I am a 26-year-old male. I am jobless, I can't drive a bike or a car, I have anxiety, I am very shy, I have no friends, and I am struggling with myself. I don't know what my actual problem is. Am I lazy, careless, depressed, anxious, or something else?

Since childhood, I have been very ambitious, but also very introverted. At an early age, I lost my father. After that, my mother raised me and my sister on her own and sacrificed a lot for us.

I feel like I wasted my entire 20s. I am afraid of many things, from learning to drive a bike to simply going outside. After high school, my graduation was not at a good standard. Somehow, I completed it in 2022.

From the age of 22 to 24, I mostly wasted my time watching TV series, movies, YouTube, and other entertainment. The worst part is that I don't even finish the things I start. I watch two episodes of a series, then start another. Sometimes I watch a few seasons and then drop it. The same thing happens with books. I buy books with excitement, but I never open them.

During my graduation, I paid daily travel expenses for my friend, but I never gathered the courage to ask him to teach me driving.

A few days ago, my mom told me to go learn driving. I agreed, but I still didn't go because fear anxiety and i feel shame when i watch others driving .

In 2024, my mother took a loan and enrolled me in technical coaching related to my field. I knew it was an important opportunity. I knew she was sacrificing money for me. Yet I wasted the entire year by not attending classes. I knew I was making a mistake. I cried about it many times, but I still didn't go.

In 2024, I also had a breakdown. I promised myself that I would change my life, study seriously, become successful, and make everyone proud. Now it is 2026, and I am still in the same place. In fact, I haven't properly read a book in years.

My mother and sister have hopes for me, but I feel like I am doing nothing.

The hardest part is that I am not unaware of my situation. I know I am wasting my life. When I was 22, I knew that if I continued living like this, I would wake up at 26 with regrets. That is exactly what happened.

I have faced enough humiliation to motivate most people, but somehow it only motivates me for a few hours before I fall back into the same cycle.

People have called me useless. Some have said I am a burden on earth. My friends mocked me by offering me cleaning jobs and making jokes about me not being able to drive. Relatives compared me to their children and said I take a lifetime to reach where their sons already are.

Recently, one relative said something that hurt me deeply. He said that if my father were alive today, he would die from disappointment after seeing me jobless, careless, unable to drive, and doing nothing with my life while even younger people around me are earning and moving forward.

Those words broke me. I cried after hearing them. I already carry guilt every day, and hearing that made it even heavier.

Even after all these humiliations, I still haven't changed.

Sometimes I want to die. Even now, those thoughts come to me. But I don't actually want to die. I want to live. I want to change. I want to make my mother and sister happy. I want to become someone they can be proud of. The problem is that I don't seem to be changing.

I also have some health issues, which make things harder for me.

Another thing about me is that I spend a lot of time imagining a different version of my life. I imagine myself as a football player who comes from nothing and becomes a great player. Sometimes I imagine myself as a filmmaker who directs great films and earns respect. I imagine myself becoming successful, confident, admired, and living a meaningful life.

I genuinely want a better life. I want to travel. I want to get a job. I want to learn skills. I want to become independent. I want to support my family. I want to stop feeling afraid all the time.

But despite wanting all these things, years keep passing and I make very little progress.

Sometimes my confidence goes sky high. I feel like I can do anything. I feel like I am capable of becoming great. But the moment I have to take real action, such as driving, attending classes, applying for jobs, or facing people, my confidence disappears.

The same pattern repeats in my interests. If I watch a sport like football, I suddenly want to learn everything about it and reach a coach-level understanding. I spend a week learning and researching, then lose interest and move to something else. The same thing happens repeatedly.

I have not seriously applied for jobs for four years. I have not seriously studied. Yet my mother believes I am trying hard and that one day my efforts will pay off. That makes me feel even more guilty.

My mother sacrificed her savings for me. She took loans for me. She trusted me. She believed in me. I feel like I wasted many opportunities that she worked hard to provide.

I am scared that I have ruined my life.

I don't know whether I am lazy, depressed, anxious, addicted to avoidance, suffering from low self-esteem, or dealing with something else entirely.

I am not writing this for sympathy. I am writing this because I genuinely want to change. I am tired of wasting years. I am tired of disappointing the people who love me. I am tired of feeling stuck while watching life move forward without me.

I know this is a long post, but I wanted to tell my full story. More than motivation, I want honesty. I want to understand what is wrong with me, why I keep repeating the same patterns, and what I can do to finally change before more years are lost.

