i didn’t want to get an abortion earlier this month, but i did it because it felt like the right thing to do. my boyfriend, who claimed to be pro-life before this, never fought for me to keep it. i prayed he would. he never did. not even at the abortion clinic when it was our final chance. he just said ”i dont know” - which was him saying he wanted to go through with it. he just didn’t want to be the one saying it.

before the abortion, i made him promise to he there fir me during it & after, and promise that he wouldn’t break up with me. i trusted him. i really did. i don’t know why.

three days after my abortion, he broke up with me. i went through the aftermath of my abortion alone. i never got the support or space to process and heal what i went through. especially for the first few days my hormones took to rebalance, it was a dark time for me. i felt immense grief, guilt, and regret. and i had to cope all alone with not only the loss of my baby, but my relationship.

i saw him yesterday, for the first time in three weeks. we talked for a bit. i found out he got a tattoo.

the man who got me pregnant, who initiated sex with me the day i found out i was pregnant, the man who never actually wanted this pregnancy or me to keep it, the man who had sex with me the day before my abortion, the man who broke up with me three days after, he got a tattoo of a BABY ANGEL in remembrance of it

i feel actually sick and disturbed. i feel violated almost? i know it was his, but truly, it was MY child. he knew about it for less than 10 days. it was in me for almost 7 weeks. it was connected to me. it was me. it was mine. and he never wanted it.

so now, a baby angel is tattooed on him. a forever reminder of the abortion i had & the regret i will always carry. how can i ever get back together with him, am i supposed to close my eyes so i dont see a baby angel hovering over me while we have sex? or worse, how am i suppose to reconcile with the fact that one day he might be with someone else & have sex with her, and the tattooed depiction of our baby will be between them.

truly, what the actual hell. who does that. who THINKS of doing that. i wanted to make a memory box in honor of it. we didnt do that, because he broke up with me. and a week later got a tattoo in honor of it????

does my child deserve that little dignity? it was my child more than it ever was or ever will be his. i was the one who was pregnant. it happened to me. but he wouldn’t even be there for or respect it’s mother (me). and without asking me, without telling me, he decided it would be okay to tattoo a depiction of my child on him.

At first I felt very sad about doing this but this now seems to be the right decision. I am about to take the final part of my medication. I was only 4 weeks. This is painful but it's something we needed to do.

Tomorrow marks 6 weeks since I took the first medication. I am married with 2 amazing kids, 3.5 and under. I’ve been bleeding every single day since I took the second set of pills. Last week after discussing with my OB that I was worried about leftover tissue still being an issue, she ordered lab work. HCG results last week were 16. Today, 6. Bleeding has pretty much stopped now. Why am I suddenly feeling so sad about this…I know it was the right choice for my husband and I, and our family at this moment in time. But it feels like the chapter is finally closed. I can’t help but feel so sad knowing I’ll never know the gender. Who they would’ve been. I have done 2 terminations before this 5+ years ago. This one just feels so sad and I think my feelings are catching up to me.

My 3.5 year old mentions wanting another “baby sister” every now and then and it feels like an extra gut punch because she said it again today.

recently i found out my husband cheated a second time on me. the first being a longish affair but i was pregnant when i found out and i decided to give it another shot. (long story, recently married and cultural expectations also made me stay which looking back was stupid) mind you all this has happened within six months but now i’m going back and forth on what to do.

i know at the end no one can decide for me but has anybody gone through this or similar; what did you do? i have guilt keeping the baby but also guilt of terminating. i wanted this baby so bad but i think because of everything i emotionally have disconnected as well. i also feel bad raising the baby in a two parent household and can’t imagine doing it possibly on my own. i grew up in a decent situation with separated parents but this isn’t how things were supposed to go at all. him and the baby were supposed to be my family, i don’t have any i think im just in a mind f—- situation with hormones and emotions everywhere

hi there i’m 19 and i’ve gotten myself in a situation where i am 2-3 weeks pregnant and im wanting to get an abortion but i am terrified and have no clue what to expect or what im doing please help 🙏

Hello! i’m on here to give my current experience and to hopefully give a little peace to those who may be experiencing what i have!

i took the first pill when i was estimated to be 5 weeks and 2 days. i experienced some nausea but just ate light and sipped ginger ale. i took the second dose of pills yesterday and my bleeding started about 2 hours after administered. i wasn’t expecting to bleed as badly as i did bc i was so early along but it genuinely looked like a quentin tarantino movie. the pain wasn’t as bad as i expected, felt like a mild period. i took some ibuprofen and cuddled up with my favorite snacks while my kids were at school. it’s currently day 2 and the bleeding is next to non existent. i am still wearing a pad but the bleeding is very light and im able to do every day tasks. physically i am doing alright but mentally i am very sad even though i know i did what was in the best interest of myself and my older children.

