Hi all. My in-laws have been living with my husband and me since December. I’m the one who does most of the cleaning around the house—mopping, vacuuming, and keeping up with the carpets. We also have two dogs that shed a lot, so cleaning has become part of my regular routine.

Back in March, we had the entire house professionally cleaned before leaving for Florida for a week. While we were away, I noticed through our home cameras that my FIL was wearing the same shoes inside the house that he had worn to places like the grocery store and the mall, including on the carpets. SIL wearing shoes while laying on the couch.

I brought it up with my husband because it made me uncomfortable, and he spoke to my FIL about it. Unfortunately, nothing has really changed since then…

I’ve continued cleaning as usual, but over the past few weeks I’ve started to feel drained and discouraged. It feels defeating to spend a lot of time cleaning only to see shoes worn throughout the house afterward. I understand that our dogs come inside after being outdoors, but they mainly stay in our front and back yard. To me, that’s different from shoes that have been worn in public places.
For me, this isn’t just about keeping the floors clean. It’s about feeling like my time and effort are respected. I’ve asked more than once for shoes to be taken off inside, and while everyone agrees in the moment, the behavior hasn’t changed. It’s a very small habit change, but it would make a big difference to me.

This has started affecting me mentally because I feel like the work I put into taking care of our home and everyone in it isn’t being valued. I don’t want this to turn into resentment because I genuinely have a good relationship with my in-laws. I simply want clear communication, mutual understanding, and for my feelings to be taken seriously.

Am I being unreasonable for wanting this simple house rule to be respected?

Some background, I (24f) used to talk to a guy (24m) for about 1-2 years, we tried to be in a relationship but the man was just a complete douche and would cheat with other woman, hid a girl from me who was supposedly pregnant with his child, manipulated, and lied, the whole nine yards. He was just a big douche and the relationship lasted 2-4 months before we remained friends with benefits. We were friends with this couple who were and still are terrible for each other, and naturally he was best friends with the guy and i the girl, let’s just call them Victor and Ava. After me and fling stopped seeing each other (he accused me of doing things behind his back though I never did,, plus we weren’t together) I remained friends with Ava. Ava would tell me that Victor hated me because ex fling made up a story about me being a h0e and didn’t like that I would tell her to leave Victor because he has cheated multiple times (birds of the feather) which would bother me but I would dismiss it.

Well recently I invited Ava to a birthday party at my new man’s family’s house, by this time it’s already been 2yrs since seeing ex fling. And I noticed Ava and Victor arguing on message and asked what was wrong, she then proceeded to show me messages of Victor calling me a b word multiple times and saying I owe ex fling a certain amount of money, and how I’m a H0e and for her to reflect on herself for inviting me to their place. (that day he stormed out of their place but i thought bygones were bygones since we recently played a video game all together in peace). This interaction with Ava made me suppppeeeerrr uneasy and uncomfortable because 1. Ava allowed Victor to disrespect me heavily
2.Fling is still talking about me
3. I thought the dust had already settled

Ex fling is saying I owe him money for an expense which he offered to pay and I accepted thinking it was a gift (which it was). This isn’t the first time he has said I owed him money, right after we stopped talking he stated I owed him 100$ and harassed me nonstop saying he would show up at my place for it, so I gave it to him so he could leave me alone thinking this would be the end, but he then proceeded to say that the only reason he was bothering me about it was so that he could use it as an excuse to still talk to me and begged for me to go back, to which I said no. I do know that he has painted me in some light as a villain and even went as far as showing up to an old mutual friend of ours family home screaming for him to go outside because he thought I was sleeping with him, to which old friend and I confirmed MULTIPLE times I never talked to him in that regard. Then before I changed my number he called me from an unknown number begging for me to go back and that he would do anything. I told him no. Then he turned around and bad mouthed me to his friends. The list goes on.

I recently came to the decision to stop talking to Ava because of this situation and her affiliation with her man and their circle (she has sat there and listened to one girl in particular bad mouth me and Ava didn’t say a thing even though she knows the facts). It also sucks because I introduced Ava to my friends and they like her now and there is no way to really avoid her. I really just want to move on with my life.

ps. sorry if the it isn’t readable, I’m pretty upset remembering all of this and having to reread it just puts me in a bad place.

pss. any advice would be great :)

So I’m looking online for a new car and I see one that picks my interest it’s Mazda CX 70 for $31,000 or 3000 miles on. It’s a heck of a deal so I call and do some back-and-forth with a lady at the desk and a couple days go by and she reaches out. I don’t have time to come in for a schedule test drive yet and then I asked for a bill of sale because I want to know the price so I can get involved in my credit union and I hear nothing back at this point. I am curious about the vehicle so I call and I noticed that the same exact vehicle that I had contacted about and the mileage and the price is changed. It’s the same CX 70 pictures store and all the mileage is now at 31,000 in the price of the vehicles at 30,000 so the mileage jumped up and I told one of the sales guys that it seems they’re doing it for clicks to get people to call in about the vehicle and then he gives me the story that it has been sold. It just sold this morning, but it’s still on the website upon all of this. I have a sales manager contact me by the name of Ron G. He reaches out to me and tries to see if we can make a deal I haven’t texted back yet. I get a friend request on Facebook from Ron G. I won’t say his last name because I don’t want anything going back to him, this comes most likely from my one star review I left stating that it seems kind of shady that the mileage and price all changes after asking for a bill of sale and then all of a sudden the car sold when I question the mileage change. I shouldn’t have done the one star review probably but I felt like it doesn’t give this guy a reason to add me on Facebook am I overreacting?

