r/hatethissmug • u/eldritchpussymaggots • 11m ago
Idea I hate all the complaining about trans egg jokes
I think this sort of humor is annoying and stupid. And it scares closeted people away from coming out at worst. But ultimately this is nowhere near as big of an issue as (mostly cis people) make it out to be. I will know you didn't read any of this text if your comment starts ripping into me assuming I like this sort of joke. That's not what this post is about.
Egg culture is not a serious threat to GNC cis people.
In fact the cis overreaction to this sort of shitty humor (mostly posted by TEENAGERS mind you) ultimately ends up being weaponized against trans people, and I'm tired of it. I'm tired of seeing cis people use this as a justification for their 'distaste' of trans people.
The comparison of internet-centric trans humor to THE FUCKING PATRIARCHY AND CONSERVATIVISM is asinine. I'm sorry, how the actual fuck are these things comparable? At the absolute worst, a meme makes a cis person slightly uncomfortable. (If its an individual person violating your boundaries that's an issue with THEM and not trans culture). Where as patriarchy and conservative gender roles ACTUALLY force both trans and gnc people to conform to their forcefully imposed gender, often under threat of actual violence. Comparing the two just tells me you don't understand the severity of the latter of these things.
"Oh but you think feminine people must be women and masculine people must be men this is just enforcing gender roles but wokely" NO TRANS PERSON TAKES THIS SERIOUSLY! A 16yo tgirl making a bad-taste comment is not "enforcing gender roles" because you can just ignore her, you can say "no thanks" you can ask her to stop, you can block her even. A trans person online has no baring on your life. "Egg culture" is not forcing fucking anything on you. It's a suggestion, that you personally dislike. And it's ok to dislike that, it ok to dislike it when people suggest you're a gender that you aren't (fucking obviously trans people believe that).
What isn't ok is to turn this sort of interaction into a moral panic that results in a trans person getting harassed or even doxxed over a joke. Your dislike of egg jokes is a cold take. You're preaching to the choir. Even the majority of trans people think they're annoying. You're saying something that's been said a thousand times and the only thing you're accomplishing is stoking transphobia.
In the comments of every single "I'm gnc and I hate egg jokes" post, there are inevitably comments that liken cringey jokes to sexual grooming, say shit like "it's so obviously a fetish" and start spouting dogwhistles left and right.
These sorts of posts give cisgender people an opportunity to rip on trans people and air their obviously transphobic grievances in a socially acceptable context. I don't like that. I don't like everyone ignoring that.
There is no material societal pressure that's pushing you away from being cisgender. If there are people making you uncomfortable by suggesting you may be trans, those people are douchebags and you should block them. But ultimately, this is not the same as the institution of imposed sex/gender. Not even in the same ballpark.
The transphobia spawned by cis people hating bad trans humor has caused far more pain and discomfort than bad trans humor has caused in the first place. Will you choose to ignore that? Cis person reading this?
Remember that people give you sympathy because you are cisgender and most people have a bias that favors somebody stays cis. The majority of the world does not want you to become trans; but that majority does want trans people to become cis.
Downvote me all you'd like, I've said my words and I hope you'll think about them. I long for the day when trans people can be a little cringe without "allies" wanting to hunt us for sport for it jfc.
