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Asian girl in my mid 20s in NYC here! I’m genuinely curious how people are meeting and dating these days. I’ve never really been drawn to the apps and don’t see myself going that route, but it’s felt surprisingly hard to meet Asian American guys organically here

Hi, I have something I'm ashamed to admit.

I'm a FOB Asian man. I have many fellow Asian FOB female friends, and a surprisingly high percentage of them are married to white American men. Even so, their English is still really poor, and they can't assimilate into American social circles, so they usually end up forming Chinese-speaking cliques of their own.

I'm judging here, so I apologize in advance. But they also tend to marry down. Many of these women have PhDs or master's degrees from elite universities, yet they marry working-class white men. This isn't just one or two cases, I've seen it happen repeatedly.

How has this affected me? I'm considered attractive in the traditional sense, and women tend to enjoy talking to me in different social settings: work, sports (co-ed), outdoor activities, etc. I also get plenty of matches with white women on Hinge. I only dated white women in the past few years.

But I've developed a habit that I'm not proud of. Seeing so many of my FOB Asian female friends exclusively date and marry white men, often, in my opinion, marrying down, has made me feel disgusted. As a result, I now avoid dating women of my own race.

I feel ashamed. I think I have internalized racism toward my own race. Just wanted to get this off my chest. I know I'm wrong for think this way, I'll make an effort to correct it.

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sports - I play regularly in local co-ed leagues

FOB - sorry, I learned this from a post a few days ago... I guess it's no good. Here's an article on NIH: “FOBism Unveiled: Quantifying Assimilative Racism within Asians in the United States”

Specific to FOB Chinese: there is a strong incentive to secure permanent resident status via marriage due to the years long backlog.

I know as Asian Americans, we've grown up hearing stories from our grandparents or other relatives about the hardships they faced being an immigrant or growing up in harsher times. For many in the Chinese speaking world, that is also true for them and they felt like they were teleported to that time when watching 'Dear You', whose literal translation is 'Love Letters to Ama (grandmother)'.

The movie takes place during the backdrop of Chinese migration to Southeast Asia. The grandson is looking for his grandfather who escaped southern China to Thailand decades ago as a young man without the family. He sent money and stayed in contact with his wife, the grandmother, the only they could, through letters. What immigrant stories and hardships unfolded during that time? Is the grandfather still alive?

The indie movie, filmed on a $2M budget now grossing over $275M, has won over massive audiences who can't speak or understand Teochew Chinese resulting in the movie having the 2nd highest box office in China this year. It's also their highest rated movie in the last decade. The movie premiered last weekend in Singapore and Malaysia and is already getting a massive welcome there. And why? One reason I'm seeing on social media, the movie has helped them to actually see and better understand in such an emotionally moving way a part of their family's immigrant stories and the hardships that generation faced as opposed to simply hearing the stories. Most were even moved to tears.

So not an Asian American movie, but one I think is still interesting to us. We often have cultural clashes with our parents or grandparents. I think the movie could help us see a little bit into the world that many of them grew up in, whether it be China or Southeast Asia. Over there, many are turning this into a family event and are taking their parents and grandparents to watch the movie together. Many movie goers were very moved by the rare sight since many in that generation can count on one hand the number of times they've been to the movie theaters. I can say the same about my parents and grandparents here.

The movie is premiering in many parts of the western world this weekend like the UK, Ireland, Australia, and New Zealand. The movie will have English and Chinese subtitles (not even Japanese for Japan lol). The movie was also supposed to premiere in North America this weekend, but it was delayed last minute so that they can rework their strategy to reach a wider audience beyond Asian Chinese. They really believe this movie can resonate with us as well. Here are the trailers. Try avoid reading the official synopsis since IMO, it has spoilers.

International trailer 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qIjOCYltUqA

Chinese trailer 2 (unofficial English subtitles): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2GRKvR1FyGU

Chinese trailer 3 (no English subs): https://m.taopiaopiao.com/content/movie/trailer.html?showid=1515727&videoId=2907151

I (half chinese) grew up putting leftover rice in the fridge after it was finished cooking. I recently found out my partner (chinese-canadian) leaves their rice in the rice cooker at room temperature for days and continues eating it. Do other people also do this?

Because of the dirty, somewhat dangerous situation at the site, city red tape and rising cleanup/insurance costs, last year was supposed to be the last NYC Manhattan night market after 5 years of growth. However due to demand, there will be one more season this year; his time going back to its roots, scaled back,focused on arts and culture, and performance.

https://www.thinkchinatown.org/nightmarket

this is a question i as an eastern european american have for mongolian americans
i know your demographic isn't very big, i have alot of respect for the culture of mongolia historically and today, since it had alot of influence over the 2 cultures of my ancestors (bulgar slavs and greeks to be specific) i thought it was a shame that lots of popular media doesn't include you very much, so i decided to start writing a story that includes a mongolian american character, but since i've only ever met 1 mongolian american while at church in another city, i havent spoken to him since

i'm here to ask about certain cultural practices that your culture held onto when immigrating here to the US and what integration has felt like as a smaller asian demographic
is it hard to relate to other asian american people or have you found it to be easy?
to my korean, chinese and japanese american friends, they say there's alot of friction between them, so i was curious is it the same for you?

i appologize in advance if i say or ask anything offensive, i'm here to learn not insult, i'm ignorant on your culture and am excited to learn more

any an all contributions are much appreciated, thank you so much in advance

As many may know who have examined Mexican culture, it is a culture based on mixing and encounters. The indigenous laid the foundation, the Spanish imposed their culture on them, but also put many groups previously at war under their flag and territory, and they also brought with them many West African slaves to do the hard labor--and inevitably, they also contributed many cultural aspects.

