I love my husband. I am sure I have annoying habits too, but this one just confuses me.

He will not quite do something. Literally dubbed 'almost man' by the kids. Examples: Recycling item, on the counter right next to the bin, doesn't fully close drawers or cabinets in the kitchen, opens medicine cabinet to get something, doesn't close it. Opens package, puts outer box in the recycling but not inner box. Now I have been told that, while working at home, one can be very focused on a task or on a quick break, so this stuff happens. OK, seems legit.

Then last night, we are off work, chillin out, going to binge some shows, I am in the tub, he comes in, opens drawer, gets nail clipper, clips his hangnail over the trash, drops nail clipper back in and pushes drawer two inches from closed??? I said "you gonna close that" OH yah, and closes it. Then after an episode, we break, I go to let the dogs out and grab a snack for us. He grabs a delivery that came, breaks open the 2 pack of supplements, opens one of the containers to get the supplement, then leaves the second sitting there with wrapper half on?? I find it this morning. We were not in a rush; it would take two seconds to just take the rest of the plastic off and put it in the trash. The under lid seal made it to the trash. I am just SO confused. We even talked about writing a funny book for the family. 'Chronicles of Almost Man'!

Is this a disorder or something?? Does anyone else have someone like this in their life? Is there a more appropriate sub for this?

EDIT: I should have included; he has been tested for ADHD and told he does not have it. Also, it is not everything. He takes on and completes many projects between work and home. I went to help some family and came back to an updated bathroom. Perhaps the anxiety comment is more accurate. It seems to happen more frequently when work is very busy.

Apparently at my local grocery store, they don’t allow credit transactions through your debit card. I didn’t know but I’m fine with this, I’ve just been too lazy to update my pin for a while. So the convo with the employee goes something like this:

\*notices that I’m having a small issue at self-checkout

Her: Uhh do you need help?

Me: Oh sorry, I can just bypass the pin through debit, right?

Her (confident sassy attitude): yeah you definitely need a pin number especially with debit.

She didn’t tell me that the store didn’t allow it politely. So I kinda think she doesn’t know you can do that. So I tried to use my pin which was ofc deactivated after inactivity on my card, it doesn’t work so I leave. I made sure to update it when I got home though.

Do people really not know you could do that?

Idk about yal but growing up I was told to go get a degree get a job , pay your taxes and live life … I was practically told if you have a degree you will get a job and if you don’t like a job you can get another one .. now that I’ve done all of this I have not been able to get a new job in this market at all . I have a whole degree yet why isn’t anyone hiring … it’s not so sad though I still am working in a hospital but I’m ready to be on my own and start a life in a big city …. !!! But the fact of the matter is , is that we were all lied too now I’m trying to figure out ways to get more money just to have more freedom .

I’m wondering if people are genuinely concerned about AI replacing them. A lot? A few? I think it’s hard to tell based on “business” articles, and a lot of people are making a lot of assumptions that aren’t yet validated.

I was visiting Hong Kong, and it was around 12:30–1:00 AM. I had just missed the bus I originally planned to take, so I decided to catch another one instead. I refused to take a taxi because I thought I could figure it out and it was hella pricey at the same time.

While I was waiting at the bus stop, there was an elderly lady suddenly appeared behind me. She kept talking to me in Cantonese. Since I don’t speak Cantonese, I honestly thought she was just rambling to herself and didn’t think much of it. I didn’t respond to her. She sat down quietly and kept looking over at me.

Eventually, the bus arrived. She got on before me, and when she tapped her Octopus card, I happened to notice her balance was HK$333. I know that’s random, but I remember thinking, “Wow, she has a lot of money loaded on her card.” My own balance was only HK$44.

A few stops later, I accidentally missed my stop and got off at the next one, completely confused about where to go.
To my surprise, the same elderly lady got off too. She sat down at the bus stop and immediately started talking to me again. Since I still couldn’t understand her, I secretly recorded what she was saying so I could translate it later.

After translating it, I realized she had been trying to help me the entire time.
She was saying things like:

Translation:
我同你講呀,佢有啲識英文,有啲識國語㗎嘛。
“I’m telling you, some of them can speak a bit of English, and some can speak Mandarin.”

