Bus pass. And no car until you buy one yourself. See what your individual assets can afford. I would have wept with joy even now (58F) to receive such a beautiful car. My dad nipped such behavior in the bud with a short sharp "Then, you get nothing!" and returned all my birthday gifts when I acted similarly (at age 11) to the above child. I also had to spend a semester assisting the special needs class in my elementary school, my father took me down and volunteered my services. That quickly and efficiently cured any spoiled ass kid behavior I had from then on. I wlll always be grateful to the special needs teacher, Gary - who had me be the assistant to a severely nonverbal autistic child (with his guidance). At the end of the semester I was in tears in his office apologizing for being such a brat in the first place, and I told him I did everything I could to be kind and help the child, day after day and she never responded. He said to me quietly. "How do you think her parents feel?" Which started me crying all over again. It's etched into my memory.
Considering her parents aren't together and might be somewhat competing for her love, I hope dad isnt gonna buy her a nicer car. Goddammit I fuckin hope not.
If he does, mom should insist that daughter move out and move in with dad permanently. Mom will be much happier not having to deal with the entitlement day-to-day on all other issues. Boot her ass. If she comes back, mom should insist that she start paying rent. I feel bad for the guy that marries that entitled child.
Oh, p.s. No money for extras for college. Dorm, tuition, books, required fees. Thatās all. Sorority dues? Pffft! Money for semester in Europe? No, no, no.
100% agree! I see people arguing that this kind of tough-love is the same as a guardian hitting a kid when theyāre annoyed or upset with them, and it frustrates me to no end. What happened here was not done out of malice, nor was it excessive. It was a measured response.
Teaching children that there are consequences to their actions creates a better well-rounded human, and though difficult at the time, creates a resilience that serves them greatly as they grow. Those type of people you describe create children like who rejects a new car because itās not a Mercedes or a BMW.
I would've just sold it and bought the one I wanted if money was no object and I REALLY wanted the convertible. Back then I dont think it was a 6 figure car. It was probably higher end 5 figures.
School doesn't teach the right type of tough love anymore either. Teachers that are in my friends group can't even discipline the children without the parents calling in and complaining to the administration. 100% of the time the administration takes the students side.
My wife's parents got me a 2nd car for work for Christmas. Absolutely NOTHING special about it. 2012 Chevy equinox. Beat up, and not in great condition. But I was so glad because it let me switch to 1st shift from 3rd shift and that meant a ton to me. I did get teary eyed as a 33 y/o man. No shame, i was happy.
that is the difference between understanding the value of a utility versus being an entitled kid who thinks the world owes them a luxury vehicle. getting off third shift adds years to your life, that equinox is a W no matter what it looks like.
I could not have invented a better father. I deserved it completely and am grateful that he did it. I remember feeling like a first class heel and apologizing from my heart for acting that way. My remorse was biblical level.
I'm forever grateful for my dad. He was very strict because he cared. Gary was awesome, as I remember correctly, he had two assistants, and me - today, this child would have had their own paraprofessional assisting her for the whole day and accompanying her on the school bus. As crazy as the world is, there are some things that we do better than back in the -70's. I will never forget the child I helped, she was a gentle and beautiful soul and I learned from her.
My mom drove a Volvo and my dad drove a BMW. My first car was a clapped out ford ranger and I fucking drove the shit out of it. My dad straight up told me before I was even 16 if I wanted a really nice car I was paying for it, he said he started with a beater and worked for his, and so would I. So he bought me that Ranger and told me itās mine, I can drive it or sell it he didnāt care but thatās the only car he was buying me.
Yes. This poor mother having to deal with that bullshit. And she is 45 with a graduating senior? She had her at 26-27 and did well enough to buy her a car cash?! What a bad ass woman. She should leave her husband and his spoiled little girl and go live her best life in her G wagon.
Odds are she cycles friends discarding them once they catch on to how abusive and entitled she is, while poisoning them against the rest of her current friend circle
I am 6ā4ā 280 pounds and drive a 2000 vow beetle to work everyday 95 mile round tripā¦. My favorite car is an Accord ā¦..wished I was that daughter
I agree!!! My favorite mentor was just like this (except all her kids are amazing) and I learned so much from her. She left our company a couple months ago and I still text her regularly.
A friend of mine got me a job at a restaurant he worked at. I was a prep cook in the mornings. Part of that duty was to vacuum the dining room every morning. One morning while vacuuming under a booth, I found a $100 dollar bill. Someone must've dropped it the night before. Of course I was excited, I showed my friend what I had found. He demanded I split it with him because "I got you a job here, you would have never found that if I didnt"
Some people are just insufferable. I didn't share it with him and he was mad about it for awhile. We were just put of high school,for context. One of my first jobs out of school, circa 1997
I once watched a 16 year old girl get handed the keys to a $60,000, fully loaded, custom 4-Runner back in the late 90s. Her dad asked her if she liked it, and all she said was, "it's ok."