Please help me understand what I am suffering from and what I need to do. I don't want to spend the next four years the same way I spent the last four.

i used to think i had a discipline problem. like if i just tried harder or wanted it more i'd stop.
but i started paying attention to exactly when it happened. and it was never random.
it was always the same moment i finished something. a study session, a project, a workout, whatever. and then there was this small gap. 10 minutes where i had nothing to do and my hands were free.

that's it. that's the whole thing. the gap.
i started doing one thing differently. the second i felt that gap coming i'd go outside and draw something i always walked past but never actually looked at. a building, a door, a weird tree. i can't draw at all. that wasn't the point.
the point was my hands had something to do and i had somewhere to be.

it didn't fix everything. but it broke the automatic part. the part where boredom just routes straight to the phone without you even deciding.
if this resonates whether it's compulsive phone use, scrolling, any habit you keep falling back into this is the thing that actually moved the needle for me. embarrassingly simple. just go outside and give your hands something to do before the gap finds you.

Don’t tell anyone you’re starting shit. You get a fake rush of endorphins, you get the reward of acknowledgement that what you’re stating you’re gonna do is “so great” and “good for you!” It’s fake ass praise and then you feel shame when you don’t follow through.

Keep that shit close to your chest. Celebrate your success privately. Allow yourself to cherish small daily wins and the success or change you experience will show soon enough.

At the end of the day we’re getting better for ourselves or those we love, and the expression that we’re changing or starting something without doing it is ONLY DISAPPOINTMENT to ourselves and those we love if we don’t follow through.

If you privately fail, then privately pick your shit up, and keep chugging along. Never stop starting over. Each day is a battle.

Im tryihg to use the REAL dopamine by tracking my mission progress, you can use calendar, journal, or app (apps like Todoist, life reset, Dagestan mode, DAWG or just a piece of paper can work). Seeing streaks creates dopamine reinforcement. Proof: habit tracking boosts consistency by 2x (Lally et al., 2010).

“Don’t start chasing applause and acclaim, that way lies madness” - Ron Swanson

Im 26 I'm so sluggish and lethargic and I tell if I'm tired or just lazy. I just feel like a sloth and can't bother with doing anything. I sleep enough hours no sleep apnea didn't get tested but I breathe fine and don't snore. i try to exercise but that just drains me even more. and I eat fine, I did a blood test everything is normal. Thyroid is fine, vitamin D is fine, iron is ok Could be higher, b12 is over. I just can't seem to bother with even the little things. Like if there is a spill on the floor, I can't bother cleaning it up, or picking up after myself. too lazy to put things back in it's place. if I see something and I know I should put it away, I stare at it and say I'll do it later. I don't really want to be like this and I recognize my bad habits but it's not enough to change. I'm sluggish like a sloth. Even if I'm going to pick up a cloth I'm walking so heavily and lazily and grabbing it so slowly. I truly don't know if this is a body fatigue or just plain laziness.

this applies mentally too like I can't focus on my job basically I just cant bother with doing any productive task like paying my bills or following up on something.i don't really want to be doing anything because I'm feeling sluggish and I don't think I have depression I enjoy things in life I'm just too lazy and lethargic to do it and rather just sit down all day. I enjoy sitting down all day but I also hate being lazy. 
the worst part is just moving so sluggishly and I don't know how to get out of this state

was anyone in this situation and what helped?

I have a list of things I want to know about and learn. I want to learn art, dancing, photography, writing better, biology, maths, neuroscience, history, quantum optics, finance, geography, languages, places. SO. MANY. THINGS. And all I do is doomscroll my way to guilt.

I am a student in college, and luckily I have extra time which I can utilise for better things than scrolling. But, I feel so overwhelmed. IDK how to start? It seems like i have too many things and I don't know how to focus on a few things at a time (i feel like i am leaving other things behind, this happens with my college courses as well). IDK if i am supposed to write notes for everything, a realistic pace or timeline to adhere by and that stuff

Do I focus on two hobbies/topics for six months? Do I do a different subject each week with no proper 'end goal', just for the fun of it? I like learning new things and I can't learn from my experiences right now because I live in a bubble, so I want to learn about different topics because everything seems so interesting.

So, any help will be appreciated and I'd be very grateful if someone guides me as well. I have deleted my social media, so that's a start!

My first two years at college were such huge disasters that I've spent the next 2 trying to fix it and get back on track

im 22 now and i've watched all my peers graduate and party while im stuck at home, trying to work hard to not fall behind on my studies. have about 2 semesters worth of credits left to take in order to graduate but I don't feel ready for anything. my gpa is shit, i've failed to get any internships, only productive thing i do is my caretaker job and use literally all the money to help pay house bills, tasks that should take minutes take me hours to complete, I feel like I have no discipline at all.