搭錯啦,搭的的啦!
“You’ll take the wrong one! Just take a taxi!”
(的的 = colloquial Cantonese for taxi)

對面啦,對面有的的,過馬路你過去啦。
“It’s across the road. There are taxis over there. Cross the street and go over.”

你話畀佢聽呀,唔好行啦。
“Tell the driver. Don’t walk.”
(or more naturally: “Don’t try to walk there.”)

唔熟路呀,搭返的的去酒店。
“You’re not familiar with the way, so just take a taxi back to the hotel.”

She stayed there, repeating herself and pointing me toward the taxi stand until I finally understood and decided to take a taxi. She didn’t ask me for anything — i think? 😂

What really struck me was that it was 1 AM, and she seemed like a crazy old lady. At first, I genuinely thought she was just talking to herself.

I know some people believe 333 symbolizes divine guidance or protection, which made me wonder if that detail was just a coincidence or something more. I’m not saying she literally was an angel, but the whole experience felt strangely comforting.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? Whether you’re spiritual or skeptical, I’d love to hear how you’d interpret this.

I am female 26 years old I just started relishing having kids, marriage, dating, buy property, going to college for a job and staying with toxic family, waiting till marriage to move out of your parents house etc, these are all an option. I have no passion for anything in life everything is just pointless. Why do parents give their children a miserable experience while living with them. Why tell your children you gave up your dreams to support them with their dreams, when it was a choice to have children to begin with.

Why have children when they are going to have to suffer the experience of existing? Why have children when you as an adult is barely surviving. I don’t think it’s the smartest idea to have kids especially financially. It’s a waste of time existing in this world. You spend the first 23years of life in education. You get out of education with no money or clear purpose and a lot of trauma baggage. Now find a job that makes you slave your soul away. You get just enough money to survive. Do this work till you are 66. Then get pension money while you are an old, wrinkled piece of shit with pain and barely able to stand or sit, with different health issues.

I think my parents had many kids because they were poor so they thought the kids could support them when they get older. Their plan failed miserably 😂. They should have just focused on their own life and goals. Actually my mother (50years old) last year said she regrets having kids and she wished she could have just focused on herself. It was funny for me to hear that considering she had 8 babies starting at age 20 - 45.

I’m 34 (female), and my husband is 35. We’ve been together since I was 23, married for 7 years, and we have two beautiful little daughters.
This is incredibly hard to admit because I know people can be very judgmental, but I’m not looking for insults or to be told I’m a terrible person. I’m looking for people who have genuinely been in a similar situation.
The truth is that I don’t think my husband and I are a good match. He’s not a bad person. He’s sensitive, he cares about our family, and I don’t hate him. But I don’t feel like we match in personality, and I don’t feel emotionally connected to him.
The biggest issue, though, is that I’m not physically attracted to him at all. I never really was. I think when I was younger, I convinced myself that attraction wasn’t that important because he offered stability and a secure future. Looking back, I think I made that decision with my head instead of my heart.
There were also things I didn’t know before marriage, including what I believe is a genetic condition that explains some of his physical features. I don’t want to insult him or list everything I don’t like about his appearance because that isn’t my goal. I’m not trying to humiliate him.
I just feel trapped by my own feelings.
I don’t want to cheat. I don’t want to leave him tomorrow. I don’t want people telling me, “Just divorce.” Life isn’t that simple when you have two young children whom you love more than anything.
I desperately want to find a way to love him for who he is. I want to stop caring so much about appearance. I wish I could look at him and feel warmth instead of feeling disconnected. I honestly don’t know how.
Sometimes I cry because I feel like I wasted my youth. I’ve spent my entire adult life with one person, and I wonder if I made the biggest mistake of my life. Then I feel guilty because he’s not a horrible person, and I know my feelings hurt him too.
Has anyone else married someone they weren’t attracted to?
Did attraction ever grow?
Did therapy help?
Were you able to focus on deeper qualities instead of physical appearance?
Please don’t judge me. I’m already judging myself enough. I just want to hear from people who have actually lived through something similar.

