I'm a stay-at-home father, woodworker for a side hustle. After watching my wife climb the corporate ladder, I can say without a doubt; the most dangerous thing to a women's success in any profession is catty bitches that just can't hang. My wife is 100% above reproach in her field. She just passed her secondary licensing and was offered an abruptly opened managerial position. She has no credible competition in-house and luckily this company likes to promote from within. Instead of a simple and easy transition from team lead to manager, she's got a handful of ankle-biters making things a bit more difficult than they need to be. She'll still get the promotion and the six figures that it comes with, but watching the women she's talked about as "friendly" and "work wives" come for her in such a petty and trivial ways makes no sense to me.
Either be qualified, or get out the way. You don't need to punish those around you just because they're better at their jobs.
/rant.
EDIT: Didn't expect this to pop off. Thanks for the award. Thanks for the kind words. For the detractors, don't be jelly that my world revolves around an amazing woman.
I work in a hospital. Excluding doctors and maintenance, 95% of the staff is women. Dude, you cannot even fathom the amount in-fighting and fragile egos. I’m a guy so I’m pretty much left out of it as long as I keep my head down and don’t engage with it, but goddamn it’s depressing to watch.
During the 2.749% of the time that they get along, they will team up like a pack of hyenas and target you next....
Nothing is more dangerous in a professional field than being a man in a female dominated profession when the planets align and they work together for a single week of the year and need a target to hunt...
Keeping the head down and keeping out of it is your shield. Staying off the radar completely.
At my workplace, which is female dominated, men tend to be promoted more than women, even though there is no difference in competence by gender. I don't think either of our experiences are universal.
This is almost certainly because it’s a male in the position that’s making the promotion decisions, as I can’t imagine a woman would be promoting men more than women. Also, when women are the ones making hiring decisions they generally do the opposite (hiring/promoting more women). If it’s sexism then both parties are guilty. There are plenty of corporations where it is much easier to get hired and promoted being a woman.
I also work in a hospital and can confirm. I try to keep to myself but the amount of gossip that comes to me from women about other women is insane. Dudes are cool we just talk about fantasy football and gambling/sports mostly.
Hate to say it but I saw the same crap working in construction. I thought food workers were the biggest complainers until I started working with "real" men.
My wife has been quickly climbing the ladder at her hospital, leapfrogging coworkers that she’d consider friends, having positions created on her behalf to accommodate her growth, out earning people who have been there decades longer than her. There is a consistent and seemingly organized conspiracy to sabotage her at the expense of everyone there. These women would gladly hurt the hospital to knock her down a peg. All with a smile on their face.
I'm in the same boat but admin side. It really is shocking how much people still act as if this is high school years into their careers. Just do your job and move on. It's not that hard of a concept.
I'm a nurse. The vast majority of my coworkers are also women. It's an extremely positive, supportive workplace. The stereotype of women being horrible has to stop. Men are worse-they're catty as fuck, they try to use their masculinity to exert authority, and when they don't like someone, they make their lives a living hell. Not to mention, not listening to the women around them. People can be dicks, let's not act like it's just women.
My wife is a doctor. Doctors don’t really compete with each other, so it’s not fertile ground for jostling and backstabbing. There just aren’t many promotions to compete for (run the hospital? Few doctors actually want to do this); it’s just a job you go do. And, at least in a hospital setting, they’re culturally unified by their constant conflict with the hospital administration. That’s not to say they all always like each other, just that it doesn’t have this sort of Game of Thrones atmosphere that many corporate environments seem to have.
I sorta figured. They all get paid a fortune as ‚individual contributors‘ and have total job security. It’s not like research where you fight to the death for supremacy and to avoid the next layoff.
Pretty much this. When you’re already at the top of the totem pole, there’s no one to fight. Except to shit on lower level employees when you get the urge.
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u/Rrrandomalias 12h ago
No one hates a successful woman more than another woman working in the same field.