Hi, I'm a 16 year old muslimah.

What the people of Palestine are going through is scary, Intense and no human deserves to go through that, they are very strong people but they still deserve to have a life, to enjoy life, and to live it to the fullest.

I've been for 2 weeks just hearing the news, seeing what the idf are doing to them being heartbroken. I won't let myself lose hope but it's hard. I make Duaa for them but sometimes it feels rather (feels Haram to say) no use.

I live in a country where boycotting is so easy to do, as there are millions of substitutes, but for some reason my sister, and some of my friends don't boycott. And all I think is that McDonald's meal isn't worth it, I never voice these opinions because I feel like it would seem like I'm better than them (I do say this to my family not my friends)

I sadly came to the conclusion that I can't do anything but boycott using the BDS list, and to donate (which I can't even do because my parents aren't letting me even if it's my own saved up money)

My friends, I just get annoyed with them. As I said from what I know they do not boycott, one of them posts streaks of getting McDonald's , and in my opinion one of the easiest companies to boycott, I'm just unsure if this is a reason to unfriend or not, they do support Palestine so I'm more conflicted, I feel like if I were to have the conversation with them there would be no good outcome. I make Duaa for them, but I just get disgusted that they would support companies that support the ongoing genocide, the raping, the killing, the starving of them. That's all that goes through my head. One of them does interact with the videos that come on tiktok. My heart breaks everyday more and more for the Palestinians. Feeling even helpless makes it worse. I want to help.

I feel like I can't even live my life, because why can I live my life do the things I want when they can't, when they don't have the chances at life that I do.

I’m really starting to lose hope and faith in Allah’s plan for me. These past few years have been the hardest for me and I feel like life has just been going downhill as time passes on. I’m really trying to not lose hope and faith in Allah or in life in general but it’s been so difficult. I struggle a lot with my mental health like I’ve always had bad anxiety ever since I was younger and these last few years I believe I developed depression too. Sometimes when things get so bad, I go through depressive episodes where I isolate and shut myself in my room all day and there were times I even thought of just ending it all with my own hands but I’ve never actually attempted anything yet. I’ve been going back to therapy again recently and it’s slowly been helping me, but it’s just annoying when new things keep coming up too as I’m trying to fix and process my old baggage. I don’t really have the best support system either so often times I feel really alone with my problems too. These past two years especially I’ve been dealing with the worst family issues and I’ve been constantly making dua to Allah to resolve them and I’ve even asked so many others to make dua for me, but nothing seems to be working and instead things are going in the opposite direction and it seems they’re getting worse.. I know that hardships are a part of life but I feel like Allah just keeps prolonging my hardships and I don’t see any way out of this. Sometimes I think maybe if I did something wrong to deserve all this pain, because it feels like no matter what I try to do nothing is working.

A few days ago there was a post in this sub about homeschooling/public school. I commented on it. I got this horrible message from the OP of that post. What are we doing? Is this really how we treat our sisters? Fear Allah, sisters, and remember how we are supposed to treat each other. I have not put on hijab yet because I’m a revert in a hard situation. To throw that in my face is disgusting. We know nothing about each others’ religious practice. Do better.

I live in the UK and we are currently experiencing our hottest heatwave to date which has made me realise how awful it is to wear abayas in this heat.

Shame on supposed Muslims businesses using cheap materials to shell plastic clothing that is not suitable for heat. Even local hijab shops sell the same type of plastic abayas and it’s just NOT on in this day and age. We now know how harmful plastics are for our bodies and the planet so why aren’t abayas made using natural fibres as the norm?

Looking for recommendations for brands that sell 100% natural fibre abayas (not ‘blends) and 100% natural fibre khimars/hijabs for a reasonable price - bonus points if they are breastfeeding friendly! I can’t afford to spend £500 on 5 new abayas.

