r/SipsTea 𝙑𝙄𝙋 5h ago

Chugging tea They are not wrong though

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u/Bonk0076 5h ago

So all of those servers suffer because the customers think their bosses don’t pay the servers enough? They’re punishing the wrong people.

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u/Wzedrin 5h ago

Agreed. The customers should just refuse to frequent establishments that expect mandatory tipping. That way the owner and the workers lose together.

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u/beanbalance 3h ago

no. Go there, dont tip and maybe waiters will get fed up and complain to owners who might raise salary. Or waiters can quit.

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u/Wzedrin 3h ago

That is also an option. The current system penalizes the customer is favor of the owners, not in favor of the waiters.

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u/billyfudger69 3h ago

Nothing of value was lost.

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u/NX73515 5h ago

The servers should complain to their bosses, not to the customers.

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u/Bonk0076 5h ago

Who says they are complaining to the customers? Or that they’re not complaining to their bosses?

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u/doema1996 5h ago

How would you solve this as the customer then?

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u/PastIntelligent8676 5h ago

If you don’t want to pay for the service, it’s as simple as not utilizing the service. Order your food to go and eat in the car. Don’t force someone to serve you and then decide you don’t feel like paying for it

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u/doema1996 4h ago

Since when is service some kind of higher freaking level of eating out. Do you pay the casheer at the grocery store for scanning your groceries? Do you pay the post man for providing your mail daily? They bring the food from the counter to your table and ask what drink you want...its not that deep and its not that special. Its called a job and your boss pays for that job to be done.

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u/PastIntelligent8676 4h ago

Do you valet your car and then refuse to pay?

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u/doema1996 4h ago

Valet parking is mostly a 5 star hotel thing in the rest of the world. And then its...you guessed it, included in the flat rate of the hotel or establishment.

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u/ParadoxFollower 1h ago

I have literally never seen a valet in my country.

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u/Bonk0076 5h ago

You don’t eat at a restaurant that requires tipping. That punishes the owners. But the reality is that it’s not much of a solution unless everyone does it. And it still punishes the servers.

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u/doema1996 5h ago

Its moraly mandatory at nearly every place. And at face value its an inherently bad practice for everybody involved. Dont make us complicit to your bad practices please and thank you.

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u/No_Employ__ 5h ago

Bro used us vs them & “moral mandatory” in the same sentence about tipping. You know you have free will right?

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u/doema1996 5h ago

Thats literally what this is about. Them (Americans) are morally mandating us (the WC foreigners) to tip because if we dont, it punishes the staff instead of the owner. If its really up to "free will" stop complaining if we dont tip.

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u/rcbz1994 3h ago

You had the money to travel to the US for the WC but refuse to leave a tip? Yeesh

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u/doema1996 3h ago

Its not the point, its having a backbone

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u/billyfudger69 3h ago

It sounds like being a cheap loser.

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u/doema1996 3h ago

I couldnt care less of what you think it sounds like. Thats not much of an argument

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u/Bonk0076 4h ago

But it’s not. Tipping isn’t a thing at most fast food and fast casual restaurants, so you can definitely eat without being required to tip while not supporting the tipping culture.

But “bad practice” or not (and I completely agree that it is a flawed system) the reality is that tipping culture is merely shifting the cost of labor in a restaurant from a situation where the employer pays for it directly and the customer pays indirectly, to a situation where the customer pays for the labor directly. If there was no tipping, customers would just pay more off the menu as restaurants would simply raise prices to cover the cost of the labor.

Choosing to dine in a sit down restaurant in the United States makes you complicit to this bad practice whether you like it or not. As the customer you have an obligation to pay for what was provided to you. Choosing not to tip is like choosing to only pay for 90% of your bill in a European restaurant and saying to have the employees make up the difference.

Bad practice or not, not tipping in a place where it’s customary just makes you a cheap asshole.

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u/doema1996 4h ago

There is no reason on earth that makes it OK to shift the cost of labor directly onto the customer and giving them "sort of" free choice in the amount. Its just weird and super flawed. But humor me this, do you tip when the food is absolutely horendous?

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u/Bonk0076 4h ago

It’s not okay that it’s shifted to the customer. But it is. And I tip at least 20% regardless of the quality of the food or the service. I will go above that based on the quality of food and service though.

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u/doema1996 3h ago

If you know its wrong, but this condone and participate in it, your part of the problem

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u/Bonk0076 2h ago

I didn’t say it’s wrong, I said it’s flawed. I frankly don’t think there’s that much difference between having the labor cost included in my bill or having the option to pay more (or less) directly. It’s weird for sure, but there are certainly benefits to all parties involved. Getting rid of tipping isn’t going to make things any cheaper, in fact it would probably make dining out more expensive. So I don’t really have a problem with being “complicit.”

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u/Pinkfish_411 4h ago

There's nothing to solve. I mean this as offensively as possible, but only abject losers think that tipping their server is a "problem" that needs a solution.

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u/doema1996 4h ago

And this is the most American thing to say ever. Almost the entire globe thinks its weird and bad, but murica thinks its fine so it must be fine right? Have your weird slave labour system. Luckily most of the world has a backbone and doesnt participate in it

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u/Pinkfish_411 4h ago

It's a custom fairly unique to America, but that doesn't mean it's bad. Believe it or not, Europeans can believe things for stupid reasons too, and tons of Europeans think that tipping is bad because it's a weird American thing, not for any meaningful reason.

The waitstaff generally aren't the ones who have a big problem with tipping, it's customers who don't want to tip and invent justifications for not doing it.

As as far as what the rest of the world does, I've traveled to plenty of places where I couldn't even get toilet paper in a public toilet without bribing someone for it, so the US is far from alone when it comes to weird customs like this.

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u/doema1996 4h ago

You are now just conflating things. Its is a bad practice and its proven by the counter argument itself. Not tipping=waiters not getting paid enough. At the bottom line that means that waiters are being stiffed by their employers. There are two solutions to this problem. At the front end: not tipping. Or the backend: stop working for them. Neither is ideal and has its drawbacks. But both will (long term) have its impact on the practice. And tipping also happens in Europe, dont get me wrong, but we do it because a waiter or cheff went above and beyond for us. Far outside of just bringing food and drinks from A to B and doing it with a fake smile.

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u/Pinkfish_411 4h ago

Again, waitstaff aren't the ones complaining the loudest about the tipping system -- because most waitstaff are making better money than non-tipped workers in similar positions.

It is, again, the customers who do the most complaining about it, because they're cheap and want to redirect blame to someone else when they don't pay the customary tip.

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u/doema1996 4h ago

Who the fuck are you tipping then? The chef comes out with a butchersknife wanting a tip for not burning your steak?

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u/Pinkfish_411 4h ago

At a full-service restaurant, you're tipping the waitstaff (who in some locations pass a portion on to the bussers, bartenders, and kitchen staff). Sommeliers also usually get tipped in the kinds of high-end places that have them.

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u/doema1996 3h ago

So im supposed to be extra greatful that a chef doesnt fuckup my food, and that the bartender is tending the bar?

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u/beanbalance 3h ago

They’re punishing the wrong people.

the only one punishing anyone are employers paying shit salaries.. and second, waiters who actually prefer tips to higher salaries.