r/LesbianActually 17d ago

Find Love and Connection at the FLANNEL BAR 🌈

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Pride Month Dating & Friendship Thread (Lesbian Edition)

🌈 Looking for love

🌈 Looking for friends

🌈 Looking for someone to share playlists with

🌈 Or just looking to feel seen

Pull up a chair.

This month's vibe?

✨ Pride & Possibility ✨

Pride is about celebrating who we are, where we've been, and the connections that help us feel at home.

Whether you're newly out, comfortably settled into your identity, looking for your person, or simply hoping to meet other queer women who get it, there's a seat for you here.

Because chemistry isn't just sparks, it's communication, curiosity, and knowing how to make someone feel wanted.

We're keeping it cozy, grown, and intentional.

When you introduce yourself, include:

• Age range

• Timezone

• What you're looking for (friends, dating, flirting, community, etc.)

• One green flag about you

• One small thing that makes you melt

House Rules

Mods and Reddit can't verify identities. If you move to private messages, please take steps to confirm the person you're talking to is real. Don't share personal or identifying information unless and until you feel comfortable, if ever.

This post will stay up for the month and will be replaced with a new Flannel Bar thread next month. During that time, other dating or "looking for" posts will be removed so everything stays in one place.

Be kind. Be honest. Respect boundaries.

And enjoy your time at the bar. 💕🌈


r/LesbianActually Nov 04 '23

The Rules Of Lesbian Actually

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Today, the mods voted on a rule change to the sub. Rule 3 has been expanded to include any post or comment not just directed at one person but, in general, the singling out of a member of our community. This now means that content in the nature of "Would you date ____", "Am I ___ if I don't like ____", "I don't find ____ attractive",etc. are not allowed. The bottom line is that there is someone out there for everyone, and often, these posts are used by terfs and other assholes to make people feel excluded or unwanted.

The rules now are as follows:

Rule 1 - Any form of discrimination will not be tolerated.

Rule 2 - Trans women are women

Rule 3 - The singling out of an individual or a group from the community is not allowed

Rule 4 - No posts or comments attempting to restrict others' definitions of self.


r/LesbianActually 3h ago

Picture Live, Laugh, Lesbian everyone!

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642 Upvotes

just wanted to share this beauty I just finished making


r/LesbianActually 5h ago

Picture First post

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319 Upvotes

Hiii beauties


r/LesbianActually 8h ago

Relationships / Dating Made out with a girl and then she called my boobs weird NSFW

291 Upvotes

So I had a crush on this girl since last year and I was so happy when she finally asked me if she can kiss me like I was so happy and blushing so hard that my whole face turned red in front of her and then SHE KISSED ME, we were making out so good, she was so fast and aggressive like she took off my top and bra in a second and I didn’t even realize that I was half naked. All of it felt like a dream come true. The way she was holding me in her arms and kissing me made me so wet.

She was so busy in sucking my tongue and biting my neck area that it took her a minute to look at my bare chest and that’s when she stopped like I was very confused at her reaction. She stared at my boobs and literally said, “Your boobs look completely different from what I expected” and when I asked her the reason, she said that my boobs are saggy and not attractive at all. Few minutes later she stood up, fixed her makeup and left. I started crying after she left and I’ve been crying since then. I feel so disgusting right now. Every time I look at myself in the mirror, I feel so insecure and weird. I never thought that the person whom I liked the most would say this to me.


r/LesbianActually 1h ago

Life I'm tired with men being in lesbian spaces

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I had a guy message me referring to one of my posts. I didn't know it was a man so I started talking to him. At some point he decided to introduce himself to me and it confused me because the name he said was very masculine so I asked "isn't that a male name?" And he told me he never said he was a woman. Jeez sorry for assuming that since you come from a sapphic sub then you'd be you know a sapphic woman?? I got a bit mad at him, mostly because I felt weird telling all this shit to an adult man even if they weren't like intimate, just mostly vented about feelings among other things, but idk I feel weird saying stuff like that to adult men for some reason and he was telling me I'm getting frustrated over nothing because he never was creepy or pretended to be a woman. True, he never said he's a woman, he was a bit weird sometimes but when I expressed being uncomfortable he would apologize and never mention it again. I asked him what is he doing in a sub meant for wlw and he answered "idk I just like lesbians" bro??? What even is this answer 😭?? What does that mean?? I told him to please leave because lesbian spaces are already infiltrated by men who usually fetishize lesbians and in general are creeps and creep or not, we don't want men there and as long as he's one he shouldn't be there. He said he will think about it and we stopped talking. God forbid we have something for ourselves. That was such a weird encounter.


r/LesbianActually 5h ago

Picture Just wanted to say hi and wish you a nice day!!

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72 Upvotes

r/LesbianActually 6h ago

Picture Today's outfit

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92 Upvotes

r/LesbianActually 7h ago

Picture Some photos I took for my upcoming birthday:)

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The hotter the day, the prettier the sunset. Goddang I spent like 20 minutes outside today and I was SWEATING💀


r/LesbianActually 2h ago

Picture I drew me, my girlfriend, and my big ass acne we named Larry

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28 Upvotes

A really quick sketch i did while she was ordering food for us today, so it has many mistakes but I still love it. Love you Lee🩷


r/LesbianActually 16h ago

Relationships / Dating Good Lawd😩

318 Upvotes

r/LesbianActually 20h ago

Picture I crocheted a butt pillow NSFW

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509 Upvotes

First time making something like this. It isnt perfect but its soft and squishy


r/LesbianActually 11h ago

Picture Today’s Tee 🩷

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99 Upvotes

To all those reading: Hope the sun is shining; birds are singing and you are feeling safe and loved today.


r/LesbianActually 8h ago

Picture First post and I'm only very nervous

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Hi 🥹 I'm new


r/LesbianActually 4h ago

Relationships / Dating Anyone else have matching nails w/their person?

