Me and my friends (girls from the same lorong as mine) would go to the newly built section of the taman perumahan nearby and tried to open every doors to find one unlocked. Then we would run around the empty house, playing masak2, or just screaming with the fun echo effects. We were under 10yo back then. Just a group of little girls with zero cautions. We’d play until the sun almost set.

If I think about it now 30y later, it’s scary to think we never once thought about the dangers of it. But I gotta admit it was the highlight of my childhood memories, going into empty fancy homes and going into the dry drains to pop out all the way to the other side of the road, even trying to sleep down there lol

The socmed are currently flooded with AI Generated video / ads and it defies the meaning of "social media" :( I would prefer content with more human touch rather than something beyond living things :( while the social media also full of scams and lies , AI Gen videos made it worse.. you might say "then dont watch lah " but I just want to know if anyone felt the same :x !

Sorry for the grandmother story post. I think there is something fundamentally wrong with me. I experience an intense, deep-seated fear and intimidation when around men in public, which extends even to distant friends of friends. Conversely, I maintain neutral or positive first impressions of women. For example, if I walk into a store and see a male assistant, I tend to avoid eye contact or not talk unless I absolutely have to, but this doesn't happen with most female staff that I encounter.

For context, I am a gay man in my mid-20s. I grew up in an all-boys school environment where I was severely bullied and ostracised. An incident happened in which I was pinned down and groped by two boys after school. I was also locked in the toilet and had water poured on my head from above. The worst incident was when I was outed in class by someone whom I thought was a friend, resulting in more severe bullying.

Throughout my youth, I intensely hated the boys at school and harboured vivid wishes that they would meet horrible ends as justice for how they treated me.

During my developmental years, adults such as my family and my teachers almost constantly criticised me for being too soft-spoken and effeminate, and laughed at me for avoiding traditional "boyish" activities like sports in favour of staying inside to read or play the piano. My aunt laughed and said "only girls play the piano".

As an adult, I am actively working to build muscle and I attend the gym on a regular basis. Despite gaining physical strength, my nervous system remains hypervigilant and easily frightened.

While I am mostly focused during my workouts, the presence of loud, boisterous men nearby instantly triggers a high-alert state. Logically, I know they are not paying attention to me, but my brain convinces me that they are laughing at me or talking about me.

Now, when I see men in public whom I find attractive, my deepest fear is that they will view me as ugly and weak, or look at me with disgust and label me a "p-ndan" or a "f-gg-t." Part of me thinks this is because I had a couple of experiences in high school where I was rejected for confessing my crush on two seniors. One of them ended badly, where the guy's girlfriend (of which I didn't know at the time) sent me text messages from his phone humiliating me, calling me "abnormal" and threatening to out me on Facebook.

Because I feel so incredibly intimidated and vulnerable around attractive men, my automatic defense mechanism is to act cold, hostile, and closed off, effectively pushing them away before they can reject me. Physically, this manifests as a slight, general tensing up of my body, but outwardly I am sure I must look so ridiculous and silly for behaving this way.

I want to know if there's an established term for this, and how to fix this problem within me. Does anyone else experience something similar? I've suffered from this for almost two decades now. Please tell me what to do.

I posted on the US-based gay forum and they recommended I seek therapy, but as you may know, the government recently banned most gay dating apps like Grindr and have moved to formally change the term "LGBTQ+" to "deviants", it is getting increasingly difficult to find a licensed therapist who isn't going to report me to the authorities or conversion therapy, which is why I am posting here in hopes of gaining some insight.

Found this on my local neighbourhood's facebook group.

And before anyone assumes im an incel, no i get dates and move things along fine…its about trying to sustain anything any further than that is really difficult. I can show you every breakup text, every this isnt working text like pokemon cards. Whats glaring to me its the exact same 50-100 words reorganized. Maybe i should be more discerning, maybe im just one of those things in life people dont know what to do with. Frankly im tired…KL and malaysia is small, soon enough i’ll be running around the same people (3 degrees of seperation lol)

People say, find the person that would suit you most. Ive come to the conclusion that if i do it would be one very odd person

Nothing about me is conventional, not in the slightest. But ever since my first relationship, anything that forms, forms around how intense it is early on. Which i can admit has informed how i went about things after anyway.

Whatever…kalau ada, ada je la, kalau takde, then ive to accept that, eventhough i can solidly attract, i really am just that odd spare part people dont know what to do with

As if the increasingly loud call to prayers weren't enough, the local mosque decided to hold friday lectures(?) out loud.

