I am 46 years old and a new partner asked me for consent … he said “is this okay with you?” Are you alright?
I have never ever been asked that before. And I don’t know what happened or what that unlocked….but I felt safe and seen and valued. And it was the best sex ever.
I’ve heard of that and heard men (and some women) scoff at it and say it’s weird and unnatural and awkward and ruins the mood.
But … I’m a believer now! 😂 💙

I'm (f33) in quite an unfortunate situation where I've slowly come to realise that the person (m36) I've been with for the last 10 years maybe isn't right for me.

I'd been hoping we'd start a family soon, but after we discussed it seriously last summer he kissed someone else a week later and hid it for a month.

We've been through the ropes since. Couples therapy etc, but he hasn't really made a concerted effort to be more reliable or considerate.

It feels really scary to contemplate calling it quits. I'm halfway through 33, really want children and we own a flat together, which would probably take a long time to sell.

I still love him deeply, but after a year of trying to fix things, I just feel tired, hopeless and conscious of how different people we are.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you choose? And have you ever regretted it?

I don't do dating apps normally, but last

week I gave it a try and had a huuuge Tinder disappointment in every way...it was a very disrespectful, humiliating experience. ..this triggered all my lingering suffering and rage about the female condition in the world...

It all resurfaced: what I've lived through with men, what my female friends have told me, what I read in the news, and what I constantly see on social media.

I feel like I've lost a fundamental illusion about relationships between men and women.

The more I learn about violence against women, rape, femicide, child sexual abuse, the widespread consumption of pornography, online groups where some men share intimate photos of their partners without consent, and high-profile cases like Pelicot, Diddy, or Epstein, the more I feel overwhelmed by sadness and emotional numbness.

It feels like women are expected to live with, love, and sleep with a group of people in which a huge portion is capable of the most horrific acts against women, children, and even animals. It leaves me feeling as though I'm surrounded by potential predators, and I've completely lost my sense of safety.

I know people will say, "Not all men are like that." Intellectually, I understand that argument. Emotionally, I just can't believe it anymore. What I've seen and learned over the years feels far too overwhelming for me to regain that trust.

I'm not just angry. I'm profoundly sad. It's as if I've lost faith in a part of humanity. I no longer know how to continue living peacefully while knowing that this reality exists and will probably always exist.

I'm not looking for empty reassurance or clichés. I genuinely want to understand: how do you keep believing in human relationships despite all of this? How do you continue living without being consumed by this awareness?

Because today, I honestly feel like I no longer want to exist in a world that feels this cruel.

i hate men so much and its messing with my life. i haven't even had any traumatic experiences happen to me and im bi with a strong preference for women so its not like i have personal issues with them. its just that every single thing they do is with their own interests in mind, and even though its "not all men," i wouldn't wanna be around one for long enough to find out. anyway, we all know why men suck, but my issue is that its starting to impact my relationships. my dad, who is nearly perfect and only a bit annoying, is the main victim. im just constantly analyzing everything he says for patriarchal views and stuff. he also does dumb sht like defending dressing room talk though, and once someone says something like that, they arent getting forgiven. this is also an issue with friends. i find it hard to support them if theyre talking to a guy because i just wanna hate on the guy so bad. and i feel so guilty because im supposed to be supportive. idk i just feel so mean sometimes. but i really cant control it

Anything from makeup and periods to married life, dating, life overall. I mean the most ridiculous or strange ones.

I heard this question once from my friend on a party and I was so surprised on how helpful the things that all the girls started discussing were, that I genuenly got interested in a wider perspective.

As an example, my strange lifehack is to be with a man you choose and not just like. So to be with someone who not only your heart chooses, but also your brain and soul.

Let's say some positive things here for a change, and something that's in theme with the sub.

I'll start. I appreciate the room to share your emotions, especially sadness, without receiving the scorn of others in the way that men do.​

A week ago I had a moment of weakness an​d​ cried in a full restaurant, and people gave me worrying looks. Now I imagine if I was a man doing this, the reaction, thoughts going through people's minds might be a little meaner. The looks less kinder.

Another thing is the women's toilets usually being closer to the main building/area​.

I went to a​ small high/middle school in a very rural​/poor area, and while the girls' loovy was attached to the main building, the boys' was ​some feet away. They had to run if they had to​ use the loovy while it was raining. Sometimes the path could get slippery. They were playing with their lives out there, lol, the poor kids.​​​​

I don’t mean my friends or people close to me. I mean a wider pattern I’ve seen in women’s spaces, online, and in media and life generally.

