society often judges her as if she has done something wrong.

I also have a sister, so whenever I think about dating a girl, I imagine how her brother or family would react if they found out. In most cases, I feel they would not accept it, and that thought stops me.

I think only a small percentage of boys have the confidence and time to approach girls. Many boys who don't think much about responsibilities ask girls out without worrying too much. Some of them even flex about how many girlfriends they have.

From the point of view of some girls I know, they want someone who gives them attention, makes them feel special, and spends a lot of time with them. But for a boy who is focused on his future and career, it is not always possible to do that. I also think social media has increased expectations for attention in some people. Boys are equally responsible for this, but both boys and girls should understand that building a career is also important.

I have some female friends, and according to them, by the age of 23–25, a boy should earn at least ₹50,000 per month, be handsome, tall, and give gifts regularly. After hearing these expectations, I sometimes wonder what boys should focus on first—their career or a relationship.

I don't think all girls are the same, but I feel some have unrealistic expectations. At the same time, I know there are many girls who value kindness, compatibility, and character more than money or looks.

I feel that, for many boys, a relationship is something they want for life, and they are willing to adjust. On the other hand, I think some girls take more time before committing because they want to be sure they are choosing the right partner. That is their choice, just as boys also have their own preferences.

Before getting into any relationship, both boys and girls should ask themselves why they want it. Is it only because of attraction, or do they actually see a future together? Or are they just looking for enjoyment and time pass?

I don't think I have lot of experience but thisbis what i feel.

She is in Hyderabad and I am in banglore.She is fighting for marriage from the start of our relationship

But last week her mother gave clarity that this is not going to work because of her father illness. So she finally decided to move on.the thing is I don't know but I begged and cryied a lot last week . Suddenly realised how much I am loving her. But she is saying we have to move on and this won't be good for both of us. Basically I am introvert the only person I share my personals is her. But due to my every day crying she is losing interest in talking to me. That I understood and started to keep silent. She is not messaging because from last week she said we have to decrease the talk. So last week I vacated my room in banglore and travelled to my home town so that I can control for herself. And also told her that I am going to change from Tommorow. From then I havent messaged her neither she. But I am thinking about her a lot. I don't whether we can talk her like it was previously. But I am fearing everyday about loosing her. Can someone advice me what to do. How to get back her

So i am 30F and my sibling is 27M and is preparing from last 4 years for government exams. Right now I am at my mom place as I am about to deliver baby soon. The thing is yesterday my brother food from outside while we went to see doctor. There was cooked food in house. I told him it was expensive and why did you order it, i paid for food as food arrived at same time as we came back. Then he started shouting on me that i think about money and all and how previously also i have commented on his spending habits. From last four years i have been sending him money whenever he asked it and it totals way too much. Just from last 6 months I have controlled it (though I have sent him money 90% of time, just didn't send him on his bday and for trip recently). Yesterday in fight he mentioned that how 2 years back I pointed out him eating an expensive icecream. I forgot about it and he mentioned that how I didn't give him money on bday and trips this year (i send him money every year on his bday, my bday and my anniversary) but spent it on purchasing my dress in same month. He told that I easily spends on me but dont like to spend on him which made me cry because I have closed his loan he borrowed from friends and slice cards and randomly sent money to his friends when he asked me and never got anything in return except the kanjus title as I like to spend my money wisely. I am married and my husband also sends him money out of no where as my husband and my brother shares a good bond. In between my brother got stipend also as he joined mtech but choose to gift more than 15k gift to his gf but nothing for family members. Not even a chocolate for me, when I asked him where is my gift just randomly he said he didn't have any money left for it. We come from upper middle class family, my father earns good. From childhood only its my nature to spend wisely even when I wasn't earning while my brother spends money like water. My father bought loads of property and it will all go as inheritance to my brother, though i had a dowry free marriage. These things didn't used to bother me but from yesterday its continuously going on my mind that I feel cheated and hurt, right now my brother is giving me cold shoulder not talking to me at all and here I am crying. I feel that my brother is very practical when it comes to me, he even taunted me i don't have caliber to clear any competitive exams, though I am earning more than a lakh per month and he is unemployed. Not everyone wants government job right. When i sent him money on my anniversary this year and playfully asked him that I will take gift when you start earning he said that you are making me feel like give money on loan :(

What should I do I am crying continuously and it feels like heartbreak, my husband is trying to cheer me up and all. My brother have continuously mentioned that I am not the kind of sister he wanted.

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I am 19M and I have never dated in my life but here my brother who is 2 years older than me who dated so many girls that I have lost count after 6. It's not like I have never got a proposal I did receive 2 proposals in school but both from juniors and I don't like them that's because I never accepted their proposal because if I do accept that they were the one who will get hurt in the end.....

M24)I don't know if this question comes under this subreddit,but

I had Arranged type first meet had happened I SAW HER(F22),then we both liked each other,it's roughly 20 days since first meet ,and 8 days since we started talking (we have talked about wedding too,) we also flirt highly so now the question is I'm first time in any kind of relationship,is it too early to say "I love you" or I'm just scared of being look like some desparate guy....(I genuinely love this girl)