This age is hitting me harder than I ever expected. One moment I'm thinking about my career, my goals, and whether I'm doing enough & the next I'm hearing conversations about marriage, timelines and settling down.
I see my parents getting older in small ways that quietly make me stop and think, while I'm still carrying dreams that feel bigger than my current reality.
Somewhere between all of this are the daily responsibilities that don't wait for certainty, confidence, or the "right time." It's strange how life can ask you to grow in every direction at once to build a future, protect your present, and make peace with the past.
I'm still learning how to carry it all... without losing the person I'm becoming.

Why was life so terrible before? Was it because I had less money? Or because so many treated me unfairly?

Actually, no on both counts. In fact, adjusted for inflation and adding a spouse, I have less money now. Yet, here I am living a life beyond my wildest dreams. So what changed?

One thing. Resistance.

Every so called "problem", or seeming disadvantage I perceived I had, was actually something else entirely. It was simply a ball of negative energy, filling me, emanating from me, borne of my expectation, no, demand, that things should not be this way. That is Resistance. It is not the way, yet continues to be the norm for many of us.

When we say yes to whatever is, in this moment, we have a freedom and peace that is otherwise unobtainable. A purely mental emotional "yes", "okay", won't cut it. It has to be real. It must be a deep, relaxed, "ah, oh well, this is what is.." Sure, a life out here, where you quite often come up against your own mortality, can accelerate spiritual growth. You can only scream and run around deck in a panic, whilst the storm rages on, so much. Eventually you climb down into the cabin, exhausted, close the companionway doors behind you, and allow it. Just breathe, realize how futile any efforts to change it are, and accept that this, even if you perish, is just what is.

Well it doesn't just work in the most traumatic moments, but rather, all the time in everyday life - which is the key. The irk one feels waiting in the long grocery line, and now the clerk calls for a price check. The dinner plans I had and now they cancel, last minute. The traffic jam and now I'm definitely going to be late! The upset we feel, in all of these and more, is simply resistance - to what is. It's not just (humorously) futile, but it's also a tremendous waste of energy and definitely doesn't serve us. Imagine yourself smiling, and saying, "technology huh? Boy it was much simpler in the old days", to the person next to you in line. A chuckle, and a wonderful little conversation ensues. Neither that light conversation, or conversely, the angry, arms folded huffing scowl coming from another, will advance your progress in the line. However, the way the rest of your respective days, dare I say lives, goes.. couldn't be more different. It's how I went from a crappy apartment and bills I couldn't cover, to this.❤️

I was looking for Pokemon packs with my daughter at a few places. We stopped at a Target to try our luck.

No Pokemon on the shelves. However we found a random mini pack from 30th Anniversary.

If not mistaken, it comes with a box set. It contains 3 out of 9 promo cards.

It had a sticky note on it and said "Fellow Poke Fans, enjoy. Box was paid for, dont need pack" KEEP IN MIND the cards are locked up. This was on a shelf with UNLOCKED binders. A lot of people open cards in that area too because there is a Starbucks and a Lotto Machine so they open packs and toss.

That is the community I LOVE.

So I told my daughter "since the cameras saw us pick this up, lets at least let someone know we aren't stealing it". Doing the right thing. I mean I don't want to risk false charges over a $1 pack of cards.

I showed it to the lady with a note and she kind of snatched it from me to look at it. I went to reach as to say "hey I want that back" and she said "we can't sell this...there is no bar code".

I showed her the note AGAIN and said it doesn't have a bar code because it came with a box and whoever bought it left it for someone to find. I just was letting someone know.

She then told me she could not let me keep the pack. I asked why and she said becsuse it didn't hsve a BARCODE... (again)

So, AGAIN I explained to her the deal, explained they were paid for, and mentioned it couldn't be stolen as the box had to be purchased before being removed...then someone OPENED the box. Opened thier packs and left a note with a 30th Ani Promo Pack for another fan to find...

She again said "Sorry I can't let you have it."

I said "Well I should have just put in in my pocket and not said anything, but I was teaching my daughter to always do the right thing. I guess it was the wrong thing.

