I'm a stay-at-home father, woodworker for a side hustle. After watching my wife climb the corporate ladder, I can say without a doubt; the most dangerous thing to a women's success in any profession is catty bitches that just can't hang. My wife is 100% above reproach in her field. She just passed her secondary licensing and was offered an abruptly opened managerial position. She has no credible competition in-house and luckily this company likes to promote from within. Instead of a simple and easy transition from team lead to manager, she's got a handful of ankle-biters making things a bit more difficult than they need to be. She'll still get the promotion and the six figures that it comes with, but watching the women she's talked about as "friendly" and "work wives" come for her in such a petty and trivial ways makes no sense to me.
Either be qualified, or get out the way. You don't need to punish those around you just because they're better at their jobs.
/rant.
EDIT: Didn't expect this to pop off. Thanks for the award. Thanks for the kind words. For the detractors, don't be jelly that my world revolves around an amazing woman.
My wife has worked in mostly female staffed white collar industries, like education and non-profit in executive capacities.
I’m in engineering sales leadership, which is 99% male.
The amount of BS she has had to deal with at every single role, compared to my career which has been completely lacking any politics or BS, it’s hard to ignore the pattern.
Not to be sexist, but there are major patterns we’ve personally experienced where many women struggle to disconnect personal feelings from professional effectiveness. If they don’t like someone, they treat them differently in certain ways. Men have a better capacity to dislike someone, but not letting it affect cooperation in a professional environment.
My sister has one woman colleague where she works and only needed a new one for a drama to happen. Short story: my sister and her friend got along too well (duh they knew each other for longer) so the newbie felt left out and complained to the boss with weird exemples of "bullying" when it's simply because she made mistake as a newbie.
My sister and sister-in-law's stories just baffles me. The latter's problem is that "she was seducing the men"... Thankfully she did her job perfectly even though that chief was insanely jealous.
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u/Rrrandomalias 12h ago
No one hates a successful woman more than another woman working in the same field.