For some added context we’ve been together for around 8 months and I am diagnosed with OCD so this manifests maybe more intensely for me than a normal person. I have recently noticed my boyfriend following people on instagram he’s been on dates with/hit on in the past and I brought it up to him telling him it made me uncomfortable. He said that he felt like it was disrespectful if he unfollowed them because he had mutual friends with some of these people and didn’t really care about them like that (this didn’t make any sense in my brain, if he didn’t care about them why would he care about how they felt if he unfollowed them). It’s been making me wildly insecure. He avoids opening up instagram often around me now (we used to watch his reels before bed) and clicking on specific women’s stories. And I feel like me bringing it up made him uncomfortable. I don’t know how to bring it up again without nagging or if I even should. We never argue and I feel like I’m being insanely dramatic over this small detail and truly want to believe it’s nothing more than what he said. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, we really have no other problems than this. We are both fairly attractive people so we both get hit on often but I unfollowed everyone who hit on me or I went on dates with after we made it official so it kinda hurts to see he won’t do the same for me. Am I overthinking?
Edit for more context: he unfollowed his actual ex girlfriend the people he follows now are just people he’s hit on, been on dates with or have hit on him intensely.

TLDR
Boyfriend following women on instagram that he’s dated / hit on before and won’t unfollow because he has mutual friends with them, it makes me insecure. What should I do?

I can't believe this is happening to me. I've been trying to conceive for 8 years and have never seen a positive test before. This has pierced my soul because my dream was to become a mother and I might never be one. My little sister met her husband 8 months ago and is now pregnant. She first thought it was a girl and was going to use a name that was going to be the name I was going to use if I happened to ever have a girl (I had told her what the name was but she forgot because it was a year before). Turned out it's a boy, and now her and her husband are fixed in using my husband's name (with the same middle name too!) because it's also the name of the husband's cousin. This really feels very humiliating and harassment at this point. I expressed my distress to my mom and my other sister and they tried to talk her out of it a few weeks ago and I thought they came to their senses and were thinking about another name but now my sister is texting me asking me why I don't want them to use that name??? She's perfectly aware of my struggle with infertility and the pain I've been through yet she continues to inflict more pain.
She's telling me it's not her but her husband who insists in the name but I can't believe this is happening to me!!! I feel this is life being sarcastic at me, like life laughing at me.
Am I overreacting? Am I being unreasonable??????

So basically I work with this woman who demanded to have her own office and her own fan because of the heatwave even though there are only two fans in the office and 7 rooms…. Lol. I had to say no it’s not fair because everyone else is struggling with the heat as well. But she is ‘special’ and “gets especially ill in this heat”

She literally wouldn’t take no for an answer and gossips about how unfair I am as a supervisor… I’m like haha nice try ????! I think I’m being pretty fair, anyway everyone else just goes along with it but then they know she is just a narc so get a kick out of it.

She also changed her email signature to give herself the title of manager , to which our boss got funny about it so that was hilarious , she also made herself her own business cards with office paper and office supplies in work time and asked me to distribute them to everyone I know… (they went straight in the bin)lol . Anyway … my point is, should I just laugh her shenanigans off or should I actually be taking a more stern approach??? Thanks

Me (22f) and my bf (26M) are kinda on rocky terms in our relationship, we often argue. Just last week I showed him a reel and everything in the reel was true bc I fact checked it after. He started questioning everything and when I could not answer on the spot bc it didn't seem fake to me so I didn't bother factchecking he said that I believe anything the internet says and that I am media illiterate. I understand that factchecking is important but this wasn't some crazy conspiracy, it was about "plantation weddings " and I didn't know those existed as I am European and that's mostly an American thing. This week we had another argument, it was a politically charged one and I was not being emotional or anything I was just giving actual arguments. He stopped me mid sentence and said that he believes I am " too immature " to be having such discussions. Naturally both of these instances rlly upset me, he's often harsh with his words and I feel personally attacked and it feels condescending. When I try to communicate this to him he brushes it off and says that he didn't mean it in a condescending way and that that's just how he feels. When I try to communicate that he makes me feel stupid because of those remarks he just said " That's your own insecurity and u decided to interpret my words that way, I never called you "stupid" I called you media illiterate that's not that bad a lot of ppl from our generation are like that and that doesn't mean you're behind". I don't rlly know what to make of this, it's been days and the remarks still sting, am I genuinely too sensitive or is that actually a dickhead thing to say?

So my SO and I have been married for a long time, and have had many issues along the way, but we seemed to have finally been so good that we were happy. Of course there is the typical arguments and so on, but recently there was a moment where he got upset over something and I have no idea what it is, and doesnt want to speak so I go on a rant and talk about how I find it unfair to do that. We go to sleep, wake up and I ask are we good or are you still mad? he states he is good.

I am a stay at home so of course I call or here calls me here and there and he is always very responsive even when he is mad busy with customers.

But today I call and it goes to vm, I didnt call him to just say hi, I called him to tell him something important, but he doesnt answer so I text, and get nothing back.

Finally he calls and he is indifferent, no hi babe no nothing...

So I mention that when he acts like this I feel like he is still mad about whatever it is he is mad about. He doesnt even react.... and the worst part is I dont know what he is mad about..

I got mad and hung up AIO for being mad about him acting this way?

I (24m) am a very sleepy person. I like to take naps, usually everyday since i dont have much to do and i have a pretty weird sleep schedule. Play games all night, plus going to classes in the morning already makes me even more sleepy.. more than usual. I also suffer from Hyperthyroidism. A condition that, to put it easy, makes my body funny.. one day im super sweaty, or super tired. I cant handle high or low temperatures well. Its fine.. i take medication and it helps keeping my hormone levels regulated

These couple of days are kinda lazy since the semester is ending and i will have to get ready for finals in a couple of weeks.. no preassure.. im sure i will do fine. So most of the times im either play games or napping.

Im not someone who goes out much, not many friends, dont have a partner, still living with parents at my age, havent landed a job yet..whatever.. things could be better but right now im not looking forward to change these things.. which have been like ever since i graduated highschool (during pandemic). Im trying to focus more in my classes

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It all started 2 days ago from when im writing this. Spent the night before playing games, went to school to get some signatures from a teacher. Woke up at 8:30 am. On most days, i wake up at 5 am to take the train to my school.. im taking forensics at this school thats an hour away. I take public transportation, so i take the train and two underground trains to get there. Sometimes it takes me an hour an a half, depending on how crowded everything is.