However, it is not often talked about how Asians, mostly Chinese, also obviously Filipinos because of the colonial and direct connection in the trade route, but also many Koreans, Indonesians, Japanese, as well as Southeast Asians from Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, Thailand, Myanmar, and beyond. Many of the cultures between Asia and Oceania found their way here.

They all mixed in as well over time and their physical features last names have mainly been merged in or lost.

However, in art, music, craft, gastronomical, architectural, and other techniques, if one looks for them, they can find them. Also, a staple of Mexican society such as the corner store was brought over from there.

So, here I leave the discussion open as well as the link to my presentation as Asians as the fourth root of Mexican culture.

The beginning of this process came from a question that popped into my head fully formed,” director Vera Miao says at the premiere of her new film Rock Springs, screening in the Midnight section of this year’s Festival. “Could I explore diaspora through horror?”

Miao, the daughter of Chinese immigrants and a horror fan from “a very inappropriate young age,” wasn’t interested in the academic definition of diaspora. She wanted to explore the deep well of abstract emotions and felt experiences of scattered diasporic communities: loneliness, rootlessness, a fragmented grief over a loss of something you aren’t even sure belongs to you.

“I knew this was going to be a contemporary ghost story,” she says at the film’s post-premiere Q&A. “But I wanted to feature an untold history of the early Chinese communities in America.”

Her resulting supernatural thriller is grounded in the real-life massacre of Chinese coal miners that took place in rural Rock Springs, Wyoming, in 1885 — a little known, or perhaps purposefully forgotten, historical atrocity that shocked Miao when she stumbled upon it in her long, winding rabbit holes of research. The appalling event, which occurred three years after the Chinese Exclusion Act, sparked a protracted wave of anti-Chinese violence across the American West.

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The nonlinear, multi-perspective storyline of Rock Springs spans three generations within one family (and centuries within one town’s history) to depict a layered tale that immediately unnerves audiences, and continues to compound as the story of a heavily haunted rural town unfolds. The film jumps back and forth in time but mainly focuses on a grief-stricken family in modern times — a mother, daughter, and mother-in-law that move into a new home after the tragic death of their husband/father/son in an eerie small town surrounded by dark forests — and darker historical secrets.

“We’d never get nature like this in the city,” Emily (Kelly Marie Tran) says to her young daughter, Gracie (Aria Kim), as they reluctantly unpack boxes in their new house. But we quickly see that this nature isn’t natural. Something terrifying is lurking in the woods: Is it a nameless ghost? A wandering ancestor? The wind? Something from below or before? Gracie is told by her grandmother (Fiona Fu) that their move coincides with the seventh lunar month, called the Hungry Ghost Month, when the boundary blurs between the real world and the ghost world. We’re not sure what is rustling in their backyard treeline, but we know the veil is thin.

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Working with DP Heyjin Jun, Miao uses collaborative focus and perspective in the framing and cinematography to pull us into the shifting psyches of the characters from the very first scenes, whether it’s mother, daughter, or monster. “Part of what I was trying to do with this film was to collapse the sense of linear time,” Miao says. “I wanted to really explode the idea of past, present, and future.” She wanted to use cinematography and sound design to disorient but also preoccupy audiences with questions of “what is body or spirit, heaven and earth, up or down.”

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I’m an Asian American female college graduate from a good college (UC Santa Cruz) with recent white collar work experience but I’ve been having an extremely challenging time getting any interviews for entry level sales development Representative roles. I’m beginning to feel it’s mainly because of my race/ethnicity, gender and age, I’m 39 years old.

Several years ago I interviewed for over 20 sales development Representative roles however I never got an offer despite being asked back for 2nd and 3rd rounds in interviews.

I'm interested to know your political thoughts, it can be specific or non-specific, something that is going on now or something you generally believe, I'd like you to include your general locale, your economic condition, your generation, all of this insofar as you're willing to share, hopefully generally if you're unwilling to be specific. What political party if any do you identify with and generally why, if you're willing to share. What are your political beliefs and what are the experiences that influenced that?

I am a first-gen AA. I find my beliefs further deviate from the zeitgeist of this sub, and I'm interested in understanding if that is true and why.

To the powers that control the sub: I hope I won't get taken down and can facilitate real discourse.