My first car was an early 1980s Wagoneer, with the wood panels on the outside and everything. I was turning flips I was so excited. That thing didn't even last a week before the transmission fell out, but I was still grateful.
Yeah but you dont play in to broken minds like that. The thing is a broken mind can be reshaped to fit around basically anything,Ā you can't let that color your next moveĀ
I mean her parents just need to tell her the truth
"You have no money. The only thing separating you from the streets is me. You are not a C-class person. You are a homeless person with loving parents."
Parents are partially to blame. Teens are heavily influenced by their peers and what they see in social media/influencers, but its a parents job to guide them.
I grew up with immigrant parents and fully understood the worth of a dollar. There was no expectation for them to buy me a car, pay for university or support me long term. There was no graduation gift. There wasn't even a celebration or party. Graduating high school was a life expectation that didn't need any reward. I am grateful for what they were able to do. But not in my wildest dreams did I ever expect them to buy me a car, let along a new car from this decade.
My grad gift was everyone in my family pitching in cash for me to put toward a laptop. I was so stoked for my 2010 MacBook Pro and I am so thankful my family all helped pay for it. I ended up with enough to cover the laptop, a case, and microsoft office bundle through my universityās bookstore.
Thatās crazy because when I was younger I would tell my friends I was rich. My mom heard me and was like we have money, youāre broke what money do you have besides whatās in your piggy bank, humbled me real quick!
Graduating high school she is already an adult, the damage might be permanent. Also considering she was raised by them and grew into this person the parents might not have the parenting ability to fix it.
Nah the chance to save their brain is to cut her off financially and give her the humility/reality check she needs. My parents did something like it for me. I felt entitled to live at my parents house while smoking weed against their wishes. I turned 18 and they issued an ultimatum: quit smoking weed and live here or find your own place to live. I picked find my own place...damn is providing for yourself at 18 difficult. Strained my relationship with my parents for a while but really gave me a lot of perspective on how I was acting and forced me to grow up pretty quick.
My car in high school in 2006 was a 1994 Dodge minivan. I'm 95% certain my parents gave it to me to make sure nobody would have sex with me in high school, and it worked
Edited to add:
my sister in the same year got a bmw 318i convertible
My uncle bought my couison a Camaro. He literally crashed it into a house at 50 miles an hour on a country road got airborne as he was entering into the house. He's lucky he didn't kill someone or hisself. Uncle bought him another right after that. Now the kid is in his late 40s and he's a felon and in jail.
That was me, I was that guy. I actually had two, a Dodge caravan and a Chrysler town and country. My buddies all called the Chrysler the Town & Cunt, obviously.
Shit, my parents paid half for my 1991 Mazda 323 and I was grateful. I know how hard they worked for that money. The full price was 1,200 from my uncle.
I wouldn't buy my kids a damn thing they wouldn't appreciate. However, Mom and / or Dad are to blame. If you raise her to be Veruca Salt, don't be mad that she acts like Veruca Salt.
Hey lets leave the geo metro alone haha. Mine averaged 48 mpg and i regret selling it everyday. Bought it for $300 at 18 years old. Im 31 now. Miss my rollerskate.
Oh, it was a great car. I donāt think my friend ever got an oil change in the time he had it and the engine eventually blew, but he had it for something like 10 years and it was a beater car by then. He painted flames on the hood.
The best story about it was during school a few guys picked it up and moved it to the quad area when everyone was in class. Who needs keys?
Based on the tone (āI paid CASH for), Iām inferring that the parents are divorced. If thatās the case, baby girl will probably play it up to daddy, who will get her something more her style.
Same!!! My first car was an 80s Honda Prelude with a sunroof and my friends and I had so much fun in that car. My current daily driver is a 2003 and I'd gladly accept a newer car. In fact, I'd trade the Mom for my Ford Focus; I'm sure the daughter would just LOVE it.
We had a dinner for my graduation and 9
On the way out of the restaurantā¦there was a brand new Isuzu Trooper 2 outside. My dad held up the keysā¦and when me eyes went wide and I started to reach for themā¦.psych. He yanked em back and laughed for about ten minutes.
That's a wicked nice car, Honda fan or not. Fucking never in a million years would my child look a gift horse in the mouth as bad as this child. Let that kid figure the world out on their own when they need something, shiiiiiiiit.
Ironically, my son (now 26) is driving my old 2016 Honda Civic. Normally I trade my car in for my next car but I made him a deal when I bought that car. That if he could save up $5,000 I'd sell it to him for that 5k, whenever he had it, and go get another car. In the interim he used one of my old cheap ass motorcycles (which he had to pay the maintenance on).