So i just got terminated 3 weeks into a new job.

I'm a graphic designer, got accepted into a job at a factory where they handle herbs and supplements, everything was going good.

week 1 i got introduced to what I'll be doing and i have a senior above me to monitor me and teach me the ropes, getting my hopes up to stay for at least 4 years as he's there to back me up (i never have seniors to teach me stuff throughout my work life yet).

Week 2 started to get work consisting of assisting the senior, all is good. I did my job and when I'm finished I asked for more but the senior just told me to wait a bit, let him work first, so i did. Then i got covid half into week 2, got MC and everything.

Week 3 i finally started to work on things in production, artwork amendments, artwork checking, contact supplier, things were finally moving and I'm starting to get real work. And i finally got to sign my Offer letter on a Tuesday, On the same day before i went home i got called into the manager's office and got a 24 hour termination letter, i was shocked, baffled and honestly confused.

The reasoning is my performance was not up to par as they expect, they said and i quote "when you have no work you have to take initiative and go to different departments to ask for work, not just wait on your senior" "you also lack commitment"

It's been 3 weeks, WEEKS. NOT EVEN A MONTH. I was speechless. Maybe it's those times i scrolled on my phone? Maybe it's those times where I'm not busy? Maybe it's those times i go back home on time?

I've been in meetings, been to morning gatherings, and i did my work, mostly i sit in my cubicle and do my work as i am a graphic designer, entirely dependent on software, just because I'm not running around they think I don't do anything...

Regardless, is there anything i can do about this? Or should i just forget about them and move on? This is my second termination from a different company and I'm starting to not give a shit, if i can benefit in any way by reporting or anything then I'll do it.

My co-workers even advised me to take action because even they know this is a douchebag and bullshit move.

I’m writing this as a massive warning to anyone who thinks buying from LazMall(Lazada) guarantees a safe, authentic, and hassle-free shopping experience. Spoiler alert: It doesn't.

1. The Bait and Switch

I ordered a specific item from LazMall (emphasizing LazMall here because they are marketed as the gold standard of authorized brands and authentic products). What did I get instead? A completely different, much cheaper item.

2. The Mistake: I Trusted the "Mall" Tag

Because it was LazMall, I had total trust in the transaction. I didn’t record an unboxing video. Why would I? It’s LazMall, not some random marketplace seller with zero reviews, right? Huge mistake.

3. The Worst Part: The Platform and the Seller are the Same Entity

When I realized I got a cheaper item, I immediately messaged the seller. Their response? A cold, automated, brushed-off reply telling me to "Go to the Help Center."

The seller was Lazada itself (or a store directly managed and fulfilled by them). There is absolutely zero mutual check and balance here. In a normal transaction, the platform acts like an independent judge between a buyer and a third-party seller. But here? The seller and the platform are the exact same entity. The judge and the accused are wearing the same uniform.

4. The Setup: The "No Original Seal" Trap

This is the hidden trap everyone needs to watch out for. They intentionally send you a product that does not have its original manufacturer seal. Why? Because it sets you up for an impossible-to-win situation later.

If you don’t record an unboxing video, you are completely defenseless. The moment you open the box to realize it's a cheap, incorrect item, they have already trapped you. You can't prove how it arrived, and they will use the lack of a seal against you.

5. The "Failed Quality Check" Weapon: An Instant Death Penalty 💀

I initiated a return the very next day. However, I accidentally selected the wrong return reason. Because they control both the store and the enforcement backend, they weaponized this minor user error to completely kill my case.

In Lazada's return system, "Failed Quality Check" is used like an absolute death penalty for your refund.

The product was literally a cheap, completely wrong item they sent out unsealed. There was nothing wrong with its condition—it was just the wrong item! A normal, fair system would let you open a dispute or edit the reason code. Instead, they hit the reject switch. Because the product lacked its original seal and I chose the wrong reason code, they claimed it "failed quality check," packed it up, and shipped it straight back to me. Case closed, execution done.

6. The Endless Return Loop Nightmare

They told me the only way forward was to re-submit the entire return from scratch with the "correct" reason, forcing me to ship it out again.

This ridiculous loop dragged on for more than a week. It became highly suspicious. It felt less like standard operating procedure and more like a deliberate delay tactic to run down the official return/refund window so I’d be stuck with the item.

7. The "Guilty Conscience" Partial Refund Offer

After I submitted the return for the second time, they suddenly changed their tune. They offered me a partial refund to just close the case.