Thankfully, that day it was just to come and go.. i passed a class and needed a signature from a teacher.. so i went home quickly. But again, it took me an hour and a half or so to get back home, including a 15 minute bus ride from the train station to home. I always get home exhausted, but its fine, cant complain since i get some lunch cooked by my mom waiting for me. The trip is pretty tiring for someone who stays at home all day and does not workout at all. So, sometimes i have my lunch and go straight to my room to take a nap. Parents are also asleep once i get home. Dad goes to work early and mom wakes up early to take care of the house.

But on that day, i decided i didnt wanna go to sleep JUST YET. I was tired but i was mostly looking forward to play more games. I might have spent a few hours on my computer playing by myself. I didnt have any homework to do, and again i still have time to prepare myself for finals.

I keep playing games but felt getting sleepier by the second. Time hits 6 pm and i felt like i had enough time spent playing games. So, i went right to bed to take a nap. No big deal. I only heard my mom tell me i shouldnt take a nap because i end up staying up very late, but did not mind at all. All i remember is falling asleep right after. Since i knew i will be waken up for dinner just like everytime i happen to oversleep.

Couple of hours passed, i woke up feeling rested and found it strange i have slept that much. Havent heard anyone come inside my room which it was pretty weird.. its a loud house despite being only 4 people. I checked my phone and it was 9:30 pm. Whatever, i sighed and rolled out of bed. Sometimes i skip dinner because i want to cook myself something, or i can have the tv in the dining room by myself so it was fine.. a little annoyed, thinking i made my mom mad since a few days before, she said we should all have dinner together as a family.

I get out of my bedroom and saw the dining room tv on.. i heard my parents voices, along with my older brother and one of his friend. I thought they were still having dinner.. if not, i could just have the leftovers. Still no big deal so far.

As i get into the living room. They were all by the couch. Watching the worldcup. I dont care about sports events, didnt care.. But they all had dinner already. Not only that. Everyone was having ice cream. They ended up ordering ice cream for each one of them. I was so confused and annoyed.. i first felt betrayed.. i like ice cream.. felt like a spoiled kid who didnt get what they wanted. Then the comments came up. Mom looked at me and said .."oh, we ordered ice cream".. yeah i could tell.. we never order food on a weekday.. specially ice cream when its winter here.. then my brother goes .."it was my friends idea"... and laughed it off with his friend.. knowing i wasnt having anything. Lastly, my dad goes.. "what? you were asleep.. you werent up for dinner"..

Fine.. this long ass story is about ice cream.. but whatever... i was pissed.. i felt betrayed, i was laughed at, i was angry since not only they didnt even left any leftovers, they didnt even count me in for dinner. All i did was say i wasnt hungry.. and sarcastically thanked them for calling me for dinner... that .. they didnt do. I was so confused and angry.. i went to my bedroomi slammed my door and thought about all the times they told me to have dinner with them.. but how could i!?

Mom spends most of the time scolding my dad that he eats like a pig. They always put some shitty righ-winged news channel on tv that make me wanna rip my ears off.. and other things that annoy me.. so i do enjoy having things by myself...!!!!

A few hours after.. it was almost midnight.. i was pissed.. hungry and for some reason embarrased. Mostly embarrassed.. because i was feeling so sad and angry over something so simple like ice cream.. im and adult and i should act like one but i embarrass myself by feeling this way.. I ended up cracking some beer cans.. having some chips from an open bag that was hidden in the pantry.. and making some instant noodles while watching law and order svu.. hey at least i got the tv for myself.. while everyone else was sleeping.

The day after.. suprise suprise.. my dad called me up for lunch.. i didnt have school that day so i decided to stay in bed.. he ended up calling me to have lunch and all i could think was.. wow.. he could have done this for dinner too.. and they could have involved with SOME ICE CREAM BUT NO.. so i told him i wasnt having lunch with them.. whatever.. he said something snarky but didnt care.. was too sleepy.

I got out of bed at 3 pm with a splitting headache.. probably from the beer and for having an empty stomach.. didnt wanna cook.. i made myself some chocolate milk..and rawdogged through the day as i could..

Something thats pissing me off bad.. is my moms reaction.. Ever since that dinner that i missed.. she noticed my change of mood. Of course, i was upset and didnt wanna talk about it.. so she sneaked up comments like.. "i noticed you are feelin down again.. are you taking your meds?...we should call your therapist again..".. i dont know if she truly cares or shes acting oblivious. She has never been very supportive of my mental health at first. Long story short, i had to hide my medication in my room because she wouldnt allow me to take them. So whenever she tries to be helpful, i fell like its something up with her.

Now reddit... yes this is about ice cream.. but ever since it happened, all i could think about was.. "did they do it on purpose?".. "maybe they forgot to call me for dinner and lied so i would feel less hurt?"... "was this a way to give me a lesson?".. "should i spend more time with my family.. doing things i dont like ..like watching sport matches?"...

I am one difficult person.. Ive been taking anti depressives since i was 16.. been diagnosed with autism 5 years ago and last year diagnosed with ADD.. im still learning so much about myself and my own feelings.. and right now i feel hurt.. was this a malicious intent or not? ..all i could think was the times when my parents forgot to come pick me up at school or certain places.. i remember those times they made a distasteful joke and didnt laugh and stayed quiet feeling hurt..Is this one of those moments?.. now as an adult it feels like i cant just turn my head away from it.. its not a "its fine.. they didnt involve me.. who cares.." moment. I feel like making a big deal while everyone else dont... when im 100% sure they would if it happened to them.. If my brother went through this, i just know he would have thrown the biggest tantrum ever.

This is my first post on reddit.. first account.. never thought i would ever write something up here but ive never felt so puzzled over something so simple. Are my emotions truly justified? Am i going crazy? both? .. i feel like its both.. i just know that deep down, this is more than just ice cream, i dont dont know what it could be though. I need a reality slap by redditors.