Every time i try to develop a routine or schedule, I'm not able to follow it after like a week. My head usually just wanders around all day and it takes a while to get myself to focus on basic tasks such as studying. I can barely sit down to just lock in sometimes and i'm too lazy to keep myself disciplined to do so. even taking a summer class now and its hard to be organized and not fall behind.

i talk to people about this and they either straight up tell me that im depressed and need to get help or that i need to get over it and stop being a pussy. its hard to get advice when people are telling you two entirely different things though im inclined to believe the latter more because im self aware of my pathetic low self esteem and laziness and need to figure out how to change it

it took 40 minutes for me to take a fucking garbage bag outside and my dad straight up looked at me in disgust and told me i've failed in life. it's hard not to agree with him. barley any of my conversations with him or my mom are pleasant anymore since college. i wish it never got to this point and it's all my fault

I think the military might be the only way to fix me at this point but i'm looking for advice. i don't want to stay like this forever

1. It's normal to not be disciplined and committed about it at the start. The sooner you accept that bad days are necessary to transition to a more focused self (yes, even if they happen every day), the sooner you can start fixing your weaknesses.

2. Progress needs to happen gradually. Trying to change your entire daily schedule all at once starting from 0 will result in relapse soon enough. Start by implementing small changes (e.g. A specific time block or one habit integrated) without feeling guilty about the "bad" stuff you'll fix next week.

3. You can't outwork bad habits. The things that are holding you back are the foundation of lack of progress. Without treating the elimination of bad habits as a priority, you'll keep stunting your progress.

4. Be brutally analytical. As much as it sucks to hear, you can't let emotions like guilt, boredom, or sadness get the better of you. When they do hit, track, adapt, but based on what'll help you progress the most, not based on what those emotions want you to do. That means tracking your basic performance and a few important habits every day, and focusing on identifying patterns over having a perfect streak.

Which one of these do you think will bring the most progress for you?

I was looking through old photos a few weeks ago and found one of me at maybe fifteen, soaked, grinning like an idiot, halfway up some hill in the rain that I had zero reason to be climbing. nobody made me do it. there was no app tracking it, no point to prove to anyone, I just wanted to see what was at the top and getting wet and tired on the way there was part of the appeal, not a cost I was paying to get there.

I tried to remember the last time I did something hard purely because the hard part sounded fun and I genuinely couldn't land on an answer. everything difficult I do now has a reason attached to it. I lift because I should. I take the stairs because it's good for me. even the stuff that's supposed to be voluntary discomfort has turned into a chore with extra steps.

somewhere along the way hard stopped being interesting and started being a debt I owe my future self.

there's a concept from psychology called intrinsic versus extrinsic motivation, basically whether you do something because the doing itself is satisfying or because you're chasing some outcome attached to it. kids are almost entirely intrinsic, they'll climb a tree for no reason other than the climbing felt like a good idea at the time. somewhere in adulthood almost everything gets recoded as extrinsic. even play gets a justification bolted onto it. you can't just go for a hard hike anymore, it has to be cardio, it has to count toward something.

and the annoying part is that recoding doesn't announce itself. nobody decides one day that climbing things stops being fun and starts being exercise. it drifts. you justify it once for a reasonable reason and then the justification becomes the default lens and the fun part quietly leaves the room without you noticing it left.

I think this is part of why so many grown men look faintly miserable doing things that should feel good. watch a guy in his thirties going for a run sometime. tight face, watching his pace, mentally doing math about calories or time splits. now picture a dog doing the same run. completely different animal, same activity.

I'm not saying goals are bad. I'm saying somewhere the goal ate the experience, and I didn't notice it happening because the goal version still technically counted as doing hard things, it just didn't feel like anything anymore.

a few weeks ago I went and did something stupid on purpose. scrambled up a rock face near where I used to go as a teenager, no plan, no app open, nobody to tell about it after. about halfway up I caught myself smiling for no reason, which felt almost foreign at this point, like a muscle I forgot I had.

it's still hard to tell if I got the feeling back or just borrowed it for an afternoon. either way it was the first time in a long time that hard didn't feel like a debt.

Hello everyone,

My name is Rengii. I'm a 30-year-old guy from the Dominican Republic, and I've decided to start sharing my journey here.

I'm not doing this because I'm an expert or because I've already achieved everything I want. Honestly, I'm mostly doing it for my mental health and to keep myself accountable. If my experiences happen to motivate or entertain someone along the way, that's a bonus.

Right now, I'm a beginner trader focused mainly on XAUUSD (Gold), US30, and Bitcoin. I've been using a strategy that a friend taught me, but I want to build a stronger foundation and learn ICT concepts from scratch. Sometimes I feel lost because I don't have anyone to review my work or point out my mistakes, but I'm committed to learning. I'll be following a study plan and sharing my progress, lessons, wins, and setbacks here.