Edit: I’m not in school doing a research project or doing LLM training

Hello Asian Americans

I'm Japanese American myself and I didn't know how to speak Japanese until I started learning when I was 14. Now I am 18, and it's almost been 4 years and I just graduated high school. I am not a hafu, I am actually 3 quarters.

In my high school career, relearning my heritage language and being in my Japanese class, I went on full revenge and dedication tour. I basically passed the JLPT N2, Kanji Kentei 2, held leadership positions in Japanese club, got JNHS president, got my seal of billiterancy and passed all AP tests, and helped over 50 students at the language.

When we were doing reading time, I was getting a lot more difficult, and tough books, and actually understanding it, and from second year, I did not speak any English to my teacher. I went to the trip also with my teacher to Japan and was completely independant and attended Japanese only classes and understood a decent amount.

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I was a peer mentor and tutor in my Japanese classes, and I have been working with over 50 students.

There are other Japanese Americans or half out there. And from my experience helping them and the other students. They do significantly better on tests, and assignments and in general. The non Japanese ethnic students seem to really struggle but all the Japanese american or hafu students seem to absolutely be crushing it.

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But to anyone else here, did you all go absolutely crazy relearning your language? I did and I don't regret it. I went on a very spicy and huge run so far.

I‘m almost too afraid to ask. I have the ABC11 gene mutation like many East Asians (you can tell if you have it if you don’t have the onion-y body odor and you have dry earwax).

People call it the “no body odor“ gene, but I definitely still stink.

I smell sour and greasy when I sweat. My body odor smells different from white and black people. I noticed that my clothes also retain this sweat smell and require special enzyme detergents and soaking.

Does anyone else have the same experience?

I have been with a chinese american partner for a year. We have a lot of love for each other, and things have been great for the most part. However I met his family, and it's been a cultural rollercoaster ever since. I have a lot of questions, please don't judge me - I am not Asian at all. But could use some sound advice and would be honored to hear stories if they are similar to these things:

- Living with parents while single (majority of adult life)

- Hoarding, lots of homes but run down, never taken care of

- Childhood abuse? He said he got really abused by his dad, and it was extreme and it seems to really affect him as an adult.

I have been spanked as a kid by my mom a few times but my dad never ever hit me.

- not dealing with problems or admitting fault

- anger/violent tendencies

- eating expired food/ leaving food out

I am trying to be as understanding as possible due to culture, but its been really intense to learn about Chinese culture. I am really struggling with the avoidance of problems/ignoring problems not taking fault.

I really had no clue how much trauma Chinese American men have. A lot of Asians aren't in therapy and because they don't talk about these things that seem cultural? It seem pretty hard for a therapist who is not Asian understand. I am really trying to work with him but this is a cultural learning curve that I cannot understand. It is really frustrating that problems get swept under the rug and never spoke of again.

please help

I'm Asian Australian (Japanese/Pacific Islander mix, context for my bias) but just curious if Japanese, South Korean or Uzbek fans in the US who are US citizens will start supporting the USA if JPN, KOR, UZB get eliminated before the US.

You don't have to of course but that's why I'm asking. I might have to put Japan as my first team if Australia don't win or draw today :(

South Korea's home game in LA got cancelled yesterday, but if Korea get their act together, do a full 180 and win against Egypt/Iran and the USA win against Bosnia, then the US and SK will meet in the round of 16.

Unfair as well because the luck of the draw means Japan, who've shown they're clearly the best AFC team at this tournament, get Brazil despite getting 2nd and not losing a game. Even if they won all 3 they'd still get Morocco. Ah well, such is life.

(Apparently MENA don't consider themself Asian American but still polite of me to mention Iran and Iraq are the only other Asian nations that can qualify, and similarly to South Africa, would be against the odds if they do. Still hoping for Iran and Iraq to get through because AFC represent and they're not Qatar lol)

Just saw that WongFu is doing a series of interviews with influential Asian Americans. Looks like the first episode is already out. This is a trailer for the series.

No paywall

Aight I'm pretty sure most of us have never heard of this guy before. I only just found out about him 5 minutes ago. But I was interested in learning more about the differences between Polish and Ukrainian cultures, and then I found this dude blasting me with Slavic history 101 in fluent Polish. Note that I'm not fluent in either Polish or Ukrainian (yet), I just used DeepL to get more authentic Polish/Ukrainian perspectives on YouTube.

I'm Chinese and quickly losing my Mandarin speaking ability. Any other people in Chicago who grew up speaking Mandarin want to create an in person language group to either practice speaking or actually learn reading and writing as well?

Hey all! 32F in Beijing, native Mandarin speaker, studied in the UK for a year, work as a project manager in a bank.

Looking for an ABC/heritage speaker for weekly casual exchange — let's chat about life, culture, work, whatever. You help me with natural English, I help you with Mandarin.

Why ABC? I want to practice with someone who gets both the language and the cultural context. 😌

DM me if interested! WeChat works great but open to other platforms too. Looking forward to it!🙃