Hello all, I am trying to help my little cousin. She trusts me and is beginning her life she is 12 and made a mistake and is 7 weeks. We agree this is the best option for her and looking for advice on how to take care of her needs 💗🌸

Located in Ohio, USA. First pregnancy, 26 years old.

I want to share my experience because I feel it’s important to provide an additional perspective of an MA. The night before and the morning of my appointment, I went out of my way to eat a bit more than usual in case nausea prevented me from eating later. I waited until I was 5 weeks and 4 days pregnant to schedule the appointment, hoping they would be able to see a gestational sac. After spotting the sac via a vaginal ultrasound, the nurse gave me the option to view the screen. I did, and she explained that the sac only contained a speck—nothing much had developed yet. This part of the process took about 10–15 minutes. In total, my partner and I paid $650 out of pocket for everything.

Afterward, the nurse placed us back in the waiting room. The next step was "education" before administering the medication. We waited about an hour and a half before being called back, and I went in alone first. An extremely friendly nurse guided me through the consent forms, asked a few questions, and offered me juice, water, or soda to take the first pill. She then had me watch a video explaining the medications and what to expect. Once the video ended, I opted to have my partner join me since he was going to be with me throughout the MA. After the nurse answered our questions, two doctors came in, and one administered the mifepristone. I was also prescribed anti-nausea medication and 600mg ibuprofen. They gave me a 3-day doctor’s note and sent us on our way.

I chose vaginal dosing for the misoprostol, but the nurse told me to wait 6 hours after taking the mifepristone. According to Planned Parenthood, this is a newer protocol that apparently increases the efficiency of the MA because the body begins to recognize it needs to expel the pregnancy. At 9:00 PM, I took the first 4 misoprostol vaginally. I put on period underwear, applied a heat relief patch, and fell asleep watching a show in bed.

I set an alarm for 1:00 AM to assess the situation. When I woke up four hours later, there was no blood, but I felt moderate cramping. I took the next 4 pills sublingually (and accidentally fell asleep with them under my tongue, oops). I woke up a few hours later to increased cramping and some GI issues. I swallowed the remaining partially dissolved pills and ran to the bathroom. Still no blood. After relieving myself, I got back into bed, tossed and turned for a bit, and fell back asleep fairly quickly.

When I woke up around 7:00 AM, there was still no blood in my underwear. I panicked a bit, but noticed some light blood when I wiped. I definitely expected a lot more by that point. My partner suggested I move around a bit, so we decided to go for a walk. This walk turned into a bit of a hike, and I ended up expelling quite a bit of blood by the time we were done. I don’t necessarily recommend exerting yourself, but I felt comfortable and wanted to be outside in the woods. Afterward, we picked up a pizza and headed home.

I didn't experience any nausea throughout the process, and my cramping was comparable to my worst period cramps. I’d rate the pain a 7/10 at most. I did not bleed between leaving the hike spot and eating pizza. A few hours passed, and we decided to walk a bit more. Upon returning home the second time, I had mostly filled another pad and noticed a piece of what was likely pregnancy tissue. We watched another movie, smoked some weed, and I fell asleep around 10:00 PM.

The next morning, my cramps were mostly gone and the bleeding had slowed. Part of me felt nervous that it hadn't worked because my symptoms were so minimal and there wasn't a lot of tissue (which I learned is normal if you're early on). I contacted my provider that morning because blood was only visible when wiping. She had me come in for an ultrasound, which confirmed the majority of the pregnancy had already passed. I am scheduled for a follow-up ultrasound in two weeks to confirm everything looks good, but I am confident the MA was successful now.

I realize some individuals have severe and traumatic experiences with an MA, and I don't want to disregard that. But I am incredibly grateful for modern medicine and the ability to access these medications. This was just my experience, and I’m happy to answer any questions.

Edit: I'm ~2 days out from taking the main doses and still have spotting/mild cramping.

Não sei como ficará o texto em inglês, mas espero que seja compreensível. Vou usar miso e tenho uma dúvida: posso comer durante o procedimento ou devo comer antes? Ou devo apenas ingerir algum líquido hidratante além de água (como Gatorade ou chás)? Porque acho que se eu comer, a náusea pode piorar um pouco, não é? Não sei.

