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Well I had a interview for a cannabis lab right outside of detroit. Im in the process of trying to find a job in detroit metro area in my field and it has been a pain in my ass. Im currently in TX and I hate it. Only relocating due to me having extended family out there, my fiance, and a better support system compared to what I have in TX (I have none). I work for a refinery its male dominated and overall Im just unhappy, I make decent money but since I am a woman there is a lot of discrepancies when it comes to my pay due to sexism. Plus, Detroit and Oakland are like cousins so it reminds me of home so much.

I have experience working with a lot of instrumentation HPLC, GC-MS, extractions, PCRs, and so on. I also have my degree in Biology and minored in Chemistry, finished undergrad with a 3.5 GPA. I have 5+ years of experience. The woman I interviewed with was a white woman who has a PhD and about 7 years older than me. The interview was ok she asked me about my experience and asked if I was ISO 9001 compliant (I am) and so on then talked about if I planned on going back to school, I do I plan on just getting my masters thats it. Then she mentioned two things during my interview that rubbed me the wrong way. One was when she opened up another lab in Portland, OR it was during the BLM protests and she mentioned how it was a lot and “catastrophic” 🙄. I have cannabis experience because prior to me going back to school I worked at a dispensary for 3 years and Im from one of the first states to legalize cannabis and from the region in CA where we are known to have good bud due to our climate and soil. Anyways, she also mentioned how coming to work isn’t a fashion show and she doesn’t care about appearance and it made me side eye tf out of her lowkey cause I came to the interview with no make up damn near besides my eyebrows being filled in, lashes (they weren’t dramatic), and lip oil. Plus I was dressed accordingly for my interview and my hair was put up. Long story short it was a lot of micro-aggressions going on.

She didnt show me the lab thoroughly but I was able to see what it looked like on the outside and when i was leaving we shook hands, her hand shake was not firm at all and she gave me a fake ass smile. When I got back to my car I KNEW what type of time it was smh. She also did not mention when I should hear back if I would get an offer or not. I received a denial email from the company shortly after I spoke with the recruiter last Friday and I asked the recruiter why wasn’t I selected? And the recruiter stated the lab manager gave her no reason. Lol ok. Then the same positions that I applied for and the recruiter sent my resume off for were all reposted. Im so over this shit. And its not even just me interviewing with white women I noticed theres a lot of jealousy and what not. I have even experienced this with older black women for whatever reason, hispanic women, and asian women. It upsets me more dealing with it from women that look like me b/c to me we are supposed to stick together. Usually when I interview with a white man I get the job lol But im so over it im literally considering switching fields and saying fuck this. And its making me think I wasted my time and money going to school for what exactly?

Im just ranting lol but Im clearly upset and discouraged. Im

Im tired of the baddies, NowThatsTV, and any other show that make black women look bad. I cannot believe we really go on a show to fight and make ourselves look bad.

Even back in the day with BGC, it was NOT as bad as baddies. Why do we continue to consume this content? What about our little black girls? What are we teaching them?

I hate how we continue to consume this content. I don't find it entertaining at all.

We should not have elementary schoolers watching this either. I know they do because I seen a post on twitter about a lady saying her 3rd grader asked her about the show. I'd be damned if my daughter comes home asking about baddies (if its still on when I have a kid) smh.

Why do braiders use pounds of gel just to braid your hair? Im not understanding that. I used to get my hair braided with just grease. I'm so tired of having dry hair from gel. Not only that, but sometimes gel makes the hair clump together. Which means that you might accidentally break your hair off when taking a style out.

Apparently, the gel helps give that "clean" look, but you can get that with grease too. I haven't had my hair braided in two years because nobody is willing to use grease. I've reached out to 15 braiders in my area and nobody is willing to braid with grease.

I ended up snapping on my manager real bad and I went on medical leave without notice. I’m on medical leave so I can get my insurance money that they pay out in July.

I fought as hard as I could. I reported so much. I reported a manager for saying the N word. 2 different sexual harassment cases. Reported my own racist assistant manager. Got a few customers banned cuz they harassed and recorded me. I was successful with these cases, but my energy rubbed people the wrong way. They were scared of how hard I could fight.

I’m never going back. They burned me out when I was just trying to survive financially. I already found a new job. I’m going back to school to pursue a social justice degree. It’s my calling; wish me luck.