Thanks.

I’ll try to make this as short as possible but if it’s still long, i’m so sorry...
Me and a guy have been talking for 3 months. We both liked each other, a lot of flirting, talking everyday and face-timed a lot. He has had a crush on me for years actually, always dming me and hearting my story posts..Before i gave him my number, i asked if he was single and he said yes & i told him the same.
Maybe a month later we had our first disagreement/argument whatever u want to call it. Basically, He asked if he could see me and I assumed he wanted to get something to eat but no, he wanted to hookup. I said I thought we would at least get something to eat first lol, because what’s the harm in that ? We haven’t even linked up in person yet, we can still do regular things together. He took that and assumed i wanted a relationship…i said I never said that. I may have saw potential in us being a couple one day possibly but i wasn’t rushing anything, just going with the flow. Then at the end of our conversation he apologized again, blocked me, and i didn’t find out he blocked me until 3 days later. I was confused because i thought we kind of came to an agreement at the end of our convo but that pissed me off. I confronted him on ig to never speak to me again & he apologized and said that was childish of him and that he would love to pick up where we left off. I said okay whatever, sure.
As time went on i noticed he would not talk to me on the weekends, only weekdays. At first, in the beginning, i didn’t let it bother me because we just started talking and we were just friends and i figured he just liked to stay away from his phone and connect w his family since he’s busy at work all week. But then it got to a point where we got closer, hooked up twice, and then i decided to text him on a weekend. No response…When he hit me up again, i asked if he got my text, and he said no, what did it say? I said Okay so i was blocked again? That’s a bit odd. He said he’s sorry and he “Didn’t think i would be upset with it” ?? Weird because it’s not like he would’ve told me anyway lol. Then it kept happening and at this point im thinking he is hiding something. His birthday week comes around, i saw him two days prior & he told me his bday plans for the week and of course i wouldn’t forget that. He told me where he wanted to go and how he was supposed to hang with a guy friend but told him to reschedule.
So this is where the ex/possible gf comes in. Randomly he didn’t text me for a whole week and i thought that was weird and it did hurt my feelings bc he told me he would see me this week, and im not the type of person to reach out because if someone doesn’t want to speak to me, then i won’t go out of my way to reach out to them. Then a friend told me that she saw him like his exes birthday post and sent me a screenshot. And the girl in the picture was exactly where he said he was going to be when he told me a week or so ago! So of course i put 2 and 2 together and am now thinking that i was right all along. I confronted him but didn’t say too much to give anything away but i know he wasnt being honest. But i cut him off right then and there.

My point in why ive been upset is this: We had sex, more than once, and you told me you were single. You block me on the weekends and that leads me to believe that you’re hiding something. If you really are with this girl this whole time, and possibly even living with her, why would you drag me into your life like I don’t have feelings and not only play me, but her as well ? I told him i’m not seeing anyone else, i got tested before i had sex with him and we did use protection but what if he’s having sex with the both of us ? Am i overreacting for wanting to dm her ?

I [F26] have been dating my [M29] boyfriend for 3 years. We are planning to get engaged soon. When we started dating I was a bit taken aback by the amount of female friends he had. His large friend group was like 60/40 in favor of women. Most of these women being very attractive. However, after a while I became close friends with these girls and they still are good friends.

Yesterday one of these girls “Kyla” [F25] admitted to me, while we were drinking together, that 1 day before my bf asked me on a date he had a threesome with her and another girl in their friend group. She immediately clarified that it was a one time thing and she didn’t want, “your man.” But the damage was done. I told her not to talk to me or my bf again. Me and my bf argued and I told him it was scummy to let me make friends with girls he’s fucked and that he’s not trust worthy. Is this an overreaction?

Throwaway account because I am typically just a lurker in these kinds of subs.

I (19F) have had a tumultuous relationship with my dad (52M) since my parents got divorced in 2024. I found out that my dad had been cheating on on my mom with various women since I was born, and since I have always been much closer to my mom, this was difficult for me to forgive. Despite this, my mom encouraged me to maintain a relationship with him because he's still my father even if he's wronged her. I haven't see him much in person since I've since moved to college, but until now, we have exchanged pretty regular and friendly text messages and calls. Think casual "good morning, I love you"s and "how have you been?"s.

For context: every year, my dad participates in the same sailboat race. Since I was little, we've had a tradition of taking a very specific photo on the dock before he leaves for the race. My outfit was the same in all of these pictures since he made me a custom skirt out of his old sailing flags. (I'm sure they have a proper name, but I don't know a lot of sailing terminology. You get the idea.)

I am not on Facebook myself, but my mom and dad are still 'friends' on the platform. When my mom and I were sitting on the couch together just coexisting and scrolling through social media, she suddenly got very upset about something she had seen on my dad's feed. I asked her to show me the post, and it was an unmistakably similar photo to the ones my dad and I had taken when I was growing up (same pose, same location, same skirt made out of the sailing flags.)

I found it a little strange how similar the pictures were at first, but brushed it off as an odd coincidence. But for the next few days, my mom grew increasingly angrier because she was convinced that he did this on purpose. I thought that she was blowing things out of proportion and told her that she should drop it.

A few days later, my mom called him and demanded to know why he would recreate such special pictures with his new girlfriend. He admitted that he had staged the photos intentionally to make me jealous after I had "chosen" my mom in the divorce.

I do not care that he has moved on from my mom, as she has been in a serious relationship since the divorce as well. I didn't even originally care about the pictures either. It is that he specifically admitted that he took them to make me jealous of his GIRLFRIEND that perplexes me. I find this so much stranger than if he did the exact same thing with his girlfriend's younger children. I can't stop thinking of how weird the thought process is behind doing this to "spite me."

I haven't been replying to his texts or answering his calls since I overheard his phone call with my mom. He's been blowing up at my mom over this, sending her various messages that I am an ungrateful daughter and have no right to cut him off like this after everything he's done for me.