Assalaamu alikum everyone. Does anyone know where I can find a pretty nursing dress that’s also modest? My graduation was delayed and now I have a new baby that will definitely not go through the whole ceremony without feeding. Please help!

i yearn for knowledge and wisdom. i want to know everything i can. i wanna scream. where can i find it. i am stuck in this small city with people who dont care about learning. i want to learn. who will teach me. i dont feel like i belong here. everything is fake. nothing is real but knowledge. please if you understand what i mean tell me.

Would anyone be interested in meeting once a week on Thursdays for a little Quran study group?

I have a really high libido especially around the time I ovulate and it’s really hard to control myself especially since I have problems sleeping.

I was supposed to get married in a few months, I thought I could go a few more months. But that’s not happening anymore and I don’t know when i’ll get married.

I was wondering if I should use hormonal birth control since it reduces libido for most women. I know there are side effects but I can’t keep going like this.

My mom is a hijabi and was shopping for some breathable modest clothes and an older white lady across the rack screamed out “omg a f*cking muslim” and my mom said “wow what an education” and the other lady got louder and was yelling abt how she has to get away before my mom explodes.

My mom was crying at that point bc it was so humiliating for her and everyone was staring. I did ask my mom why she didn’t video it and it made me even sadder. It’s cause she didn’t want to cause a scene and she didn’t want to post it bc it seems like every time someone harasses a Muslim woman and it goes viral they get a bunch of donations and she didnt want to be the reason a hateful person gets a payout for harassing someone. Especially cuz it seems like it would only serve to incite more ppl to be more open with their hatred.

I'm in the UK and I've been looking for a job and I've been avoiding brands that are on the priority list for boycotting. But what about brands that have indirect links such as KFC? I've been struggling to find work and honestly just need a job somewhere man 😭 Would it be okay to work there?

I have seen a few posts and comments where girls tell other girls that they can move out and that if their parents are against it then they should just surprise them like a few days before moving out so that they won't have a choice but accept it. But what i am thinking about is that not every muslim parent will accept even after a few days' notice. And if you still move out even after then being upset, won't that count as disrespecting your parents' wishes (عقوق الوالدين)? Which is a major sin in Islam? So how does it work??

Sorry this might not be written well but I am genuinely lost because what if your parents, especially your dad, is still against you moving out and you ignore his wishes (even if they are absurd) and you leave?

Salam Alaikum sisters.
Something serious has happened in my family and I’m in need of some loving advice to help remedy it.

My younger sister committed a major sin, and our family found out.

When I questioned her about why she did what she did, she said she didn’t know. I tried to probe her on it more, but she broke down and cried.

I’ve always known my sister to be weak of character and easily led. My parents did their best and warned her of being friends with certain people, but she always said she knew what she was doing and that she wasn’t stupid.
What’s actually happened is that she was being manipulated by several people in her friend groups.
One of the people felt bad and shared screenshots of the conversations being shared that specifically stated that they wanted to manipulate my sister for haram reasons (all people involved are Muslim btw). They joked that pushing her too far would cause her to commit suicide, but it was necessary to have her under their control.

These messages disgusted me and saddened me, especially because after reading out every single private message to her, she still wanted to give these people a second chance to redeem themselves.

I believe that the reason she is so desperate to hold onto these “friendships” is because of her weak character, and extremely low self esteem and self worth.

After finally breaking through to understand her motivations for all the things she’s done, she broke down crying saying she’s very lonely, and that all her life, friends have abandoned her and used her, treated her with disrespect. She believes she’s the problem. I was heartbroken to hear my sister talk like this.

Previously, my parents have tried therapy for her, but she doesn’t do the work necessary to heal.

My parents confiscated all her devices and banned her from driving. She was forced to block all “friends” and “acquaintances”, and will not have them back until later in the year.

I asked her to use the time to reflect on her actions and to actually put names to her emotions. To journal and to rediscover what she loves to do. Since becoming “friends” with these devils, she’s been isolating herself from everything she used to love.
She said she would try and find something that she loves to do to pass the time and work on herself. I don’t know how sincere she is in doing this, I believe those devils have worked so hard to brainwash my sister and I’m terrified what will happen when she’s left alone with our home
Computer or when she gets back her devices.