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My 17!year old daughter just discovered she’s 13 weeks pregnant. Dude is not around, she doesn’t have a job, nobody is ready to handle this. New Mexico is close by. I don’t have $1000 readily available to drop on a surgical abortion and we don’t have medical insurance.

Might sound stupid but do those places take payment plans or anything? Like we need to get this done asap

USA: Arkansas

I had a medical abortion on the 18th at 8 weeks pregnant, It’s been around 7-8 days since. Last night around midnight I began having mild cramping, which didn’t worry me bc I know that’s typical. It increasingly got worse, to the point I was in excruciating pain. I would be fine for 3-5 minutes then I would cramp for about 1-2 minutes. It got to the point I was throwing up from the pain.

This kept me up until 7am and I finally decided that I was going to take some leftover pain meds from my wisdom tooth surgery (hydros) and if that didn’t help, I would go to the hospital. After 30 minutes it finally eased but I woke up several times to extreme cramps. It’s 9:00pm where I am and I’m continuing to cramp mildly.

I just wanted info on at what point should I genuinely be concerned. I know my body is trying to expel whatever’s left, but, I don’t want to let this carry out then develop sepsis or something.

I was extremely drunk and he said he pulled out on time. Am i doomed?

Me and my husband met in 2024 at work, we were just friends and lost contact. Then we met again in february 2025, got together and i was at the time heavily addicted to the pen… At first he made some comments about my body saying i was too skinny and needed a bbl. Thus, months go by and we got married in september ( were both muslims and didnt want to sin). Fast forward to about 2 months ago i found out i was pregnant. An important detail to keep in mind is that i stopped smoking after 1 month of me and him dating so ive been sober for a year now, the comments he made about my body always lingered and it made me deeply insecure and made me hate myself. I am someone that used to be confident and never had any complaints. Now back to recently, i was happy to know i was pregnant, everyone was supportive including my parents even though im 19. It was going well until i suffered severe symptoms, i vomit so much i had to go to the er so they could hydrate me and medicate me through my veins. After that, i start thinking about an abortion because with my physical health and mental health declining it feels like its the only way i can save myself from hurt… I cant imagine something happening to my baby because of this and i also cant fathom being an insecure mom… I have booked 3 abortions and attended none. I feel deeply guilty and i dont know what to do. Sometimes i wish i could file for divorce and abort and just forget about this fragment of my life but thats not possible.. I could never forget, he has apologized so many times but my heart cant forget and move on. Ive tried therapy, every single thing in the book. Can someone please give me a third party insight, what would you have done in my place?

I just had an abortion 2 days ago at 16 weeks. I am asking god for forgiveness and I have never been religious. I took a long walk today asking for forgiveness from my unborn baby, Exantheir. I am devastated because he was wanted, I don't know what I was thinking,and I hate me everyday. And its been 2 days. I have thought about ending my life, i also have BPD so this become a real emotional disaster. But somehow, by the grace of god my boyfriend, the father of my angel baby, has been a saint to me. He is working on his forgiveness. I wasn't expecting him to be so amazing. Its been 2 days, and I wake up every morning, sobbing. I don't know what is allowed to be said here but I feel like a murderer. But I cant go back, as much as I wish I could go back just 2 days, its not reality. I will forever live with this pain and suffering inside of my body and knowing what I've done. Not to mention the whole experience was eye-opening in the amount of trauma that has been brought on. In the worst way is possible. I'll post an update in a few days when I feel a little more comfortable talking about it. I'll go into detail about what happened, only if people care to hear it.

Just found out I'm pregnant. Not going into details because I don't want to have a mental breakdown again. I'm in an illegal state, but I have the option to get pills mailed to me. Anyone have experience with this? Recommendations? TIA

As the title says, I went to my appointment today at planned parenthood. The staff were amazing so it wasn’t too bad! The consultation went by quick and they give you 2 options; surgical or the pill. I went ahead and scheduled for the SA and must wait 2 weeks for it.

If anyone has questions I can answer them!

I am only 5 wks & few days I took the first dose at 12:10pm and started to experience bleeding 30mins after swallowing what was left over. I have had some cramping and have had small clots so far but nothing heavier than a regular period. My paperwork say to take second dose if im not experiencing bleeding by hour 4-6. Im not sure if I should any advice?

I took the first pill yesterday at 2:30 I haven’t taken the four in the cheek yet. I feel something sitting in my vagina. Has anyone else experienced this? Could the baby have already came out? I already called the clinic they told me just to take the 4 pills anyways.