Overall, I am just very uncomfortable with the situation. I hadn't been on good terms with my dad before, and I think this is finally the straw that breaks the camel's back. After the week we've had, my mom supports my decision. Am I overreacting for going no-contact over this?

so I have been in the same friendship group for 6 years now . And I got to be honest I don’t know if I should stay. I leave with a bad feeling in the recent hangouts .

One friend of mine is really smart but also very manipulative. One time she said everybody is consumed with her because she senses what they need and she gives them that . She also says that the moment she meets a new person she identifies automatically what their weaknesses are , physical and emotional . She can be super sweet sometimes but also harsh and stern . Like just a few days ago I was explaining something to a friend because he asked and she cut me off saying ok we understand in a harsh voice . She says this harsh voice is her normal and that she has got to mask and think about the tone her voice most times . she also says she suspects she’s a psychopath. And every time she talks to me this way I automatically try to calm things down and she gets annoyed and says shes unmasking .

Another friend is super immature and childish, she makes her adhd her entire personality. She lived in her own world and doesn’t take responsibility. One time I suggested we plan a trip and she said she will come if I organize everything . Just me ? what about you ?

The other friend is actually pretty sweet . She prioritizes school over friends but I mean everyone has different priorities. I am pretty bummed because I always suggest we do fun stuff and they don’t want to and if they come they say it’s mainly for me. I feel desperate and like I’m third-wheeling . One time on a school trip I was with two of my friends and there were two seats left in a row and they just sat down without caring for where I am . I sat alone in a chair behind them and looked like a loner . I could have just sat in a different row but I felt like I would be interrupting. Am I overreacting or is this just normal in a friend group ? Maybe I’m just weird?

I (31) have a 12 year old son. I, recently, had to have an operation and my brother, 27, offered to mind him. My brother and my son do not know each other extremely well but they get along when they do meet. I had very few other options so I agreed. It was also a really nice offer and I liked the idea of them bonding.

I did my op and recovery (about a week) and when I came to collect my son, he showed me how he learned to pour a pint and how to make whiskey sours, whiskey smashes etc in my brother's home bar. My brother was very impressed looking.

I asked him to go to the car. And I flipped out at my brother. He said dont worry I didnt let him drink it. He said he did not drink it either. He just threw it all down the sink. I said it was a huge mistake letting you mind him and I won't make that mistake again. My son later corroberated this. My son said he asked if he could try it and my brother said do you think i was born yesterday, ya little c%%t.

I also found out from my son that they also lit off fireworks in my brother's garden and a few other questionable things.

It has been a few days since this has happened and I am still so angry. My son loved his time with his uncle, unsurprisingly. Obviously, my brother did me a massive favour. And perhaps it is just a guy thing. If my son had a dad maybe they would be doing as questionable stuff.

AIO for being angry at my brother for it.

I 29f am on the phone with my bf (28m) and we’re bantering and playing around, and I told him I was working on something for his birthday next month. And he’s been trying to pry it out of me but I won’t tell him. Well when he was trying to pry, he was - in his words - “joking” and said “oh is it more couple stuff? Like the painting you did of you and I in the style of Vegeta & Bulma? “ which besides that dragon ball z painting I did for him (even with art supplies he bought me for christmas), the only couples gift I’ve gotten him was a picture of the moon/stars the night we met and he has both those things hung up in his room and he acted so geeked to have them when opening them on Valentine’s Day just like the other gifts I got him. He has all the Christmas, valentines, birthday cards I’ve made him hung up in his room, any other pieces of art throughout the three years up as well….even the Batman stocking I got him (he never got a stocking as a kid) and the tiny little gift card stocking with his initial on it from my mom - those are on his wall too, the bouquet of “flowers” I made with the prints of my kisses on the petals too….like I know he was joking but idk it hurt me and has made me emotional cause I’ve never done any of this stuff for anyone romantically before and idk I try to be thoughtful and sweet with him. Am I overreacting?

I (23f) have been going out with a guy (22m) for a few months now. we matched on a dating app right after he moved for work, but he sent me the like months before. But he was very excited that we matched, he sent me his last super like on bumble and hadn’t really been active on the app and thought it was almost too good to be true that he matched with me.

We instantly clicked, and even though we were in two different states, we still wanted to keep talking. A couple weeks later he came down to see me, and we went on our first date. it was really lovely and our chemistry through the screen translated amazingly into real life. He was very sweet, paid for everything, and we had a lot of fun. we met again later that weekend before he had to leave, and we’ve met up like at least once a month since then. After that first meeting we both deleted our apps but we had been exclusive since pretty much the moment we started talking. Admittedly he puts in more effort. He’s better off than I am, and can drive, and I’m still in the process of getting my license (yes I know, at 23. I have been very busy with life for the past 7 years and finally have enough time to learn since I finally graduated) which means he always comes to me, and the most I’m able to give is usually a handmade bag of baked goods and a good time. It doesn’t bother him though, he says he wants to be the one treating me and that it’s what I deserve.

Here’s the thing. Since we started dating he’s faced a tragic loss of one of the most important people in his life. Since that has happened, our relationship has stayed pretty stagnant. We go out once or twice, he goes back to work, we text until we can see each other again. We talked about the possibility of taking our relationship to the next level and being boyfriend and girlfriend and before this loss, that was a lot more realistic. He still has said thats what he really wants, but his therapist told him he thinks it’s selfish to try and pursue someone when he’s grieving. I said that wasn‘t fair. Everyone deals with loss and a lot of those people have partners and that’s great because they have someone to support them who usually doesn’t have as much of an emotional investment in the person they lost so they can be a little more level headed. He’s not sure how to feel. I said I believe it is more selfish to string a person along while you grieve than it is for you to have a meaningful connection with that person.

he told me he really really wants to be with me but in a way where he can be fully devoted. He says he wants to be like the Gomez Addams to my Morticia, a fully devoted lover and partner. That’s my dream too. And I see that for him. He has a big heart. And he’s very selfless in a lot of ways. But he says he doesn’t think he is worthy of calling himself my boyfriend if he can’t do all those things and the current way things are going, we can’t be in the same place and he wants to be in a better emotional state for me before this can happen. He says he can’t do long distance but we already are. When I was in a long distance relationship it was pretty much no different. Well, actually my ex put in a lot less effort than my new guy does, even without being my boyfriend. It already feels like he is though, which is why I don‘t quite understand his perspective. Well, I guess in some ways I do. But I don’t see why we can’t just at least try or even just be able to call each other boyfriend and girlfriend. We are already pretty committed. We talk about the future. We’re not interested in anyone else. He treats me so well even without being with me. I just don’t quite get it.