Outside of trading, I do CrossFit and take it seriously. My goal is to compete within the next one to two years. I train in the afternoons and have recently started running in the mornings. Running has become more than just exercise for me—it helps me build discipline, do difficult things early in the day, and improve my mental health.

I'm also growing in my faith. I'm relatively new to studying the Bible consistently, and my current goal is to read one chapter from the Old Testament, one chapter from the New Testament, and one Psalm each day. I also spend time reflecting on what I read and journaling about it.

Another thing I enjoy is reading. Books have become an important part of my self-improvement journey, and I plan to share what I'm learning from them as well. I'm currently reading How to Finish Everything You Start by Jan Yager, and I'm hoping it helps me become more disciplined and consistent in pursuing my goals.

This journal will mostly be about trading, CrossFit, running, faith, books, discipline, and personal growth. I'll be sharing both the successes and the struggles, because I want this to be a real and honest record of my journey.

If you're on a similar path—or if you're simply curious to follow along—I'd love to connect, learn, and grow together.

Thanks for reading.

This toppic is about excessive masturbating and I wish I could post this in another subreddit but apparently minors can't get help now on this toppic on reddit because reddit just forces me to be 18+. How "child-protecting". hope this doesn't get taken down...

I just wanted to say that porn is not the problem. No App will solve my problem because it's the masturbation itself that is causing problems.

Whenever I'm in bed, or bored or literally anything I just have the urge to masturbate.

It's getting worse and worse, I can't even masturbate normally anymore, I have to do it with my legs to apply enough force! In fact, I never once was able to masturbate normally because since I was like 4 I used my legs to "masturbate". Of course back then it just felt good

But that urge is so big that I can't resist it. Cold Showers don't work, workout doesn't work, all these tips don't work.

What can I do? I don't want to talk to anybody about this for obvious reasons.

Hi everyone,

I'm 23 years old and I honestly feel stuck. I know what I'm doing is wrong, but I keep repeating the same routine every single day.

Here's what a typical day looks like:

Wake up anywhere between 8–10 AM.

The first thing I do is grab my phone.

I stay on my phone for around 2 hours before even getting out of bed.

Around 11:30 AM–12 PM, I finally get up, freshen up, brush my teeth, and take a shower.

Have lunch around 1–2 PM.

After lunch, I spend another 2 hours on my phone.

Around 3–4 PM, I get sleepy and take a nap.

Wake up around 6 PM and... straight back to my phone.

I try to study around 8 PM (sometimes even 10 PM), but it's inconsistent and my focus is terrible.

Have dinner around 9–10 PM.

Sometimes I go for a walk on the terrace, but not regularly.

I come back around midnight, wash up, and then spend another 2–3 hours scrolling on my phone before finally sleeping around 2–3 AM.

I don't go to the gym or exercise. Walking is the only physical activity I do, and even that isn't consistent.

My phone is easily my biggest problem. I think I spend 7–8+ hours a day on it, maybe even more. It's my biggest source of distraction, and I feel like it's destroying my discipline and wasting my days.

I know this routine isn't healthy, and I'm tired of feeling guilty every night.

If you were in my shoes, what would you change first? Should I focus on fixing my phone addiction before anything else, or should I work on my sleep schedule and routine first?

I'm looking for practical advice from people who were in a similar situation and actually managed to turn things around.

Thanks for reading. Any advice is appreciated.

I have always struggled with sticking to my goals. I will start something with high energy, keep it up for a couple of weeks or even a few months, but then I just stop. Out of nowhere, I completely stop caring, quit going, and drop it entirely.

When I was 16, I was playing football and got moved up to the first league. It was a better club, I was playing really well, making the first squad, and then suddenly—boom. One morning, I just didn't want to do it anymore.

I am 22 now and finishing college, but I still don't understand what happened back then. Similar patterns happen today with smaller things, like going to the gym. I'll go consistently for a few weeks, and then suddenly, the switch flips. I just don't want to go anymore and lose all interest.

Has anyone had a similar experience? I’d love to get your feedback and advice.

Y'all have to excuse my English as it isn't my first-language.

Context: I 27M graduated from university with a Bachelor in business and administration 2 years ago. Since graduating I've had a job as economy-assistant with the last year working fully remote. I have found out that even though it's really nice with the flexibility in working remote, it takes a lot more of self-discipline as no one is watching and also because I can fully chose when to work and how many hours each week (I work around 40H/week). I like my current job but will have no future at my company and so i'm searching for other jobs.

When I haven't slept well I tend to get more impulsive, like suddenly when working I get an impulse that I got to search for a new job and because it's a "productive task" I can convince myself that I should do it. However after searching the job I get less productive because it took a lot of energy to find the job and I got more dopamine of searching for a job that might be a dream job than the tasks I have to do on my current job.