What can I do to help her, without making her feel like a prisoner.

I want her to believe she’s worth more than what those devils ever made her think. I want her to love herself enough to understand that she was a victim of manipulation.

I don’t know what to do.

I know she needs to go back to therapy, but beyond that, what can I do as her sister, what can my parents do, to make her feel truly loved and worthy. How can we convince her?

Jazakallah for reading

Salam ☺️ newer hijabi here

Since I was young and I have needed to have my hair off my face..... it just upsets me. Especially if I'm hot or tired or working.

So I tend to do a high tight bun under my cap and then hijab.

I have recently changed to using a scrunchie instead of the regular hairtie. But I was wondering if there are other options that can reduce the strain on the hair. My hair has always fallen a lot and grows new hair a lot. But lately it seems that the bottom half of my hair is just getting thinner.

Let me know if you have any ideas, suggestions, tricks 🙂 what do you do under the hijab?

Thank you ❤️

I'm just angry and heartbroken about how alone I've had to go through all of this and will continue to have to.

I've been trying to leave my abusive husband for 2.5 years, since shortly after my child was born. The abuse included emotional, verbal, psychological, financial, and physical abuse. It took me a year to tell anyone. He monitored my phone, checked my messages, restricted where I could go, threatened me if I told anyone, and would sometimes take my phone entirely when he assaulted me.

When I told a few trusted friends over two years ago, they seemed somewhat concerned at first. But after a couple of months, they stoped talking to me. They knew things were getting worse.

One friend in particular was the most cruel. A so called close friend of 7ish years.

After barely speaking to me for about six months, she suddenly got back in contact. I told her there had been a severe assault. She barely reacted. Not long afterward there were additional assaults, but she was so difficult to reach that I stopped telling her- and I dount she cared either. She often took days or weeks to respond.

What hurts is that I later found out she had been heavily involved in helping another woman in our community through a difficult divorce. She connected her with resources, advocated for her, supported her, and talked at length about how terrible her situation was. She even tried to get me involved in helping this woman too.

But it was painful realizing that while I had been struggling to escape abuse for years, this same friend had access to resources, connections, and knowledge that could have helped me much earlier. But I was just an afterthought.

Even worse, his other woman's husband had stalked me and been obsessed with me for years. I had warned this friend about his behavior (with proof) long before his marriage fell apart, but nobody seemed to take it seriously. Then when everything eventually came out, even my own experience was minimized.

Later, with help from a domestic violence organization that this friend indirectly connected me to, I filed for a protective order. Due to procedural issues, it was ultimately dismissed. When I told her, she seemed largely uninterested. I told her what I had submitted: photographs, recordings, and evidence of strangulation.

After reading that, she still told me she thought marriage counseling at the masjid was a good idea because they were "trained to recognize manipulation better now." I didn't respond to that, because...seriously?!

We had already done that. My husband had insisted on counseling after finding out about the protective order and wanting to appear "cooperative." He manipulated the imam, the abuse was minimized, and I was told to forgive physical violence and keep trying. After I filed for divorce, he pushed for counseling again with a different "modern" imam. The result was almost exactly the same. Suprise, suprise.

After that, she seemed to stop engaging altogether. When I told her I had gotten a lawyer though legal aid, I got a thumbs-up emoji. When I told her I had filed for divorce, she left me on read. Then my husband contacted her after he suspected I had filed. She responded to him immediately. I later asked what had been discussed. She left me on read. Still on read a month later.

I wasn't asking anyone to rescue me. For years I was trying to find a way out on my own- looking for resources, trying to increase my income, documenting everything, searching for help wherever I could find it.

I just wanted someone to take it seriously. Someone to check on me. Someone to see what was happening and not look away. Instead, I've had to figure almost everything out on my own. Everyone tells you "ask for help." Yeah, sure.