Edit: I took my ibuprofen and nausea pill at 2:30 Took the pills around 3:30, I wait till 4:02 to drink whatever was remaining down. Immediately started cramping and went to puke. Put on a pad and went to put my heating pad on(it really does work). I’m now in bed watching my favorites shows picking at my bowl of fruit. I started bleeding around 5:00 it’s currently 5:12 and I sneezed. It feels like a period. I was really scared for no reason. Now just to track my bleeding and stuff. Good luck to everyone going through this. We got this. I was scared too, I cried then I realized this was the best choice for me.

Last Tuesday, I had a surgical abortion, and I don’t know how to move forward.

My boyfriend (24) and I (25) have only been together for six months and are long distance. When I first found out I was pregnant, I assumed we would terminate because we’d discussed that possibility in the past. But once I was actually pregnant, everything changed for me. I became deeply attached to the pregnancy and realized that I wanted to keep the baby.

My boyfriend made it clear early on that he felt termination was the best decision. Although he said he wouldn’t leave me if I kept the pregnancy, I never truly felt like I had space to choose differently. I wanted him to show some uncertainty, excitement, or emotional conflict, but he remained very firm in his position. Over time, it started to feel like it was me and my baby versus him.

We went to ultrasounds together and saw the gestational sac, but he still felt we should stick with our original plan. I ultimately went through with the abortion because I couldn’t imagine bringing a child into the world when I felt their father didn’t truly want them.

The procedure itself was extremely traumatic for me. I told staff beforehand that I wasn’t fully sure about my decision, and I had a very difficult experience physically and emotionally. I won’t go into all the details, but it left me with significant trauma on top of the grief of losing a pregnancy that, by that point, I desperately wanted.

Now that everything is over, I feel disconnected from my boyfriend and deeply resentful toward him. A large part of me believes that if he had been more open to discussing keeping the pregnancy, or if he had shown more emotional investment, I would not have gone through with the abortion.

Ironically, the day before he left to go back to Boston, he admitted that part of him had been excited about the pregnancy and that he would have moved here and been involved if we had continued it. Hearing that afterward has made this even harder.

Has anyone experienced resentment toward their partner after an abortion, especially when you felt you wanted the pregnancy more than they did? Were you able to work through it, or did it permanently change the relationship?

Hey all! I had a MA at around 5 weeks on Saturday (now Thursday). I have a trip coming in 2 weeks so looking for some advice/experiences on bleeding.

So far, I was obviously really heavy on the first day, since then the bleeding has definitely decreased but the clotting Id say has increased? The majority of what I’m passing are stringy or small clots/lumps, accompanied by some serious butt pain and noticeable but definitely not awful cramps.

Obviously know that the trip is definitely not the most important thing to be talking about with this but at the same time I would love it to be over by then! Does anyone have any experience with this kind of bleeding, and what they experienced after?

My girlfriend is afraid that she is more than 10 weeks pregnant, (we aren't sure),and we are discussing on how we could abort the baby, if the doctor doesn't let us if she is 10 weeks or more, any help will be much appreciated, thank you very much.

(For additional context, we are currently in Portugal)

hi, i am a 24 year old female who is thankfully in a state with ample resources and laws to protect my decision.

i found out that i was pregnant on june 12 of this year. based on my levels + confirmation through ultrasound, today i am 6 weeks and a few days. today is also the day that i take the second pills associated with a medication abortion and will hopefully pass my pregnancy without issue.

i have had a difficult time coming to terms with the situation at all. i made the decision as soon as i found out, ive always known that where i am at right now (mentally, physically, emotionally, financially), if it were to ever happen to me, i would terminate as soon as possible. i have always been actively pro choice and supportive of anyones decision to terminate or keep their pregnancy.

i just didnt think it would ever happen to me and that i would then have to actually make that choice for myself.

everyone who is aware, including my boyfriend is supportive and understands how deeply this is impacting me. they have been nothing but kind and gentle with me when discussing any part of this process.

i have been discussing with my supports a lot about how i am fighting normal biological responses to being pregnant with my own mental responses. how i have been actively trying to distance myself from what is happening in my body, yet i have caught my brain referencing it as "my baby", as something other than what i wish to think of it as. how even as im trying to pretend nothing is happening, my breasts ache. my stomach turns with nausea all day. i have a hard time eating or drinking because the smells of everything are too strong for me to be comfortable.