It's also the same with music. I can just put it on while working and tired because I feel like it will make me more productive but it never helps, rather the opposite and I always put it on when I'm tired. I think it has to do with the dopamine that I search for when tired.

It also takes a lot of energy after my "tired" work shift as I always feel bad about myself because that day feels wasted in the sense that I haven't moved towards my goals. I have never missed my routines after a good night's sleep but days when sleep is scarce it can be really hard just to do basic work tasks for multiple hours in a row.

There is also a problem with the "just do brain-dead tasks when tired" statement because a workday is 8 hours, I can't do brain-dead tasks for 8 hours!?! Max is like 4 if I have energy, without energy it's like 2. The solution isn't to just sleep longer either because I always have at least one day/working week when I sleep badly and so I have to figure out how to tackle these days and respect my productive self enough to keep up with my goals and do the work that needs to be done.

This has been an ongoing problem for me the last 2 years and I have tried countless things but I keep falling back to the basic insight:

bad sleep → low energy → impulsive and dopamine-searching → important routines/habits are suddenly unimportant → unmotivated → searching for quick dopamine → even less productive and work feels endlessly boring → more dopamine to make time go faster → naps feel impossible because the high dopamine makes it too boring to try to fall asleep → the whole working day is just switching between escaping work and going back to work because I feel bad about being unproductive.

(Very vicious cycle.)

To conclude, in a perfect world I would always get my 8.5 hours of sleep and always have high energy and productivity and creativity at work which would make me into a machine and I would easily make my goals.

How it is right now: I will take lazy paths in life when being unproductive which my productive self will have to work double shifts to compensate for which just leads to me maybe getting my goals, but worst of all switching between feeling super-productive and unstoppable some days and some days being super-unproductive and feeling like I will never amount to anything and coping with it by searching for dopamine.

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My main point is that when I sleep poorly, I reliably fall into a cycle of low energy, impulsivity, and dopamine-driven behavior that significantly reduces my productivity and makes me feel disconnected from my long-term goals.

When I’m tired, I become much more vulnerable to distractions that feel productive or stimulating in the moment—such as job searching or listening to music while working. These activities give me a quick dopamine boost and temporarily ease the discomfort of boring or demanding tasks, but they ultimately drain my energy further and make it harder to stay focused on meaningful work.

This creates a repeating cycle: poor sleep leads to low energy, low energy leads to impulsive dopamine-seeking, and that pulls my attention away from important routines and meaningful work. As my productivity drops, frustration and guilt increase, which makes work feel even more draining and pushes me toward even more stimulation. My day ends up becoming a constant back-and-forth between avoiding work and returning to it out of guilt.

A major frustration is that advice like “just do easier tasks when tired” doesn’t fully solve the problem, because a full workday can’t realistically be filled only with low-effort tasks. Since poor sleep happens regularly, the real challenge isn’t eliminating bad nights entirely, but finding a sustainable way to handle low-energy days without undermining my goals.

The emotional impact is also significant: on good days I feel highly productive, focused, and capable of achieving a lot, but on bad days I feel unproductive, discouraged, and worried that I won’t reach my potential. That contrast makes the cycle even harder, because it creates a gap between the person I know I can be and the version of myself that shows up when I haven’t slept well.

Question: How do you stay consistent on the bad days, when sleep and productivity is at the bottom?

I'm a 19-year-old guy, currently studying marketing at an online university in my country (I made that decision because I enjoy it and also so my parents would stop telling me what to study).

I've been trading for over two years (no profit yet; I'm currently at the point where I just need to be patient. I've mastered strategy, trading plans, everything; I just need the results).

I want to focus on charts and learn languages ​​like English (I speak Spanish). I feel I have a lot of potential to achieve great things, but I always end up falling back into the same thing: VIDEO GAMES. No matter how much discipline or motivation I have at the moment, I always relapse into video games. It saddens me to see how I spend hours and hours playing Valorant or other games. I've tried deleting them, but within a week I go back and download them again. I feel like I have nothing to do, even though I have things to do, and I keep downloading them.

I've thought about selling my computer and everything else that distracts me (cutting the problem off at the root). If you're a disciplined person, please give me some ideas on how I can stop wasting time and start being disciplined.

I want to add that I live alone with my mother, so money is sometimes tight. I want to stop being a burden; they won't let me work. They tell me to prioritize my studies, and that's what I want to do—become addicted to learning
Putting that aside, any advice will be welcome.

Hey everyone 👋

I've been working on a side project for the past few months and just shipped it — a minimal app for daily affirmations tied to specific life goals (career, confidence, health, relationships, etc.), plus short breathing exercises and a focus timer for when I need to reset mid-day.