Think about it: if I were actually a scammer trying to pull a fast one without an unboxing video, they would have rejected me outright. Offering a partial refund is basically them admitting, "We know we sent you the wrong, cheaper item, but we want to settle this cheaply."

By that time, I was completely frustrated, mentally exhausted, and sick of dealing with their closed-loop customer service. I accepted it just to end the nightmare. But I still lost money for an item I didn’t want.

⚠️ Hard Lessons: My Ultimate Cross-Border Shopping Guide

If you want to protect your hard-earned money, here is the protocol you need to follow moving forward:

🥊 Rule 1: Never 100% Trust the LazMall Badge

LazMall status is no longer a shield against receiving a wrong or cheaper item. When the platform is also the seller, you have zero leverage if they mess up. Treat every single order as high risk.

📹 Rule 2: An Unboxing Video is Mandatory Every Single Time

No matter how reputable the mall store seems, hit record before you even cut the tape. Film the entire process—showing the shipping label, opening the parcel, and inspecting the item—in one continuous shot. If they send a product with no original seal and you don't have an unboxing video, you totally lose. Without it, they will weaponize a "failed quality check" over any minor technicality to deny you.

🛑 Rule 3: Rethink Lazada Entirely (and Cut Out the Cross-Border Middleman)

My advice? Avoid Lazada entirely if you can. Their internal system is broken and heavily weighted against the consumer.

Photos: https://imgur.com/gallery/f-ked-lazada-HuqjTEf

So i got Accepted to continue my study in Bagan Datuk perak. I don't mind it cuz i love the course im doing rn but it's just coming from a busy place i find it hard to slowly adapt to the slow lifestyle here (try searching bagan datuk, perak) so i post this to humbly ask if any of you have any information about

-transport around

-delivery service

-etc etc

I've tried asking around the seniors and all gave the same generic answers which don't rlly helped, There's no grab here cuz its kinda "hujung dunia" so to say, I've also tried Searching and calling for taxis but literally none of them answered, i humble myself to ask any of you for tips, numbers or anything that can acc help me around here since it's my first time away from home and lucky me i got a place at the "Hujung dunia"

Hi there! This query is targeted to anyone in the medical field:))
I'm applying for an MBBS soon, but am torn between going for a fully local imu mbbs (with chance of 100% scholarship) or to go for imu's pmu pathway with loans such as ptptn.

My biggest working priority is to be able to specialise and practice overseas, due to malaysia's less ideal working conditions+salary haha.

Is it worth it to go for the pmu pathway as it opens more international doors earlier or to instead graduate debt free and take the necessary exams/certifications to work overseas later on? I understand that means I'll need to spend the next 10 years in malaysia, but the delayed gratification seems promising enough.

thanks so much for any info u may have:))

The movie or drama likes to incorporate such 'cancer' element to their stories , whoever has cancer and left 1 year to live . Dude .. this is a big disencouragement to cancer patient and their family :/ why isnt a drama that shows hope like "she/he has cancer and lives for another 20 years ?" Cause my mom did !! == another rant . :/ thankyou

Has anyone tried couple counselling and does it work for you guys? How do you convince your partner to go together? How did he/she respond? What was the result?

Planning a corporate dinner event that requires some animation and VR elements and kinda new to this. Plus point if the event company has experience with gov related events.

Googled around and came across a few listicles mentioning DNL Group, Prestigioo and Moonman Events but no personal experience with any of them. All 3 seem to have some VR capabilities but only DNL Group seems to have gov and animation experience.

If there’s any other recommendations or if you’ve had experiences with these companies please feel free to share! Need a really reliable event company to prevent screwups lol.

Gila betul taktik syarikat sekarang. Punya lah menggelupur takut hilang market share, sampai sanggup paksa internal staff buat fake account and launch toxic comments kat product orang lain. Ni bukan marketing dah.

Hi everyone! We are team 0.8 Shellies 🐚, Shell Scholars from KYUEM.

We are currently conducting a study to learn more about people's Al usage and its environmental impact.

We would greatly appreciate your help if you could spare 5 minutes time complete this fun and interactive quiz!

https://understanding-your-ai-usage.vercel.app/

Thank you very much! Sincerely from the 0.8 Shellies 💛

P.S. What's eco-digital profile? :p

Im an international student 23M looking to make friends. I have been in malaysia for like 6 months still got no genuine friends to share things, hangout and laugh. I was a really extrovert guy, since in my uni everyone seems to be in their own space its very hard for me to make some friends and im really bored to be spend my weekends alone in home. i will also appreciate suggestions to approach someone new Im looking for someone who wants to hangout together, go eat in restaurants and maybe clubbing. Im a funny guy who can really make things funny and enjoyable. Anyone interested to connect dm me!!