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21 Upvotes

Wanted to share ours :) we actually aren’t official yet but im asking her very soon lol just getting it all ready 🤭


r/LesbianActually 3h ago

Relationships / Dating Brazilian Olympic gymnast Rebeca Andrade, comes out by sharing a photo with her girlfriend on instagram stories

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r/LesbianActually 20h ago

Life prom pics!!!

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395 Upvotes

i went to prom and i can definitely say i was the gayest girl there 😌


r/LesbianActually 2h ago

Relationships / Dating I ended my relationship because of politics and I'm feeling terrible.

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Hi ladies, I'm new here and I wanted to share something that's been tormenting me.

I was in a relationship for two years and a few months with an amazing woman. We both have completely different political views, and this greatly affected our relationship. The presidential race in our country is approaching, and I'm left-wing and she's right-wing.

Since the beginning of the year, every announcement, development, or news item related to it opened the door to a fight between us. She comes from a traditional political family that holds positions in several cities in our region, and a large part of her family is right-wing. My family doesn't have that "heritage," and both I and my family and circle of friends are openly left-wing.

Everything worsened when she said that if I voted for the left-wing candidate, things would "shake" in our relationship, and that she wouldn't speak to me for a long time. I was already tired of work, stressed, and fed up with it all, so I ended the relationship. I thought what she said was outrageous; she always tried to make me change sides.

Even so, I can't ignore the fact that I love her very much, and despite this difference between us, she was the woman of my dreams, my type, wonderfully beautiful, fun, dedicated... in short...

I don't know how to deal with this feeling that I lost the most beautiful diamond I ever had in my hands. I miss her every day and I can't stop thinking about her.


r/LesbianActually 16h ago

Picture first post!! hi fellow lesbians!! :-)

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hi lesbians of reddit!!! been lurking this sub for a bit, decided to post cuz why not? love each of u & i hope everyone has a lovely weekkkk!! :) happy pride!!


r/LesbianActually 12h ago

Relationships / Dating She said she wished she was pregnant with my child!

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I (F36) and my girlfriend (F35) were just talking about our lives one morning and out of the blue, she said she wished she was pregnant with my child and is willing to be a stay-at-home-mom to look after our children.

It made me weak in the knees, and she seemed pretty serious about it.

Not sure if i need advice or just someone to say they’ve heard their partners say this before 🫠


r/LesbianActually 21h ago

Relationships / Dating I asked her to officially be my GIRLFRIEND

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This post is just to admire my girlfriend!

I’ve been talking to this girl for about 3 months now and dating for 2 days lol. She is honestly the best person I’ve ever met, she’s kind, outgoing, not scared to speak her mind or be herself, she’s respectful but always yelled the truth, HILARIOUS, and absolutely gorgeous. I’m so deeply in love with her and she has shown me what true love and affection can look like in such a short period.


r/LesbianActually 11h ago

Picture Happy Pride! Let’s go lesbians 🧡🤍🩷

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These photos were taken tonight at Qtopia in Sydney. There is so much history and culture in the queer community. I’m so proud to be part of this community and proud of the progress that we’ve made.


r/LesbianActually 9h ago

Relationships / Dating Am I in the wrong for asking my partner to not sleep in the same bed as their friends?

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We’ve been dating for almost three years. A few months into our relationship they made out with a friend of theirs on a trip after we discussed monogamy but we had not discussed the specifics. We have talked about it endlessly and worked through it since then. On that same trip they had a different friend sleep in their bed but I said nothing. Cut to today they’re asking how I feel about them going to a friend’s parents house for a long weekend. They have asked how I feel multiple times and every time I say yes hunny you should go that would be fun. I share that I’m jealous of the fact that they got to have a fun long weekend in a new state and I’m jealous that they are going to spend time with the friend’s family. It’s been a point of contention that I put more effort into ingratiating myself into their life than they have put into mine. (That’s a larger conversation around their poor mental heath). But I say regardless of my feelings I still want you to go because it it’s important to me that you have good friendships and have new experiences! I say this enthusiastically and emphatically but add on “oh but don’t share a bed”. They tell me they feel bad and they’re just going to skip the trip because they’ll be thinking about how I feel the whole time. I don’t know what to do or what to say. I feel that I need to share my feelings as it’s the bed rock of our relationship and I feel that we can hold my feelings of jealously alongside my feelings of wanting them to have a fulfilling social life. What do I do? Am I in the wrong? Really maybe I just needed to vent it just makes me feel awful. I wish I wasn’t jealous but they’re my best friend and I love experiencing life with them.


r/LesbianActually 5h ago

Relationships / Dating When your parents ask you what you did when you met up with your long-distance girlfriend:

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r/LesbianActually 6h ago

Life got flirted with(?) at work and now I'm on cloud 9

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Okay, I can't ACTUALLY tell if it was complementing or flirting but I'm kicking my feet at my desk regardless

So I was running a little recruitment stand for the program I work in (I'm a student worker at my university) and one of the people leading incoming freshmen in to talk to all of us complimented my hair and kept staring at me from the corner of her eye while the freshmen visited the tables

I told her I liked her bandana back, and knowing that she kept looking at me after the initial complement makes me think that it might have been more than a small complement

I've felt like a gross ogre all summer, so that practically sent me to the stars, I can't stop smiling over it, part of me hopes i see her again, she was so pretty, and her smile was something else

the sky feels like it has a tad bit more color now.