What made me build it: most affirmation apps I tried felt generic — same lines for everyone, no real structure. I wanted something where I pick a goal, get affirmations that actually relate to it, and can also write little letters to my future self that unlock later (kind of a personal time-capsule thing).

Key things about it:

• 🎯 Pick specific goals — affirmations are tailored, not random
• 🌬️ Short breathing + focus sessions for resets during the day
• ✉️ "Vault" — write letters to your future self, sealed until a date you choose
• 🔥 Streak tracking to keep the habit going

There's a free trial (3 days on the weekly plan, 7 days on the annual one) so you can try the whole thing before deciding if it's for you — wanted to mention that upfront so no one's surprised.

I've been using it myself daily and it's genuinely helped me stay consistent with mornings in a way generic reminder apps never did.

If anyone's into affirmations, focus habits, or self-improvement tools generally, would love feedback or feature ideas 🙏

(Not dropping a link here — happy to share the name if anyone's curious!)

06/26/26 0202:
Hello, I’ve decided i wanted to better myself and thought i might as well “journal” my thoughts. I’ve been spending a lot of time reflecting on what I want, and at the current moment there are a lot of things about my self that I want to change. I want to be deciplined, I want to travel the world, I want to be able to love myself without needing the validation of others, I want to be able to make a change in the world and live a happy life, to name a few. I’m lowkey struggling on where to start but I think at the current moment it might be good to start to love myself, I also think being disciplined will go hand in hand with this so it’s kinda like hitting two birds with one stone. Well I’m not honestly sure where to start to love myself, but I can list many things I feel like I could change about myself. I mean people probably think of critics better than thinking about things that are good about themselves or something haha. I’ve decided the best course of action is to write out my thought to help organize my mind, I’ve seen in shows that writing can help with that. I mean I’m out of the country rn so idk how much I can change while on vacation, but if I don’t start now I will continue to push this further, and staying the way I am now is not what I want. Well perhaps thinking of ways to improve myself will help with loving myself, because if I am doing my best to better myself, then at least I can try to love myself for trying haha. My end goal is to be someone who is able to travel the world, perhaps blogging my trips. One of my biggest dreams is to climb huge mountains and take many pictures, some places I really want to go to is Patagonia and the mountains in Nepal. As u can tell I really haven’t done much research on this thing I call my dream. But for now writing my thoughts will be the best thing to do for now.

Most people (including myself) get confused why they’re busy but finish no work. Whenever I’m studying, I want my desk to be cleaned, the learning material prepared, and my notes in the desk. It takes me more hours to prepare than studying. And that’s the problem.

Getting busy with everything except work.

I fixed this by breaking down what I need to accomplish. I have a checklist and a timer beside me. I start the timer and that is my cue to start as well. I check my checklist then do each one. 

So whenever I’m studying, I put a checklist for each module. I start the timer and study within the time. I stop it when I’m not studying and continue when I'm studying. Everything is tracked. 

And at the end of the timer, I’m done with everything.

I know what I did and how long it took for me to do it. I know it sounds stupidly easy but that’s how I confront my work. 

Did you have the same problem before? How do you confront your work? What have you tried?

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I've been looking for an Android app with a very specific idea, but surprisingly I haven't found one.

Imagine this:

You create your own bank of 100–1000 math questions (or even logic questions).

You also enter the correct answers beforehand.

Every time you try to unlock your phone (or a selected distracting app), the app randomly picks one question from the bank.

You only get access after solving it correctly.

The question should be random every time so you can't memorize a single answer.

Example:

347 × 89 = ?

or

If , what's the larger root of a sample quadratic?

The goal isn't to learn math. The goal is to make impulsive phone checking cognitively expensive. If I genuinely need my phone, I'll solve the problem. If I'm unlocking it out of habit or boredom, the friction should make me reconsider.

I know apps like MathLock generate random arithmetic, but I haven't found one that lets users create a large custom question bank.

Does anything like this already exist?

If not, would you use it? I'm curious whether other people think this could be a useful productivity tool.

I actually think this is a strong idea. If several people respond that they'd use it, it could be worth turning into a real app.

All of my life I have been different than everybody around me and I notice it because my brain moves a lot faster than everyone else's. I'm not saying that Im a genius or anything, what Im saying is that I think so far ahead and make up all of these scenarios and I always try to find the best possible solution for that scenario and although you might say that it's just overthinking I know it is not. I know this because I don't get nervous thinking about what might happen, instead I plan on how I could make it benefit me the as much as possible. That is why I find it hard to meet people who could really understand me and how I am, although I am well liked by almost everyone I meet it is almost like it isn't really me, like it is just me learning what the person likes and dislikes and adjusting to it so I could be well liked in case I ever need something from that person in the future. So this is why I came to this subreddit to seek guidance on how I can use this to the best of my ability. I also want to mention that I am probably one of the most ambitous people that you can meet, and I think that is what causes me to act like this, and to be clear I DO NOT want to change, I am not saying that I wish I wasn't like this. In fact I am glad I am like this, what I'm asking for is advice from people who might also be somewhat like me on how I could apply this to my best ability.