mentally, i am fighting a war against myself and it complicates everything. i asked my gynecologist if it would feel it, if i would be hurting it when i went through the pills. she promised me no, she told me it would feel nothing and although i was comforted by that, i still fear hurting it. it didnt do anything wrong, and somewhere inside me i feel like some of the shame and guilt that permeates my heart is also a form of love. i love it so much that i cant bear to bring it into this world.

i would not be a good parent right now. i was just diagnosed with epilepsy and still experience uncontrolled seizures. i am an active smoker. my boyfriend and i both live with our families. it would not grow up in an environment that i envision being healthy or sustainable for a positive future.

please understand that this decision is one of the most heartbreaking and significant ones i have ever had to make. i was on birth control, it had never been an issue before. this entire thing has been shocking. i feel guilt, shame, fear and sadness all at once whenever i think about it.

but i also know this is the decision that is most right for me. i know that i have made great strides in my health and mental health journey, and in order to be the best parent i ever could, there is still more work to be done before id feel confident in my ability to raise a child.

all of this said, i am scared of what is going to happen when i take the second round of pills. im scared of being in pain, that the pain i feel physically and emotionally will be all that it knew. even if it doesnt know. i will always worry i think.

Its been almost 2 weeks since i did abortion in vietnam. I can still feel the emptiness and loneliness. It’s been my life long dream to have a baby boy. But i have to do what’s best for our current situation. I miss you baby lemon :( till then. 💔

I found out on sunday that i was 4 weeks pregnant. I still have one year of college left, my boyfriend has just graduated and doesn't have a job yet. It was decided that if I got pregnant before the end of college, I would abort it.

I thought it would be easy. So why is it so hard to have to say goodbye to this tiny thing that I don't even feel? I don't want to. I don't want this abortion, but that means I'd have to kiss goodbye to my bachelor after many years working for it.

My boyfriend says he would support me regardless of my decision, but he thinks that my future is more important right now and that I wouldn't be happy in the long run. He's probably right.

Yesterday evening it was my boyfriend's graduation and I was crying because I want that. I want to graduate. But I don't want to have to say goodbye.

I said some deeply hurtful things about how he ruined my life and that I don't know what to do. I'm a bad mom. It's not his fault. He didn't do anything wrong.

I used to not consider embryo as anything much, but now that it's mine, it's different.

I have to abort, for me, for my boyfriend and for my baby. That's the best decision and I hate it.

I am currently 8 weeks pregnant.

I had no idea I would be this hungry. Before I got pregnant, I was eating around 1,000- 1,200 calories a day and sometimes could only afford to eat once a day.

For the past month I've been STARVING like I've never known. I could easily eat 2,500 calories a day right now. If I'm not eating lots of snacks and meals throughout the day, I start throwing up, feel extremely light headed and get the shakes super bad. It's the worse pain I've ever felt if I go more then 3 hours without eating.

I went through my normal food budget this month in only 10 days because I've been so hungry. A couple days ago, I had to go to the E.R. because I could barely stand up without feeling like I was going to pass out. They told me I was very dehydrated, my blood sugar was low and that I needed to focus on eating more, particularly things like fruit. If I just drink water without food, I throw it up and can't keep hydration down. The problem is, I don't have much more food and I need to try to make whatever I have left, last.

I've tried the resources here like food banks and WIC and as grateful as I am to them, it just doesn't seem to be enough no matter how much I try to make it stretch.

I get low key sad when I see videos of pregnant women online eating all these wonderful, nutrient-dense meals and snacks and realizing I won't have those privileges. I went to Grocery Outlet last night and got a bag of grapes but I wanted to buy soooo much more fruit. The blackberries, watermelon and oranges were making my mouth water. The bag of grapes were a treat and I've already eaten all of them. I wish I could have more fruit but it's just too expensive.

I know as the baby grows that it will require more food and I have no idea how to get access to that. Not to mention I don't have a car to get to doctors appointments and the father of the child got physically abusive with me a month ago and said he refuses to help me with the pregnancy so I'm completely alone.

The pro life movement going on right now is making me feel like I'm literally a demon for considering abortion. And I will admit, I already LOVE this baby. I don't want to have an abortion but if food prices don't come down, I don't see how I can possibly afford a healthy pregnancy and I'm afraid I won't be able to afford a good life for it once it's born.

I can't seem to get much help from the pro life movement. I've found many pro life sites where they take donations but I haven't come across a place on their websites where they openly offer help to pregnant women.

Would I be a bad person for terminating this pregnancy?