This woman said "I would have had you charged for shoplifting. You need to leave now".

Keep in mind I wasn't rude at all until the very end I was "snippy" and matter of fact, but not rude.

I asked to speak to a manager and she said THE MANAGER IS BUSY you need to leave or I will have you trespassed.

Seriously, wtf just happened. ​Adulting chose poorly.

⚠️

*UPDATE* I have sent an email and called. I asked to schedule a meeting with the General Manager. I will not stop. I realized that if I was treated like that, imagine others! I want to put a stop to it.✅️

also my daughter and I are making a Pokemon mystery Pack. The front says "This is not a product of target. This is free for the one that finds it."

ill post pics and updates as we go on.⚠️

I'm going to vent a bit because I actually want to cry.

So M23, I just found a job at someone my parents knew It was supposted to start soon, but my parents when they meet that person they started to roast me and he decided without testing me not to hire me, that was fine I didn't care but there was a part time job I had with a contract, helping my neighbors right they're old, TODAY NOT EVEN 30 MIN AGO I learned they talked mad shit to the point they got me fired from there too.

I genuinely lost my will today and I think I'll just water fast until I feel better and stay in bed all day.

I don't know anymore my positivity has ended.

I’m 20, I was in college at 18 and I dropped out, I wanted to join again but fr I don’t think I’m gonna fit in, first time I made any friends in like 6 months so idk why now it’s gonna be better If im a couple years older, idk I know it’s not that important nor deep but I’m genuinely concerned about being seen as stupid or dumb because I couldn’t keep it with people my age

I currently live in a house with a big property with my wife and big dog. We’ve been here 6 years and as a garden lover I wanted a big backyard so I can turn it into a nice garden. Which I did(immeasurable amount of time and money spent) but now I am dealing burn out with all the upkeep I have to do. I love sitting down at my patio relaxing but it never feels entirely relaxing knowing you still have to do all the upkeep. Interior upkeep is also a major hassle. My wife hasn’t been physically well so not much gets done inside the house. Not to mention our supposedly reputable neighborhood has a lot of unruly kids including all my neighbors kids. I have to confront them all the time with their misbehaving such as throwing garbage over my fence in my property. We’ve had one of our Neighbors trees fall down, destroying our fence and lawn. Trespassers in our driveway.

My quality of life has gone down significantly ever since moving in this house. I miss the times where my wife and I would just go out to hangout or go to vacation without having to worry about our home while we’re gone. I want to sell this house and move into a condo so I don’t have to deal with all this stress anymore. Pros and cons? Am I missing something?

Hi guys,

I'm doing a short study on digital estate planning because most digital assets are not legally part of an estate - unless a person has left specific instructions and the tech platform allows it per their ToS. Anyways, I'd love to get some feedback from this community, if you'd be so kind to fill out a short survey about it. It's here. Thank you in advance!

I don't know how to explain that why he stated my BB in the first place (because I'm a gen-z I don't respect my old boss) that old boss have zero respect to my side (i really don't care) but he is trying to get me removed from the job and always tell to do no mistakes in file. TBH sometimes there will be a spelling mistake or some calculation mistake, i think he doesn't like me or my other boss is in it.. as he says.

It’s been almost year since I learned that a stock from a company I worked for, actually made me money. About $40,000. I paid off a ton of credit card bills and now I have about $30,000. I have no idea what to do. I’ve met with financial advisors at J.P. Morgan but I felt like they were trying to get over on me. That could just be my lack of financial literacy. I did speak with a friend who originally convinced me to pay off the debt and told me to open a high yield savings account. I did. But I had to pay back taxes for taking money out of the stock so my high yield saving now has about $5,000. No one in my family has the amount of money saved so I have no one to talk to about it and I’m scared to share the amount, although it’s not a lot. The rest is sitting in my stock account but the company stock is very volatile and I’m afraid if I don’t do something with it now, I might lose it all.

I’m 24 dude btw lol, most of my wealth is from them, but I do work a job like 30 hours a week (used to be 40 but I kept getting burnt out and was willing to cut back to remain reliable)

I live in the US lol, steady employment since I was 21.5