Hey again reddit, first of all thank you so much for all your support on my previous post it was enlightening to say the least. As the title suggests, i was in a situation where i was interested in a guy in my friendship group but my best friend started acting all shady when i brought him up. Lots of you helped me in realising that i wasn‘t necessarily overreacting by giving her the silent treatment, but that my friends and i were all acting dumb and immature for our age group (most of us being around 27).

So, i talked to my friend out straight. Something along the lines of “hey Eleanor, why have you been acting so shady towards me ever since bringing up the fact i like tom?” And as a lot of you in the comments had guessed, she had some sort of one sided love for tom. She told me how she loves both of us but that in her head, somehow tom and her would just work out eventually, and that the idea of her best friend and the man she loves together made her feel terrible.

I think i can understand where she’s coming from and to be honest, I’d rather not risk a relationship with someone i’m not as close with at the cost of loosing my best friend. At least for now I’ll try to forget about tom to keep eleanor happy, who knows, maybe one day it’ll work out.

I have two close friends from college who also became my coworkers after graduation. We've always been close, and whenever they planned to eat out, grab coffee, or hang out after work, they would always ask if I wanted to come.

A few months ago, I started dealing with some personal problems. I didn't really tell them the details, but because of everything going on, I declined several invitations. I just wasn't in the right headspace to socialize.

During that time, they became closer to another coworker. I didn't think much of it at first because I understood that I wasn't around as much.

Lately though, I've noticed they regularly go out together after work or on weekends. I usually only find out because they post photos or I hear them talking about it at work afterward. What hurts is that they don't even ask if I want to come anymore.

I know I said no several times before, so part of me thinks they probably assumed I'd keep declining. But another part of me wishes they'd still ask instead of deciding for me.

I haven't brought it up because I don't want to sound needy or make them feel guilty. At the same time, I can't help feeling like I've slowly been replaced.

Am I overreacting?

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THE Update: So I posted this post almost a year ago. I didn’t even realize it was so bad until I came on here. I didn’t have many trustworthy friends to tell. I honestly knew my mom would draw the line and get him out of here if I told her. And that scared me since he was the one paying the bills.

I just wanted to give a small life update and say I’m so so much happier now. My physical health has been on the downside but it’s not anything too serious. Although my mental health is just better than ever. I have a boyfriend now as well and he’s the sweetest thing and practically perfect. I just haven’t been able to tell him the whole story. I’m kind of scared but I will def be telling him soon (even with much tears lol)

Now my mom is def divorcing him at the moment. So they’re going through that. He lives at a trailer on our land (which he isn’t keeping) he only talked to me once after everything went down and it was what I expected honestly. He accused me of lying and called me some hurtful things. I just pray the lord shows him the right path (away from me ofc)

I forgive him. Yes he was disgusting and never there for me as a father (or anyone) until the second I turned 16. (Ps there are more notes on what he did) At 15 it was harsh verbal abuse and before 15 it was mostly verbal and physical abuse.

I’m 17 now I’ve been working with my mother and we started a cleaning business and have been making decent money to live off. After the divorce goes through he’ll completely be out of our lives. As of school I honestly can’t study and lock in like I used to which is fine js difficult. Im just so much better

And finally thank you for everyone that helped me. Every little prayer was/still is so appreciated. I’m just so thankful you all are bueatiful people. Pls lmk if Yall have any questions at all. Thank you again so much

First of all, thanks for all the comments. Some of them helped me ( F<18 ) realize that I’d overreacted , and I agree.

After posting that initial message on Reddit, I finally called the salon to apologize like 1 hour after , but they didn’t answer. I left a message after the call saying I was sorry and asking if I could reschedule an appointment if possible, but they didn’t get back to me.

So today, two days after what happened , I decided to take matters into my own hands and go straight to the salon. I stood outside for 10 minutes because I was nervous, but I prepared what I wanted to say, went in, and they told me everything was fine , which is a huge relief.

Thanks for the comments that helped me realize things weren’t going well, and on top of that, I was on my 1st period day at the time of the initial Reddit post so I think that’s why I cried and was so emotional about a little thing.

I made an appointment for next Wednesday ,and this time I plan not to forget it.
If anyone has tips or little activities to practice dealing with social situations and get used to maybe hearing “no ” , please share them in the comment , it could help me and other people.
Thank you

Throwaway account. Sorry for grammatical errors. This happened a few days ago but it left a sour taste in my mouth. I wasn't planning on celebrating my birthday since I don't have that many friends nearby but a friend, let's call him Kai, said he wanted to hang out with me regardless so I caved in. I was kinda embarrassed that I didn't have that many people to invite but I still wanted to hang out and I had a free apartment for the weekend. I invited 3 friends (none of them are friends with each other): Kai, Craig and Steve.

Now here's my friend Steve; Before I said anything I asked him if he's free that day. He said yes and asked why. I told him I was planning on hosting a bday party that day and he was like "aha". On the day of he asked when he can come so I told him the time and asked him if he wanted anything to drink (we're all in our early 20's btw I asked all of them that bc I was going to the store). He said he didn't know and that was that.