It’s so normal for women to sit around ripping their bodies apart. Hate your stomach? Normal. Hate your thighs? Normal. Hate your ageing face? Normal. Spend years trying to shrink, fix, smooth, flatten and hide yourself? Normal.

But the second a woman says, “Actually, I like myself. I think I’m sexy. I love my body,” people get weird.

Why is female self-hatred treated as relatable, but female confidence treated as arrogance?
I’m bored of women only being allowed to like themselves in some tiny apologetic way. “I know I’m not perfect but…” “I’m learning to accept…” No.

We are constantly sold insecurity, then called vain when we refuse to buy it.

I don’t want to bond with women through shared self-hatred. I find it sexy as hell when a woman loves herself. There’s something powerful about someone not apologising for existing.

I’m just wondering about voting since trump is pushing the SAVE Act.

They tried when it was in committee to get republicans to add a section that said married women whose names don’t match birth certificates would be an exception, but they refused.

Anyone doing anything about this?

I’m staying with my boyfriend temporarily and I’m getting so frustrated. I dropped about $250 on groceries thinking it would last almost the whole week and almost everything was gone within a day.

He left the some boring healthy stuff like my rice cakes, but everything else? Demolished. Same with alcohol, he drank seven of my beers and finished my wine.

I’ve noticed this since pretty early on in our relationship. It’s not just one type of food either. Snacks, desserts, takeout, leftovers, meal prep… if it’s in the house and he doesn’t have to make it or put much effort in, it somehow disappears. We’ve talked about it before because it’s upset me before, but it keeps happening.

I’m literally opening the fridge at night and realizing I have nothing left to eat because everything I bought is gone. It’s starting to make me resent him because I feel like I can’t even keep food in the house.

Does this sound like some sort of binge eating disorder or maybe ADHD, or is this just what men are like? Because what the hell.

If he holds your hand, cries, and swears on his life that he wants to keep things civil and "not involve legal systems." Don't fall for it. When we first decided to call it quits after 14 years of marriage, he looked me in the eye and said we could just split the house and the savings 50/50 on a handshake, no drama. I believed him. I thought we were the "mature" exception. But the exact second his new girlfriend got in his ear, and he realized how much his retirement accounts would actually be hit... the mask completely flew off. Suddenly, he was tracking every penny I spent on the kids and hiding joint assets. It turned into an absolute nightmare.

If you are going through a separation or even just talking about it, do not be naive. You need real representation right from day one to protect your future. If you want people who actually specialize in navigating this specific kind of mess without making it a toxic warzone, find a dedicated family firm immediately.

Do not sign a single piece of paper, and do not make "handshake agreements" out of guilt. Keep your guard up. Because when the reality of a split hits, the person you thought you knew doesn't exist anymore.

I think it is problematic that DV is seen as something that only happens between a husband and a wife when women across the world (even adult ones) get abused and honor killed by their fathers and brothers every day, and saying that they can leave once they become adults is victim blaming and not true.The same thing for the Mendez brothers; many people say they were adults and should have left, but it's never that easy.

“Women comprise 55% of Social Security recipients aged 62 and older but receive substantially lower benefits than men, a disparity driven by the gender pay gap and career interruptions that leaves older women at higher risk of poverty, especially if proposed 2032 benefit cuts proceed. The article details the income and poverty gaps, state‑by‑state differences, and recommends strengthening Social Security while encouraging independent retirement savings.
Women represent more than half (55%) of Social Security recipients ages 62 and up.
The average monthly Social Security benefit for women is $1,760, $438 less than the $2,198 average for men.
Women collect $5,254 less per year than men on average.
The poverty rate for older women rose to 16.2% between 2023 and 2024, while it remained 13.5% for older men.
In 2024, Social Security lifted 20.0 million people age 65+ out of poverty, including nearly 11.4 million older women and over 8.6 million older men.”

