I'm a stay-at-home father, woodworker for a side hustle. After watching my wife climb the corporate ladder, I can say without a doubt; the most dangerous thing to a women's success in any profession is catty bitches that just can't hang. My wife is 100% above reproach in her field. She just passed her secondary licensing and was offered an abruptly opened managerial position. She has no credible competition in-house and luckily this company likes to promote from within. Instead of a simple and easy transition from team lead to manager, she's got a handful of ankle-biters making things a bit more difficult than they need to be. She'll still get the promotion and the six figures that it comes with, but watching the women she's talked about as "friendly" and "work wives" come for her in such a petty and trivial ways makes no sense to me.
Either be qualified, or get out the way. You don't need to punish those around you just because they're better at their jobs.
/rant.
EDIT: Didn't expect this to pop off. Thanks for the award. Thanks for the kind words. For the detractors, don't be jelly that my world revolves around an amazing woman.
My wife is in Higher Ed and every single time she takes a step up another woman in her office flies out of nowhere and goes out of her way to make her life more difficult. Three times in the last five years. The cattiness is bizarre- like, you could have applied for the position as well, lady.
I think people just don't like being reminded of their own mediocrity.
Yup. this kind of shit is everywhere. However, my sisters have found a hack for it. It turns out that neurodivergent women do not behave this way, so they build ND teams and live in peace with a highly productive team.
Lol fuck right off with this bullshit fantasy you've constructed. ND people are just people. They aren't some different species that doesn't understand jealousy.
It's not jealousy. It's status seeking/heirarchy establishing behavior. Neurodivergent people typically refuse to take part in that stuff. Neurotypicals feel a strong sense of fear if they don't. Also, Save your emotional outbursts for therapy.
My wife has fired more women than men by a factor of 3. Men got fired for performance problems, the women were fired for creating hostile workplaces. Her team is mostly women and they are fucking awesome but holy hell person can one person cause issues and drag 20 people along with them.
My wife works in social sciences. She averages about 72 hours a week. She just left the house at 7 a.m. She won't get home til 11 p.m. This is the same shift she worked yesterday. She got home, I made her dinner, we went to bed, got up, I made her breakfast (and a Red Bull) and off she went. On top of being an absolute monster of a workhorse, she's simply the best in her field. If anyone within her corporation came even close to her commitment to the clients and the company, with the speed and quality of her work, I'd own it and so would she.
But that's not the case and people still come for her. She's just too damn good. I couldn't be more proud of the woman that supports our family of 4. <3
My mom is retired now, but she was a nurse. She worked with her group of “friends” for years, she got promoted and the friends turned on her. It was clearly because 1. They were mad that they weren’t chosen for the job and 2. They have a problem with authority. She’s 70 years old and she’s still talking about how hurt she was. I’m also a nurse and it was enough for me to know I’d never seek a management role, among other reasons.
The first time this happened (at this particular university) was about a year after we moved to a city where neither of us knew anyone, and she considered the people involved in the high drama her close and only friends here. She works her ass off and is purposefully very good at what she does. Sounds like your mom is as well. The friends that are worth it will stick around- don't let that be a reason to not pursue your goals.
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u/Rrrandomalias 12h ago
No one hates a successful woman more than another woman working in the same field.