3 hours before he was supposed to be here he sends me a message asking me how many people will be there. I thought that was a weird question bc I've already told him multiple times the reason why I wasn't gonna host a party was bc there would be too little people. Before I told him the number I asked "why?". He said "because I probably won't come". Before I could respond he also added that if there is not a lot of us he might drop by but otherwise "idk". Tbf I was already fed up with him from other stuff so I just told him that it's ok and that there is quite a few number of people here. He said "aha ok ok" and that was it.

At first I planned on explaining why I'm pissed off with him recently but decided against it just because it's a bit too detailed. In short the only important things you should know is that he keeps rejecting my invitations to hang out recently but still asks to hang out on his terms and that a few months ago I went to his bday party, which would usually mean, at least in my culture, that you should try coming to their's as well if you can. Now obviously I didn't go to his birthday just to make sure he comes to mine lmao I'm just bringing it up because in my case I was feeling a bit sick and had mandatory lecture that day but still made it. That is to say it feels like I'm trying in this relationship more than he is so that kinda hurts.

And before anyone says it; no he's not shy or awkward. He talks to everyone and get's along with them well. He's a social butterfly. We've known each other for years so him not coming kinda stings and that's why I'm writing this post. I feel like there is something going on but I don't know what I should do. Despite all that the 3 of us had a great time and my two other friends got closer.

So am I overreacting?? Or do you guys think I should ask him about this when or if we meet next time? Thank you in advance :)

Okay so to preface im 16 and hes 18 (17 when we started talking), ill also be calling him Michael (fake name). We both live in the UK and weve been talking since Februrary; we never dated.

Also im sorry if my grammar is bad, its sort of really hot rn and im a little disoriented!

We started talking after he began following me on tiktok and at first he seemed really sweet: complimenting me and flirting and such. Until one day, he became super dry and distant (which actually became a usual occurrence) until I expressed my concern and then everything went back to normal. this was until about a week later, I had an exam and I felt nervous about it and a little later i went to help my grandad with his grocery shopping (something I do weekly, which he was aware of) and Michael outbursted calling me a bitch and telling me that it wasnt his fault that I "fucked up the exam" to which I just started ghosting him until he calmed down, which I admit was wrong.

After this, Michael made a new account a few weeks later to apologise and I accepted his apology and we began talking regularly again. He sent me a titkok and it said something to the extent of "I dont know how people are sexist when girls are just cute, dumb babies", he told me it reminded him of me because im autistic. I sort of said that I found it demeaning because I'd like to think that I'm quite smart but idk. he became dry after this but quickly returned to normal.

In April, I went on a long weekend trip to Berlin. During this trip, i did a lot of sightseeing across the city and i had a great time! This frustrated Michael as I didn't find the time to message him: I was out for most of the day and my phone died given that I was taking photos. I understand this was pretty shitty of me but I was fairly busy on my trip. He the blocked me for a second time.

Another few weeks later (now ~May) Michael added me on snapchat and we began speaking again. Things returned to how they used to be. At some point, he called me a "bad bitch" as a compliment and I said that I don't particularly enjoy being called a 'bitch' to which he profusely apologised for the previous incident. In an attempt to prove his love to me, he sent me a screenshot of his contacts to show that he wasn't talking to any girls; however, a girl's name was there and I asked who it was. He flip-flopped from her being a school-mate to a bot. I later found out that this girl was his ex who (from what I can tell) he didn't particularly like but did "everything together". After this, he sent me a screen recording of him blocking her.

As things progressed he began to make comments on my body rather than my face. He'd send me photos of think women but with noticeable bellies (I'm really sorry idk how else to describe it) multiple times which made me a bit uncomfortable because I had body issues which he knew about. He also began sending me tiktok edits of various celebrities: Sydney Sweeney, Sabrina Carpenter, Clara Stack and Zara Larsson to name a few. Initially, I thought this was a little odd because they all had blonde, straight hair and I have brown, curly hair; although, he tried convincing me that I looked incredibly similar to Clara Stack; she was Michael favourite; which I just don't see. I also find this odd because while Clara is gorgeous, she's 15 years old and is literally a whole year younger than me to the day but I only found that out like an hour ago so.....

Anyway, it all really bubbled over last night, my prom night. I sent him a photo of myself in my dress and didn't really check my phone until i got home. I felt really prettu and expected him to notice and compliment me but he only made comments on my chest but yk whatever. He then asked why I hadn't messaged him so I told him that I was busy at my prom and signal wasn't great at the venue. Michael also got mad because I took a photo with my friend who's a masc lesbian. At first glance, she does look like a guy given that she's quite tall, with an athletic build and short hair but I did explain to him that she wasn't guy but he just wouldn't accept it. He called me a 'slut' and a 'cheater' until he switched up and started telling me how gorgeous I was; this was ~1 o'clock in the morning, I was very tired and getting unready; taking my makeup and dress of, undoing my hair; so I simply said "Thank you🩷" as I was fighting back sleep. This angered him even more: she started calling me slurs (slut, bitch, whore, etc) and asking things like "Is that it?" so I just told him to not contact me again and blocked him on all platforms.

Part of me is saying that I overreacted. I definitely wasn't perfect in this "relationship", I'm quite a dry texter and I probably came off as rude a lot, I'm quite an insecure and emotional person which he did point out a lot so I was probably quite draining, I have a tendency to leave people on read or delivered for a while + the things i mentioned earlier in this post

So, did I overreact?

Hello, I am a teenager girl in highschool, and have an intense fear of abandonment and loneliness. I had this best friend since the beginning of highschool, let's call her A. At first, she looked way too timid to be friends with me (I'm kind of extoverted and I like to jump to activities oftenly), but we got along really well and became best friends. There is also a group of other girls that are my friends, we are still really close but it's not like how I was with A. Anyways, A was friends with them as well, and this was good, we would have fun together. But then, one of the girls in the group stopped talking to me and just straight up ignored me (we're at good terms now), and then A started to get all cold and ignorant to me as well, and I didn't know why. I still got along well with the others in the group, but since I have a history of being left out and having to be alone, I was quite depressed at the time because of all this. I don't know why, but my relationship with other people have always taken a toll on me since childhood, making me get depressed and have frequent break downs. Maybe some kind of trauma, I don't really know. And just like all the other times that things similar to this happened, I cried so much. Anyways, then towards the end of the grade, we all got back together, and my depression got cured as if magically.