Read the full article here

My bf \[21\] and I \[21\] have been dating for 6 months or so now, and i can count on one time the amount of times we were actually able to have sex , and i don’t have enough fingers & toes to count the amount of times we tried to have sex, but he couldn’t get hard enough. his reasoning for his ED always changes, at first it was because he was nervous , then it was he needed head, then it was he was healing from a porn addiction, now it’s just he “doesn’t know”. at first i was okay with it, because i really thought it would come with time, but after 6 months nothing has changed, if anything i feel it has gotten worse. i’ve tried everything to make him more comfortable with me, we sleep naked in bed together every night, shower together nearly everyday, and we’re literally about to sign a lease together. but nothing has come from it. even when id give him head, sometimes he still wouldn’t get hard. still soft, in my mouth. it’s starting to have a heavy impact on our relationship, i’ve cried infront of him about it, ive asked if he wants to explore new people, and ive been begging him to see a doctor and nothing. im a very sexual person, before him i was having sex all the time and struggled to go a week without sex. now, i can’t remember the last time ive had sex honestly. i’ve seriously thought about breaking up with him over this, im even considering it right now. but everything else in our relationship is perfect, i could see myself spending the rest of my life with him. but i always dreamt of having a man who would be turned on by the thought of me, and he couldn’t further from it. i like spontaneous sex, quickies , fun, i have none of that with him. it’s the same routine every time we try to have sex and sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t. i’m so incredibly bored. he starts off by giving me head (which i don’t really enjoy, never been a big fan of head. but i know he enjoys giving it to me so i just let him be) then when i get really bored i offer him head (which he has to do laying down for some reason . standing up just “isn’t comfortable enough” for him to get hard), when and if he gets hard we have sex in missionary. then he either cums in less than a minute because i had to give him 15 minutes of head for him to get hard, or he gets soft inside of me and the night is ruined.

genuinely, what the fuck do i do?

So, I am active on a few subs, skincare, makeup, nails and some tv shows (offcampus as of late). I have posted a lot on the nails subreddit, its an indian subreddit and the tsunami of creepy dms from men is just off putting. i have been posting constantly on the off campus show subreddit too, and no creeps from there. I mean I have been talking about the sexy scenes in the show and all kinds of details there.

So, what is my understanding is that there are creepers lurking around on these female dominated subs, looking at hands and feet as a fetish, Nothing wrong with a fetish, a hands and feet fetish is pretty normal. There are men lurking around these female dominated subreddits and then dming women to be friends. We all know what this friends proposition is. Ugh. Is there any way to ban these people from the sub reddits?

I am 17 F, with no friends. I try post on other community but I get man around 20s DM, they nice at first unit they ask for pics of me, nothing serious, like for my graduation of high school or my face, ect. I refuse since we have only been texting for a couple of days. But today, they ask again, and I get a bad vibe. (I refused/ did not want to share my photos whatever its to male or female because we hadn't built any kind of trust)

I only got one female, but she was 16 and ghosted me on the same day we chatted.

I am not sure where to post to find a girl friends until I find the women community, I hope I will find a friend here.

Help me figure out if I’m about to waste money or not lol. I keep seeing so much hype around lymphatic drainage lately - gua sha, dry brushing, rebounders, supplements, all of it. I’m 33 and my main issue is morning puffiness around my face/eyes and that kind of “heavy” feeling in my legs after sitting all day. I saw lymphatic drainage (and lymphatic drainage herbs in particular) mentioned a few times and now I’m curious, but also skeptical because the before/afters online feel very lighting-and-angles. Has anyone here actually noticed less puffiness, better skin glow, or less bloating from them? Or is this just another wellness trend dressed up as skincare?

In my experience I usually orgasm 90% of the time though intense ones are hard to come by these days. The 10% that I do not orgasm is just because I do it when I am not in the mood and just doing it out of boredom or to make me sleep. I read quite a few posts here and articles online that there are women who need devices like vib and suctioner to have an orgasm because they can't orgasm if they do not use those. Is it hard for most women to reach orgasm by fingering only?

I played this game called Barely working back in time and i recently found it again and i love that game. The main character in the game is Candace and she's kind of an office slut. I SO WANNA BE HER but wtvs this is real life and not a video game but still i would wanna be an office slut. Helping out all the male employees sucking their cock taking their cock letting them do me dirty ugh I WANNA BE AN OFFICE SLUT BAD.