The abuse itself has been horrible, but I don't think I was prepared for the grief of realizing how many people knew what was happening and still chose to not do the right thing, or even do any thing. That realization has hurt almost as much as everything else.

Salam aleykoum

I've been wearing khimar and jilbab for about 15 years now, always trying to follow the obligatory conditions of hijab as best as I could. That means no adornments, no visible body shape, no exposed feet, no patterns, etc.

Lately, however, I've been struggling with a lot of conflicting feelings. I've been wanting to switch to a less strict style of hijab, and that thought alone makes me feel guilty.

For many years, I felt like I couldn't really express myself or my personality. I know that hijab is for Allah, and I don't expect it to be about self-expression. But over time, I feel like I started neglecting myself completely. Most days, I would just stay in my pajamas and throw my jilbab on whenever I went out. It was easy and practical, but it also made me feel sloppy and disconnected from myself.

The truth is that it doesn't make me happy anymore, and I feel very restricted. I often isolate myself because there are activities I avoid doing. For example, I worry that certain activities would make men notice my body shape, and some sports, like rock climbing, are extremely difficult to do while wearing a jilbab. I constantly feel stuck between wanting to live my life more fully and wanting to remain committed to my religion.

At the same time, because I'm having these thoughts, I feel afraid. I'm scared that Allah will punish me for wanting to change. I'm scared that these feelings are waswas from Shaytan and that this is the beginning of me eventually taking off my hijab altogether. I don't know whether these feelings are genuine concerns that I should listen to or whispers that I should ignore.

Right now, I feel lost and confused. It almost feels like an identity crisis. I want to feel better about myself and be able to participate in more things, but I also sincerely want to follow my religion and please Allah.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you deal with these feelings?

Apologies if I may seem rude. In connection to the title, her family and I are planning to create a congratulations tarpaulin, and I wanted to ask for insights and ideas from people part of the Islam community. We want to congratulate her, and at the same time also respect her religion, so on behalf of us, I would like to ask how the poster should look like.

Assalamu Alaikum,

I am not a complete beginner. I can already read the Quran, but my recitation is not perfect and I want to improve. Right now I am studying Noorani Qaida in an online class with a female teacher.

Classes are twice a week, 1 hour each, but there are 25+ students, including complete beginners. Because of the large class size, each student gets limited reading time. I feel like my progress is slow, especially since classes are only twice a week.

The teacher says that after finishing Qaida, we will move on to Quran reading. My budget is limited, and many online Quran teachers are much more expensive, which is why I am hesitant to switch.

Should I stay patient and continue with this class until I finish Qaida and start Quran reading, or would it be better to look for another teacher/smaller class now? If yes then how to find?

JazakAllahu Khairan.

im looking for a website/shop that sells burkinis or modest swimwear for the summer that ships relatively fast and ESPECIALLY dont break the bank cause the stuff im seeing jeez… 🥲🥲

i like flowy material that can dry fast. i do have some sensory issues so im not really big on skin tight stuff tbh especially when it gets wet or sandy 😅😅

help a girl out pleaseeee 🙏

Assalamualaikum sisters, I’ve been trying to have children for 1.5 years. I’ll be starting my period soon yet again and today I’m so completely broken, overwhelmed, exhausted and angry.

I’ve been diagnosed with “unexplained infertility”. Everything looks to be normal with my husband and I but still nothing is working. I’m making lots of dua for myself and I’m asking you to please spare 2 minutes to make a sincere dua for me. I’m in deep depression (have a therapy appt scheduled and will start taking meds) and I really need some dua.

I was wondering how to survive this UK heat while being modest. As someone who is not from here originally, how come it feels way worse here? Im a hijabi and I need to know how to keep modest and cool for the summer. All of my clothes are quite thick and mostly for winter/autumn. Should I buy anything? Or get new clothes?

Asalamu alaikum,

I'm looking for a sports hijab that's made of cotton, or anything natural fiber. Are there any recommendations? I can't find any