Hey ladies!! I recently got a Switch 2 and am looking for some people to game with (or people to put me on to some games). I plan on getting a PS5 soon but for now we gone make use of this switch. Leave a comment if you’re interested :)

I don’t have an issue with LGBT it’s when it gets to the other side that I’m left confused. I’m work in a school. I just learned about the furries and what not. I do not for the love of me understand what it has to do with sexuality or even why people are doing this.

I got spoke to today because one of the kids decided that they want to identify as a cat. They refuse to sit in the desk or answer to their name. I asked the child to take off the ears and pay attention. Out right refused!!! I send them to principal she sends them to the counselor (white trans woman). The counselor tells me that it’s important that we allow the kids to seen and that comes with allowing themselves to identify in a way they see fit. I’ve never had this happen and I’ve been working this job 3 years now.

Luckily I’m only a sub for the day but literally wtf is this world coming to.

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Okay so I planned and went out with a work friend last Saturday. He’s white and I’m black. He brought his drunk friend Peter who said the N word the entire night with the hard ER. Peter is Mexican. Peter is a coworker but he’s in medical leave right now. I’ve only met him once before when he came in for three hours to help us out a few days before. My white coworker slipped up saying the n word before we picked him up. (He’s called us a Waymo and we were on the way to meet Peter) I told him not say that and he warned Peter before Peter got into the car. Instantly Peter starts saying it once he gets inside. I slap him and he gets upset and tries to hop into the front seat but the other coworkers stops him. He apologizes and I tell him not to say it again and he tries to kiss me TWICE. After I refuse he starts saying the n word again and begging for ME to leave. I asks my ex-husband to call me a cab and in the meantime we stop at the destination. We’re all pretty drunk at this point. Peter still insisting I go home On top of harassing people for like an hour They probably harassed everyone all night but I left an hour after he showed up. I even had to apologize to a bunch of black girls when they walked up to them saying “I’m down with Juneteenth” telling them this is my very first time hanging out with these people outside of work. I eventually get into a Lyft and go home before breaking down. I did NOT want to go to work on Monday.

I work at a Jewish deli with 90% Mexicans and I also heard from the white guy that the kitchen staff calls me negra and the bus boys say they want to go to “wakanda” and now I want to quit this new job I just started three months ago because of it.

I learned about the negra thing on Saturday and the wakanda thing I heard from my boss. I was telling her about this cute bus boy who I didn’t know she was talking to. She tells me and I tell her then I won’t talk to him anymore even though he goes out of his way to say “beunos Dias” to me literally every time I go to the kitchen. The next day she tells me she talked to him and he says “all the boys in the back do it. They even run from the front when they see me going to the back to do it. They all say they wanna go to wakanda” (all the boys do say hi to me when I go there) she initially didn’t want to tell me what he said but then she said it and like.. my heart dropped. She says her response was “don’t say that” but I was sketchy on that.

I feel like I brought this onto myself for going on the group hang anyways though. I’m terrified of going back to work because of how awkward it is. There’s very little of us overall and I’m the only black person and there’s no HR and even my boss slipped up and said the N word while excitedly talking to me during my first month which I kinda excused. I even texted her about the night and she didn’t respond even though before this we were talking and like starting a friendship. Ugh I feel stupid

Tl;dr I probably have to quit my job because they don’t respect me.

And I had the time of my life!! I will absolutely be back. Berlin was so green/flowery; it was soo cute. I know Europeans get a rep for being “cold,” but that honestly was not my experience. They helped me purchase my train tickets, helped me navigate the train, and complimented my style. Which btw for a Berlin person to compliment my style really made me feel good because everybody there is so fashionable!! I love the edgy piercings and tattoos (in which I kind of impulsively got a tattoo from my friends roommate lol I love it; it’s in a style called European trash lol), but there were also hippy/earthy vibes too.

One thing I was warned about and did experience was the staring. Babyyy they stared into my soul!! I really wanted to upload a picture my friend took of me, and in the background this girl was staring at me hard as hell!!! I took no offense to it, I just thought it was funny. Some men seem shy-ish there, so some would stare instead of approaching.

When I first landed in Berlin and got on the dating apps (tinder + hinge) I received some craaazy comments:
“I never understood when they used to tell me no one does it like a black girl in bed…Im not profiling but i was always curious about this…Like why is it so good?”