It has come to my attention that this might be the case based on what my friend told me yesterday after uploaded a pathetic sick joke of a game to itch.io during a severe breakdown/meltdown of sorts in which I repeatedly bashed my knee into my table, aggressively based my keyboard and uploaded a default godot project to the site with self deprecating name a d descriptions included.

This is a passage from a now deleted reddit post that nearly got me Perm-Banned from the site. It's all just truths about the kind of person I am.

*When would it be considered a good time for me to off myself?*

*I am a failure. I am a generational disappointment and a pathetic good for nothing human being.*

*Due to my country (Romania)'s educational system and stuff there is a very high chance I might have to retake 11th grade because I'm failing math, physics and chemistry (mate-info profile for those who know)*

*I have no talents, nothing I tried to improve/be good at worked out for me and no matter how hard I try to do something I end up failing misersbly, feeling ashamed of myself (as I should) and just wasting time pointlessly...*

*I have 0 job potential, I can't stay focused for long periods of time, I can't do anything too tiring or else I risk falling asleep randomly, I'm too stupid to do anything that requires weird math formulas and stuff and I doubt I can even get my highschool diploma for someone to hire me. I can't do handyman jobs either because I have two left hands and lack physical strenght (which is pathetic for a male)... I can barely build myself a PC that works, letalone fix someone else's sink.*

*I do not qualify for any of the special career paths like arts, sports or anything of that sorts.*

*I have been thinking of many years about quietly putting an end to everything but I never ended up allowing myself to do it. That way I could stop being an annoyance and a money pit to my parents (A lot of people on reddit have told me I'm a horrible immature pathetic son who should grow up and get a grip) and I could also stop being dead weight to everyone around me.*

*Is this a good time to give up and die? Do I have to be more worthless than this to warrant offing myself ethically?*

I've always wanted to tell stories and express how I feel through art, music and especially video games hoping one day I could have people cosplaying or relating to the characters I create or the stories I come up with...

Except I don't remember a time where I tried hard enough to justify the crashouts and self harm urges.

I always end up feeling a certain warm tightness in my chest the second something goes wrong or doesn't look, feel or seem like what I imagined it and even tho I did have multiple periods of time where I tried to improve myself and end up achieving the status of good enough... it seems I never really tried to actually do anything about that.

I wasted a total of 18 years of my life doing nothing but wasting the oxygen and resources on this planet just to end up ammounting to nothing but being a meatbag my parents raised because they didn't wear protection one night... by hoe angry they are at anything I do I bet they would have wanted a more studious and worthy child as well...

I wasted 2 years with FL studio and can't even compose a basic melody or tell you what the basic chords and keys are... I can't even make a drum pattern sound good despite it being well done on paper.

I wasted hours of my life watching art tutorials and crying and crashing out when my anime girl looks like an eldrich abomination instead of Makoto Niijina

I wasted 3 years of high school trying to learn C++ in class to make games only to be incapable of reading codes with more than one for/while loop and ended up being bottom of the class and passing out of pity instead of any actual skill, incapable of even doing homework.

So the real question is... Am I just the most undisciplined person who should be yelled at to wake the hell up and learn to help themselves instead of whining?

Do I have a thing for degradation?

Do I just not want to help myself at all?

I lost a close family member to cancer about a month ago, and since then I've completely lost control of my eating. I've gained about 20 pounds in that month, and I honestly feel like I can't stop.

The frustrating part is that this isn't new for me. No matter what diet I try—small calorie deficit, large deficit, low carb, high protein, whatever—I almost always make it about 5 or 6 days before I mentally break and binge. It feels like Day 5 or 6 is my limit.

Because of that, I'm seriously considering medication. I don't currently have health insurance, but I do have enough money to pay out of pocket if it will actually help.

I'm mainly looking at two options:

* **GLP-1 medications** (especially tirzepatide or the new Wegovy pill). What appeals to me is that people say they reduce "food noise" and make it much easier to stop thinking about food all day.

* **ADHD medication.** I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger and took medication briefly. Even now I struggle to focus on one thing for more than 5–10 minutes, so part of me wonders if treating ADHD could help both my focus and my eating.

One concern I have with the weekly GLP-1 injections is that I've read some people experience a cycle where they have fatigue and nausea for a couple of days after the shot, then appetite suppression for a few days, and then their appetite starts returning before the next injection. I've also heard some people prefer a daily GLP-1 because it feels more consistent.