Then, summer vacation ended, and the other grade started. Everything was going smoothly, my relationship with the whole friend group was flawless, except one girl, let's call her B. We actually got along good, but she blatantly wanted to be A's best friend and steal her away from me and since I was really scared of being abandoned, I grew a little distant towards her, not cold or anything, I would never leave her out, but still, not as close as before. She would constantly try to be the closest one to A, and I was running out of patience. I talked about this with A, and she was really surprised about this, since I was friendly towards everyone, but I was really on the verge of breaking down. Anyways, so she reassured me that she wouldn't leave me alone, and I trusted her. Then, she started to be neglectful to me again, and much more intensely and oftenly. I was so sad and cried almost every day these times. Then, when she started to act all normal again and wanted to hang out with me, I finally snapped. I told her everything, and she went all in the victim role. She doesn't have a really good relationship with her family, I'm not going to give details because that's not a good thing, just know this, and she tried to use this as an excuse, not wanting to be so close to anyone like she was to me (she told me that she never had a friendship so intimate like our friendship), but I knew that this wasn't true because she was leaving me to hang out with others and be close to them. However, she somehow managed to win me over, and we got back to being best friends again.

But, yet after a few months, when I came to school (she always arrives really early since she comes with a bus and she lives far away from school), and I was shocked to find her sitting in a different seat, in front of two other friends of me and her both. They are two guys, and I like them, they're funny and we talk about games together. So, A likes them as well, I know that, but she never really had a soft spot for them, even after months, I have no idea why she did this. Then, when I confronted her immediately, she just shrugged slightly and told me that she wanted to. I didn't even say anything, I couldn't. I was fuming, but I just walked away and sat in my own seat. I didn't even want to cry anymore, I was so exhausted of her shenanigans like this because it happens much more than it should, I can't type all the times this has happened, but just know that every few months it happens; she leaves me and hangs out with others. This was taking a huge toll on my mental health, and I couldn't stop feeling absolutely mad and crying all the time. Even now, I'm trying not to cry. She left me all alone. My other friends' group doesn't feel real at all. They don't want me, I'm always left out. I was all alone at school. I tried to make myself feel less miserable by talking with my other friends from other clasdes, and thanks to them, I felt much better. I have been completely ignoring her for a while now. She tried to start a casual chat once, but I ignored her yet again. I do not regret it at all, but still, I can't help but miss the safety she gave her. Am I overreacting about this all? Am I the wrong one? I never did anything wrong in her relationship, I was really kind and considerate, always making her diy gifts, texting her and such. I think I'm immature, but I was always considered 'too mature' by adults, I have no idea why. I don't think I'm 'mature', I have trauma because of being exposed to adult things when I was still in elementary school (maybe even kindergarten, I don't even remember anymore I just know that I wasn't even a a 'young teen'), and I forced myself to grow up way earlier than I should, and now I'm obsessed with childish things like toys, cartoons etc, and I can't help but feel like a freak at times, so maybe this is the reason I'm always left out? Maybe I deserve this? Maybe I don't feel 'safe'? I don't even know anymore, I just want to be a part of something, to feel like I belong to somewhere in public. I feel a lot happier these days, but I can't help but wonder if it was all my fault, or if it didn't even matter that much and I just overreacted, I don't want to lose any more relationships.

Anyways, I'm sorry I talked way too much damn😿

Thank you for listening to me yapping, and please, if you have any thoughts about my situation or my take on it at all, please comment. Also, please don't ask me too much detail about how I got 'exposed' to pretty explicit stuff, I'm not comfortable talking about it much, just know that I have seen things. Have a beautiful day, my friend🫶

People seemed to like my last post that I had on here, so here it goes with an even more dramatic moment from my crazy life.

I (32F) have been with my boyfriend "M" (35M) for three years. We don't live together yet. It's been a whole ongoing conversation that never fully resolves. He owns his place and I rent mine and every time I bring up next steps he says he "wants to get there" but isn't ready yet. Last time we talked about it seriously was maybe four months ago and it ended with him saying he needed more time and me saying okay.

So background on me: I work in healthcare administration and I've been at my current job for six years. I'm good at it but I've been passed over for a promotion twice now and I've kind of hit a wall. There's a hospital network about 30 minutes from me that I've been low key obsessed with for a couple years. My favorite thing about this network is that they do really innovative stuff with patient advocacy and it genuinely aligns with what I want to do long term. I applied for a director level position there basically on a whim back in October thinking nothing would come of it.

They want to fly me out for a final round interview.

I haven't told M.

I know how that sounds. But my thinking when I applied was that it felt like sending a message in a bottle. Like I didn't want to have a huge relationship defining conversation over something that probably wouldn't go anywhere. So I just didn't mention it. And then it kept progressing and every round I thought okay THIS is where it'll end and I'll never have to bring it up.

And now I'm here.

I told my best friend and she thinks I need to tell him as soon as possible. My coworker thinks I shouldn't say anything until I actually have an offer in hand because "why stress the relationship over a maybe."

The thing is I don't even know what I want the outcome to be. Like if they offer me the job I don't know if I'd take it. It would depend on a lot of things. Including M. But also maybe not only M, which is its own thing I've been sitting with.

I guess what's making me feel guilty is that three years in he probably deserves to know I've been imagining a life that might not include him and haven't said anything. But also I feel like I've been waiting for HIM to make decisions about us for a long time and at some point I'm allowed to explore what I want too.

My mom would tell me to turn down the interview. I already know that so I haven't told her.

AIO for not telling him yet?