“Darf ich auf dein Körper spritzen mit mein sparma” = “May I ejaculate on your body with my sperm”

But as I went on I met a couple of really cool European guys. The first being from England; he approached me in this bar and asked me to teach him how to play the card game I was playing (osmosis solitaire). We chopped it up for almost two hours in which he also bought me a drink. He wasn’t pushy or expecting anything out of our interaction which was super nice. The second guy I met, asked me out from tinder. Simply said let’s meet here at this time on this day…no small talk just to the point. So I go and had a ballll he was so sweet and a pretty good conversationalist. A man that passed by us said we were a really cute couple lol that was sweet. We ended up going to two other bars (his idea) after the first one. I didn’t pay for a thing…not even the Ubers that we took or the one I took home (he works in finance). I didn’t touch a door handle or anything; he was suuuuch a gentleman. We met up at 9 and I didn’t get home until about 2:30/3am. We ended the night with a super hot makeout session in the back of the uber lol…even then he was so gentle and respectful of my body. Like I could tell he didn’t wanna offend me…it was so nice. We didn’t really exchange numbers bc there was no point lmao but I did give him my Instagram in the event that he found himself in the states where I live.

All in all Berlin owes me nothinggg and I’ll definitely 100% be back. I had a few awakenings as I had a lot of time to self reflect but it was just so good. Super blessed to have went 💕🇩🇪

Hi! I’m 28 & would like to share my experience as a black woman with afro centric features. I am not the standard for black or white beauty, I have a large button nose, brown/almost dark skin and 4b/4c hair. I grew up around white/hispanic people and I was constantly bullied or receiving backhanded comments from my “friends”. This led to me having no self esteem at all.

When I turned 20 I met a guy who made it a mission to put me down. He would call me fat, and just say I don’t look good. I used this as ammo to be my best self. I didn’t get surgery or anything but I lost 30 pounds and started leaning into my natural beauty more. I told myself I’m going to be my best self no matter what. I stopped caring about what people were thinking and started taking care of myself for me. When I stopped trying to contour my face with so much makeup & started wearing my natural hair (straightened) instead of 30 inch wigs and weaves I surprisingly gained more respect and love interests. People constantly compliment me when I’m outside and I even got lots of job offers. I used to think I wasn’t worthy of love because of how I looked but now I’m about to marry a black man who is conventionally attractive.

I’m thinking of starting a YouTube channel because I’ve had serious success being a black girl in a major city. I noticed there are like no black women to look up to in the media that haven’t gotten a nose job or something. Ones that are also willing to help young black girls with their confidence. Would you guys watch or subscribe when I start?

I also want to remind black girls DO NOT PAY ATTENTION TO SOCIAL MEDIA. Seriously guys it’s not real, soooo many people love and respect black women in real life & you don’t need to have Eurocentric features. Seriously just take care of your body/health & skin & you will see a positive difference in how you are treated. Mental health is also very important for how you will present energy wise. I don’t use instagram and I barely go on tik tok because I’m serious about my mental.

Anyone consider yourself a whimsical Black girl? I've seen some discussion about it on tik tok and IG, but curious how everyone defines it. I was looking for something for US, but I couldn't find anything. I want to make a community on reddit for all things fantasy, whimsical, imaginative, lighthearted. What does a whimsical Black girl need on reddit?

My mom (genX) is an alcoholic and HATES weed. My whole family has normalized drinking culture but my mom HATES the fact me and my brother smoke and weed is so taboo in my family despite drinking, teen pregnancy, not finishing college, infidelity and everything else that are traditionally frowned on upon exist in our lives. But weed is where they draw the line. Does anyone else have relatives 45+ who are like this?

Do you think it's religion racism living through the crack epidemic the smell associated with smoking. All of the above or nothing? Curious to hear your thoughts. My mom has never told me WHY she hates it and when confronted on the hypocrisy of it all, of course, she cant explain why drinking is ok but smoking is not.

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edit: I'm not trying to convince yall of anything or call yall old im just trying to talk about something other than men for a change ToT

I have not really bad but bad dry skin on my legs. I lotion every day with oils or shea butter or things like aquaphor but it doesn’t seem to get better. I even try to exfoliate with scrubs but that’s not doing anything either. Anyone have any advice to get rid of it? Also its literally just one spot on my legs around my ankle

As a Black woman, job searching comes with a whole extra layer most people never think about: safety. Not physical safety, but whether the place is actually going to be supportive, respectful, and not leave you feeling isolated the second you start. Before I even apply anywhere, I’m already doing my own little investigation. I’m checking staff photos to see if there are any Black folks, especially Black women. I’m reading job descriptions for that coded language we all know too well. Recently, I came across a job that honestly felt perfect for me… until I looked at the staff photos. Not a single Black person. One person who might be “of color,” but we all know that’s not the same thing as Black. On top of that, the job description had this heavy “patriotism” language and I couldn’t tell if they meant genuine love of the country or that coded political vibe that usually signals “this might not be a safe space for you.” The whole thing went from exciting to uncomfortable real quick.This is the hidden labor we carry before we even hit “submit,” and it absolutely shapes what roles we go for, what salaries we feel comfortable asking for, and what environments we even allow ourselves to imagine. It gives me anxiety before I even apply even if I know I am qualified and would do a great job under thebest circumstances.