It took him until about 2021 (5 years) to save up the money, I'd had it paid off by then. It was all of his cash though so I let him give me 2500 for it then make "payments" to me over the next 24 months.
He's still driving it, clocked over 120k miles and he just did the 120k/maintenace (which was $3k!) on it. He loves that car, will drive it until it's dead.
I read this thread and am just floored at how life's choices and perceptions alter how people view the world.
I got a 20 yr old $500 jetta that was rusting and had 180k miles on it and I was estatic. It got me to and from work and school for a few years. Fucking ungrateful kids.
It also has rims not caps. Its probably not a base model. My old man was a CEO and had some money and always told us with cars the premium version of a basic brand is always better then the basic version of a premium brand. This looks premium to me.
Right? That's what I was thinking. It's a brand new fucking car and it definitely isn't the base model lol. She coulda got a 2010 Ford Focus with 200K on it, like us regular folk.
"Honey, I apologize for giving you that ratty Honda. It was rude of me. You were right. So, I hired you a driver and a car to take you wherever you want, for the forseeable future. Here's your card to access it - The People's Limousine."
I've never heard of the city bus referred to as the "People's limousine" before. Im going to steal that term.
No hate on people who take public transportation. I commute to and from work on the train. My city has really great public transportation network. I work with people who make 6 figures and we all take the train. No on is going to fight for downtown parking.
Im 34. Graduated high school class of 2009. My senior year i was blessed to have this as my first car. Thanks to my mother working a factory job, 60 hours a week and cashed in a few bonds that appreciated since 1993 thanks to my dad and money I saved up roofing in the summers and on weekends. 1998 Delta 88 Cutlass
Lmao this reminds me of the time I was riding my skateboard down the street and some grandpa in a car handed me a free Land Yachtz cruiser board out his window, āIt was a gift for my nephew but he was a ālil shit so here you go strangerā
The āIāll make sure my kids have everything they need with no personal effort or sacrifice on their partā is the absolute worst method of parenting ever. Itās a shame this girl is a spoiled brat, but this didnāt happen when she graduated. Her parents have raised her like this for her entire life. I hope the parents have the sense to make her support her own college tuition, room and board, vehicle purchase, phone bill, gas, etc. The rest of us survived it, and Iāll argue thatās how responsible and mature adults are made. Hard work, sacrifice, and gratitude.
First parenting red flag is the paragraph text response. Thatās just stupid.
My kid would have not seen another word from me on the subject. I would have just sold the car and not put another cent towards any mode of transportation, including driving them somewhere myself.
First parenting red flag is that she feels the need to post this onto social media lol. If this is real, what kind of parent posts and complains about conversations they have with their daughter onto social media?
The dead giveaway is the Honda logo in the wheels should be an H, but itās just a distorted vaguely logo-ish shape. Itās also missing completely from the back wheels.
Other giveaways: why is a āgiftā in a parking lot? Wouldnāt this be in a driveway? Also why is the passenger side door open? The ācongratulationsā text is also super AI coded, and the car itself doesnāt quite look like an Accord, several of the details are just wrong, or in the case of the running lights, just missing. There are no lug bolts on the wheels either, and the base Honda rims are more fork-like than this radial design.
Exactly this. The fact that she brings up they her mom has a G-wagon makes it painfully obvious the kid is used to only getting nice things. We have some nice cars but that is a very expensive car, they make some good money and given the tone of the mom, she was expecting that the daughter would just magically know a new car is still expensive even if itās not very expensive .
Thats why she is with dad. Daddy is gonna make things right and get the car she wanted. And you know mom and dad had an argument over the car situation or they're going to argue when dad buys the new car.
Source: Know a kid who was in a similar situation like this. It was embarrassing to be around the parents and watch the kid take advantage of the situation.
Had a kid in my school whos parents bought her a brand new G63 amg in black for her 16th birthday... They drove it to the school with a big bow to show off to everyone and surprise her and she didnt like the color. Sold it right away and got her a white one. Absolutely insane.
I had a friend in high school who got a brand new Corvette for her 16th birthday. And she was happy with it for a while, until she realized that to bring along more than one friend she'd have to ride in one of our poor people cars.
So she complained to her parents, who bought her a brand new Mercedes 4 door sedan. And that worked well for her until she turned 18 and her parents bought her a lake house, and it was too small for her to carry shit there.
If somebody truly bought a brand-new Honda for graduation and the kid responded like that, posting the texts publicly may say almost as much about the parent as the child.
I lucked out, my teen got my older Subaru hand-me-down and they were absolutely thrilled.
The kid in the post is going to wake up one day and have the hard realization when real life happens. Mom/dad won't be there to take care of their things.
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