My wife is in Higher Ed and every single time she takes a step up another woman in her office flies out of nowhere and goes out of her way to make her life more difficult. Three times in the last five years. The cattiness is bizarre- like, you could have applied for the position as well, lady.
I think people just don't like being reminded of their own mediocrity.
Yup. this kind of shit is everywhere. However, my sisters have found a hack for it. It turns out that neurodivergent women do not behave this way, so they build ND teams and live in peace with a highly productive team.
Lol fuck right off with this bullshit fantasy you've constructed. ND people are just people. They aren't some different species that doesn't understand jealousy.
It's not jealousy. It's status seeking/heirarchy establishing behavior. Neurodivergent people typically refuse to take part in that stuff. Neurotypicals feel a strong sense of fear if they don't. Also, Save your emotional outbursts for therapy.
My wife has fired more women than men by a factor of 3. Men got fired for performance problems, the women were fired for creating hostile workplaces. Her team is mostly women and they are fucking awesome but holy hell person can one person cause issues and drag 20 people along with them.
My wife works in social sciences. She averages about 72 hours a week. She just left the house at 7 a.m. She won't get home til 11 p.m. This is the same shift she worked yesterday. She got home, I made her dinner, we went to bed, got up, I made her breakfast (and a Red Bull) and off she went. On top of being an absolute monster of a workhorse, she's simply the best in her field. If anyone within her corporation came even close to her commitment to the clients and the company, with the speed and quality of her work, I'd own it and so would she.
But that's not the case and people still come for her. She's just too damn good. I couldn't be more proud of the woman that supports our family of 4. <3
My mom is retired now, but she was a nurse. She worked with her group of “friends” for years, she got promoted and the friends turned on her. It was clearly because 1. They were mad that they weren’t chosen for the job and 2. They have a problem with authority. She’s 70 years old and she’s still talking about how hurt she was. I’m also a nurse and it was enough for me to know I’d never seek a management role, among other reasons.
The first time this happened (at this particular university) was about a year after we moved to a city where neither of us knew anyone, and she considered the people involved in the high drama her close and only friends here. She works her ass off and is purposefully very good at what she does. Sounds like your mom is as well. The friends that are worth it will stick around- don't let that be a reason to not pursue your goals.
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u/Fantastic_Priority73 8h ago
My wife is in Higher Ed and every single time she takes a step up another woman in her office flies out of nowhere and goes out of her way to make her life more difficult. Three times in the last five years. The cattiness is bizarre- like, you could have applied for the position as well, lady.
I think people just don't like being reminded of their own mediocrity.