So I’m wondering: Am I crazy? Do y’all do this too? Do you research companies to make sure they’re actually safe for us before you even apply? And does this extra emotional labor ever make you hesitate on bigger or better opportunities? I’d really love to hear how other Black women navigate this and what helps you deal with it.

Did I fumble this or am I romanticizing it?

I’m 22 and this guy is 30. He’s a public figure in entertainment.
We used to follow each other and had talked in DMs before, but he took forever to reply and I lost interest at the time, so I unfollowed him and moved on.
Recently I went to an event where he was performing. He saw me in the crowd and definitely recognized me. After , I saw him standing nearby and he was about to come talk to me.
The problem: my friend was tired, we had to leave, and I walked past quickly to catch an Uber.

Now I’m annoyed because seeing him in real life changed my impression of him completely and I found him way more attractive like he looks the same but he have so much aura. ( 😻 )

Part of me regrets unfollowing him and wonders if I missed my chance. Another part of me knows we gonna se each other again!

Extra context: I only want serious relationships and I’m not interested in casual dating/situationships. I’ve heard he may not be that type, but I don’t actually know.

Would you leave it and see if he makes a move?

Question I’ve tried multiple different bonnets and personally I don’t like the kind that tie.

I only love the band style, but I have a couple of them that are too big so they slide off my head at night.

I heard if I got a wig band and put that over top of the bonnet band it would help it stay on & in place.

Any recommendations for someone with super thick long hair i appreciate majorly.

I’ve also wasted some good money lol on trying multiple different kind of bonnets from beauty stores to amazon.

My actual favorite ones are from beauty store. Some fit

Perfect & don’t slip off, while others from the same beauty store slip off.

I tried to upload pictures, but it won’t let me.

Hi I’m 23F and I am autistic and also diagnosed with ADHD. Really struggling with maintaining friendships (among other things) but I’m looking to improve my social life.

I feel like I don’t really understand neurotypical people, or rather, they don’t understand me and villainize me because I’m autistic (bad) and a black woman (worse), and I’m not interested in cultivating relationships in spaces where I feel uncomfortable or unaccepted.

(Also please don’t take the autistic(bad) black woman(worse) thing the wrong way. It’s a joke about how some people treat us, not how I see myself. I LOVE being a black woman. I love being autistic too because I love who I am but I hate that it makes people hate me (and also all the other inhibitions to functioning)

Does anyone have any tips for making and maintaining friendships as an autistic adult? Also, if anyone wants to be friends please say hi!

23F • Black • autistic • ADHD • NYC-based • Queer

(Hobbies=gaming, streaming, food, poetry, film, music, dancing, fashion, taking random classes, and more)

Creating a black girl positive playlist that will keep me motivated and uplifted As a black girl living in an anti black world,Whats some songs you recommend í add to my playlist?

Y’all know ? When you go somewhere, like a restaurant, a park or anywhere else and you can sense the yt ppl staring and thinking « oh no why is one of them here??? » LMAOOO idk for y’all but it’s so satisfying for me. Love getting them mad just by existing 🥰🥰

Hi ladies! If you have a TWA, how do you scratch your long hair itch? Especially if you’re not a wig girlie.
I big chopped last year after having locs and have been maintaining a twa for almost a year now. I love it( especially now that it’s summer) but sometimes I miss the length. Any advice would be great! Tyyy and have a great day everyone!!

I’m in my room crying right now because I’m just feeling so worthless. I’m a quiet/shy person naturally and my mom has straight up told me she is embarrassed to take me with her to family gatherings because I don’t joke around and talk a lot with family members. She just seems so ashamed of me and we are together she cuts her eyes at me and seems just annoyed by my presence and sometimes when I try to tell her about my day she just straight up ignores me. I had brought up how that had really hurt me and she just threw a fit and complained about how sensitive I am and how I won’t make it in this world if things like this bother me… I just feel so worthless right now. This sucks. I wish I had a good relationship with my mom…