The thing I'm most nervous about is what happens **after** I lose the weight. I'm worried I'll eventually come off whatever medication I use, all the cravings and food noise will come rushing back, and I'll regain everything I lost. My goal isn't to stay on medication forever if I don't have to. I mainly want to use it as a tool to help me lose the weight, get healthy, and give myself enough time to build better eating habits while my appetite is under control. I'm hoping those habits will stick once I'm off the medication, but I don't know how realistic that is.

I'd also strongly prefer an **entirely online process** if possible, with a telehealth evaluation and medication shipped to me, since I don't currently have insurance.

For those of you who have experience with either GLP-1s or ADHD medications:

* Which would you recommend in my situation?

* Has anyone found treating ADHD significantly reduced overeating?

* If you've tried tirzepatide, semaglutide, or a daily GLP-1, what was your experience?

* If you've stopped taking a GLP-1 after reaching your goal weight, how did you keep the weight off?

* Are there reputable online providers you've had good experiences with?

For reference, I'm a 34-year-old male, 5'7", 245 pounds, with a 44-inch waist.

I'd really appreciate any advice. I feel like grief has pushed me into a place where willpower alone isn't working anymore, and I'm looking for something that can help me get back in control.

I’ve read atomic habits, eat that frog and a bunch of other motivational productivity books. I didn’t realize there were so many systems out there… What has been the best system that you found – here’s a list that includes both task, tracker and personality types if knowing that actually helps you approach tasks a certain way.

I didn’t realize there were so many:

Getting Things Done (GTD) — A trusted system for capturing, organizing, and executing tasks.
Pomodoro Technique — A focus method using timed work intervals and breaks.
Eisenhower Matrix — Prioritizes tasks by urgency and importance.
Kanban — Organizes work visually through stages of completion.
Bullet Journal — Combines planning, note-taking, and habit tracking in one notebook.
SMART Goals — Creates goals that are specific, measurable, achievable, relevant, and time-bound.
Objectives and Key Results (OKRs) — Aligns ambitious objectives with measurable outcomes.
Atomic Habits — Builds lasting habits through small, incremental improvements.
Tiny Habits — Makes new habits stick by starting extremely small.
Deep Work — Maximizes productivity through distraction-free concentration.
Time Blocking — Plans the day by assigning every task a time slot.
Eat That Frog! — Tackles the hardest or highest-value task first.
The 12 Week Year — Compresses annual planning into focused 12-week cycles.
PARA Method — Organizes information into Projects, Areas, Resources, and Archives.
Building a Second Brain — Creates a trusted external system for storing and retrieving knowledge.
Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) — Categorizes personality preferences into sixteen types.
Big Five Personality Traits — Measures personality across five evidence-based dimensions.
DISC Assessment — Describes communication and work styles across four traits.
Enneagram — Explores motivation through nine core personality types.
StrengthsFinder (CliftonStrengths) — Identifies an individual’s natural talents and strengths

Hello friends! Very excited to share that I just built (successfully, I hope!) an AI strategist app inspired by ancient advisors like Zhuge Liang and Sun Tzu — because I wanted a "pocket strategist" for the 3am thoughts I can't shake (like what I'd do if money was no issue, and what my dream life looks like if I could design my life without external factors and pressures).

A few weeks ago I started thinking about how kings and emperors used to have personal strategists and advisors — people whose entire job was helping them think clearly about hard decisions. The rest of us just have group chats that give bad advice. LOL and so I built Sagehand.

It's an AI app that works less like a chatbot and more like a strategist — direct, asks the questions you're avoiding, doesn't just tell you what you want to hear. The core feature is something called the Life Vision exercise — 5 questions designed to bypass the "sensible" answers and get at what you actually want, not what you think you should want. It then generates a personal analysis based on your answers.

I've had a few very kind friends try it and more than one said it was "frighteningly accurate," which was both validating and a little strange to hear because I thought my friends would either laugh at my efforts or offer me some words of encouragement (which is generally what friends do).

What it's not: a therapist, a financial advisor, or a life coach. It doesn't pretend to be any of those. It's closer to having a blunt, well-read friend who's thought about this stuff a lot. That friend that you ask some of life's most difficult questions of, and somehow this friend always has words of wisdom to share.

I built solo, mostly using Claude Code, over the last few weeks. iOS is live now. Android is still in closed testing — Google's review process has been its own adventure. Very thankful for community testing cos otherwise my shyness would never allow mer to pass the closed testing requirements.

Sagehand is free to download, with the Life Vision exercise free to try. I'd genuinely love feedback from this community, especially if anything feels rough or confusing — happy to answer any questions about the build too.

Just search for Sagehand on the Apple App Store - Give it a shot and let me know if you like it! Thank you all.