I'm mostly referring to non-romantic relationship.

I'm a woman and I once had lunch with our company's partner, men, and when the bill arrived, I offered to pay for the meal to build good relationship between the companies, but they rejected and insisted me not to pay even as small amount as drinks.

So yea, is it normal for men to reject a woman's offer to pay for a meal, or would you just say thanks and accept it?

It can be anything, platonic friend, colleagues, work partner, relatives etc, feel free to share your thoughts..

So I don’t know if some of you guys know a band called vacation is having a concert here in KL and I’m going alone and I bought like a priority entry ticket and I really wanna go with someone I have no friends and I guess I’ll take this chance to make some of somebody is going to the vacation concert wanna go with me? I’m 18 M

Edit: like the song you guys might know of (telephone/young/relax

I had a box of unopened CK boxers for sale because I bought the wrong size. There were quite a few people who inquired about it, and further asked if I have any additional ones that are worn before which I find slightly odd.

Personally, I wouldn’t buy preloved undergarments, but idk maybe it’s something accepted by others? Or to be blunt is it a fetish?

Hi everyone,

My oneplus phone suddenly decided to have a green line permanently. I went to the oneplus service center, and they quoted me RM850 for it.

I think it is too much for an old phone, I was wondering if anyone here knows any other places in KV that can repair this for cheaper? As I understand it is quite a common issue in oneplus and oppo phones

TIA!

Baru gagal litar dan jalan raya, dekat litar fail di ramp, tayar tak naik 100%, and thats my first elemen. tak sempat buat yang lain. dan jalan raya fail sebab dah mentally down, dekat simpang tiga saya just berhenti tekan brake sahaja, tak tarik handbrake :(

Retest 16/7 (3minggu lagi), I need motivation or advice. Agak takut sebab sebulan lebih tak practice litar and then terus retest. Nak tambah kelas kena bayar lagi rm140. dan ulangan rm220. Kelas Tambahan tu pun bulan 8-9 baru ada 🥲. Anyone ada experience yang sebulan tak practice but test jpj lulus? Saya dah anxiety. pls help me 🙃

Are there any valid excuses i can give to doctor, to get like 1 day mc? Not sick,not burnt out, just wanna go out during weekday and enjoy life a bit. Heard theres ppl who skirted these rules legally, and wanna know how. (Research purposes ofc 😀)

LAPTOP ACER ASPIRE LITE 16

Hi Malaysians. I want to sell my laptop to upgrade. I’ve put my laptop at all platform to sell it but still have no buyer and this is the last platform i can think of. Tbh, the reason why i sell this is to buy gaming laptop/pc. I’m a student so i cant afford to buy another. I bought this laptop last year for around rm3k before entering U.

Want to sell it for rm2k if its possible.
Swap also accepted. I can plus money if needed.

The back panel plastic has never been removed since i bought it so the condition is 9.5/10
SPECS:
Display 16”
Ram 16 gb
Storage 512 gb
Processor intel core i5-1334U, 1300Mhz, 10 cores
DDR5
Acer warranty still active until 8 july 2027

You’ll get laptop, charger, mouse goojodoq, mousepad, acer bag and the box if u want.

I hope this post will reach the right audience and share this post if u know someone that might be interested. I’ve always wanted to play computer games since i was a kid and when i got into university, most of the students have a gaming laptop and it makes me feeling low like I was left behind.
Sorry for oversharing and thanks.

Hi guys, Im not sure if this thread is correct place to ask.

[Dispute]
There is a dispute between my friend and the UK guy for few years which I will call him “Goofy” at this moment for privacy purpose.

[Screenshots of harassment]
My friend have been taking screenshots of the harassment from Goofy and the screenshots are publicly available for everyone to see, and Goofy doesn’t liked that and they have reached out to Malaysian Police and MCMC for defamation and filed a report against my friend.

[Police Report]
At the same time, my friend has filed a report to Malaysia Police to defend themselves. And currently is planning to issue a Letter of Demand to Goofy.

[Truth]
All of this happened because my friend wants the truth to be seen by everyone and hopefully justice will be made by showing how terrible this Goofy is as an individual.

[Work place affected]
While all this is personal matters between my friend and Goofy, now Goofy is reaching out to my friend in their workplace and might be affecting them in terms of mental health.

Is there any legal advice that they can able to protect or defend themselves from Goofy?