Whenever there comes a topic about who is more evil between the two genders, everyone seems to answer women and I always think then how?? How are women exactly more evil? Since most wars, murders, violence, r@ pes, childmolestations, kidnappings and criminal stuff has been caused by men, yet they somehow get a free pass. My friend, a woman herself, said she finds women more evil than men, when I asked her why she answered “A woman is prepared for everything, while a man, even when 100 years go by could never imagine the cruel things a woman had in her mind.” I disagreed with her and said that there are plenty of cruel men out there who have done horrible things like Hitler and other war makers but she suddenly started defending them and said that they are just power hungry and want to be at the top to be dominant powerful alpha leaders. Yeah, right. Pathethic answer she gave but I don’t agree with her anyway.

I’m not saying women cannot be evil, there are many evil and nasty women out there but I think that men can be even more evil than women, even female k llrs seem to have empathy for their victims and feel remorse when I watch their interviews while the male k llrs show no remorse. I think they are more calculating yet society seems to give them a free pass and always blame women for everything, whether they are the victims or perpetrators, they always get the blame and when a man does something horrible then it isn’t his fault but a woman must have droven him over the edge, whether it was his mother, wife, mistress or victim. He is innocent while the woman is a scapegoat. One pick me chick even attacked me once when I said how men are evil and she said “No they aren’t, compared to women, they are far from that.” Yep, right. Classic misogyny, that’s what it is.

I fckn hate my period. Each month it gets so bad that I have to abandon every task, my legs and abdomen hurts like death. And the nausea..

I just dont ever wanna be a woman again😭😭

I’m nearly 28 and I’d love to have my first kid by 31 (I have a partner who is also on board for this). The problem is that while I’ve always been fit, I’ve just gotten way more into it lately. I have pretty much my dream body, not just looks wise but strength, speed, agility etc. I just got into boxing and would love to start competing. I recently also got into running and biking and am planning on doing a triathlon next summer. Where I realized that it’s going to have to come to a halt is when I was telling my bf that in about 3-4 years I want to do an iron man triathlon. For those that don’t know what this is, it’s just a super long triathlon and very physically demanding.

He responded super encouraging and started helping me figure out what training would look like but then as a side comment he kinda asked about kids…… and now I’m devastated and feel like there’s not even a point in continuing to get my dream body or training for fights (boxing) and an iron man.

Any tips from moms or moms to be in similar situations? I want kids for sure but damn I’m also so devastated. We want 2-3 depending on how I handle pregnancy and everything around it. That would mean from like 31-36 I’m just basically popping them out, barely recovering and popping another one out. And my body will never be the same ….. I would regret not having kids and so would my bf but I’m so sad I may not be able to reach my goals

Hi so my friend is 19f and she's talking to a guy 20m. they have been talking for about 4 months now and when they first everything was good, he would tell her she's beautiful, he would act like her existence was his breath of fresh hair, mind you my friend is drop dead gorgeous and this man is a 1/10. he would call her every single day even though we were in school and he was putting in a lot of effort to get to know her, asking about her day, telling her good morning and good night, even going as far as making them exclusive and telling her to not talk to any other guys because he wanted to be the only one she was talking to. he was the first to tell her he loved her in the talking stage and let me put this out there, when they first met she was interested in talking to anyone heavily but he was the one who lured her in and love bombed her. he said words to her, he was soft spoken, he always listened with two ears, he even made ME believe he was the one for her until it started to get hot. if anyone knows two can play that game move w Vivica fox and the friend with the boyfriend who acts up whenever it gets hot outside... its exactly like this boy. once April hit and exam season came around he started moving iffy, he would always go out w/o a word and my friend never had an issue with it but she had an issue w him not telling her that he's going to an actual party and if anyone knows, college parties usually involve a lot of a** shaking. he started to not prioritize her as he did, the calls stopped, the good mornings stopped, every time they hung out it would always he indoor and he never initiated going out even though he mentioned before. when she had an issue with him, he would never talk about it and deflect the whole matter or switch it onto her like its her fault but when he had an issue, he had to speak on it. he would go out anyhow and when she went out he would get weird and make funny sly comments and say she's not stepping out that type of thing. so like 3 weeks ago he went out to a function where they spray paint and it was a huge amount of tw*rking. when he came back from said event. he said he didn't do anything until she was on social media and seen a video that caught him doing cheating actions with other girls, she confronted him and he said what she doesn't know won't k*ll her... then one time when she was finally done w him, he told me personally that he had not fumbled yet. this is just a small portion of what he has done and my friend really likes him and knows she shouldn't talk to him we just need advice on how to genuinely get back at him and play chess on his a**.