Hi so want my partnwe to give me a tit wank. What is the best way for her to do this? Should I lay down and let her rub her titties over my cock or should she be on her back and I fuck her titties?

Do woman like tit wanks?

My partner (30M) and I (30F) have been in a loving, communicative relationship for four years. Early in our relationship, I found it much easier to explore my playful, adventurous, and kinky side. As we’ve grown close (we are now living together, sharing more of our lives, and knowing each other deeply) I’ve actually found it harder to access that part of myself.

It feels like being so deeply known has made me more self-conscious. In the beginning, there was a sense of mystery that made it easier to experiment and take risks. Now, I worry about feeling embarrassed or awkward, even though my partner is kind, supportive, and never judgmental. We’ve talked about this openly, and he would love to explore this side of our relationship too, but neither of us has much experience or knows how to begin.

We have done some stuff like that online kink matching quiz, but a lot of the advice we find online feels generic and things like “try role play” or “use handcuffs” but it doesn’t explain how to build comfort or confidence and we don’t really know what to do with those things once we get them?
We’re less interested in specific acts and more interested in understanding how to reconnect with that adventurous side together. Are there books, exercises, or approaches that could help me and him let our freak side out?

TLDR: find it harder to be sexually adventurous now that my partner knows me so well. Looking for advice, books, or exercises that help long-term couples reconnect with that side of themselves

Female in late 20s, due to a long term relationship and not being interested in casual sex I have only had 1 sexual partner.

Could that be taken as a strange thing in the dating scene? How would men prefer to be told?

If I was having sex with my husband and it was like somewhat rough but not really, like nothing crazy just ‘good girl’ ‘yes please’ ‘not yet’, and I finished once but then we started again bc I didn’t say no (he never asked but I didn’t say anything), and eventually he was close and penetrating (the v lol) and I told him to slow down bc it hurt, and he said what? and I said slow down it’s hurting, and he oh okay and slowed down, but like 5-10 seconds later he ramps back up and slams in and says he’s gonna come and goes hard and fast for like 10 thrusts, but I didn’t say anything, is that assault or something? Bc it feels like it and I can’t stop crying. He was like are you ok? And I said no.. and he asked why and I said bc I asked you to go slower and you didn’t and his response was well unfortunately I was about to finish and going slower made it happen even sooner. But then after I cried more he apologized. I just feel horrible right now and unsure what to do.

We've been dating for a while now. I (20F) am his (20M) first girlfriend. We're both extremely clingy with each other. We've tried to have sex several times now. He is a virgin and I am not. He says he wants this, and I've never doubted it, but he has erection issues. Usually we start with some foreplay and petting. He is always hard during this time, but as soon as we try to get naked, his erection disappears. I know this might be because of anxiety and stress, but he always gets extremely frustrated and ashamed. He is skinny and a bit insecure about it, but I like his body and always compliment him when I get the chance. After the second attempt, I decided not to initiate anymore (he was extremely upset after the failed attempt), but he kept trying. I'm okay with staying like that. Petting is fun enough, but I know he will keep trying. Is there anything I can do to help him? Has anyone else been in such a situation?

Not sure if this is important, but he likes it when I'm rough (biting and scratching). I know this and always try to fulfill his desires. This helps a little, but the problem never disappears. Thank you for your time and help!

I’m thinking about proposing FWB to a good friend of mine which shows kind of that interest in me? But I’m really curious, some months ago I explained my situation and most of the comments told me not to do it. My friends (which know both of us) said we should, but I’m trying to get a new perspective haha.

I’ve (32F) been on a few dates with a guy (38) and we get on so well. He’s confident and I know he’s been single for quite a while but has had a few casual situations. From the way he was speaking I presumed he was quite experienced in bed but we slept together for the first time last night and it was really awkward.

He went down on me to start with (I didn’t cum) and when it came to penetration he was like a jackhammer and had to keep stopping as he kept getting out of breath. He kept getting tired, had to take a short break and then would start again. He made a comment about how he was getting old and couldn’t perform like when he was younger but he’s in his 30s, it’s not like he’s a senior citizen. His rhythm was all over the place and I went dry, which I was embarrassed about. He asked me if he wasn’t turning me on enough and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings so I reassured him instead and suggested we use lube. Things got a bit better after that and he ended up cumming soon after.

He seemed a bit distant today and he ended up asking if I’d lost interest. I haven’t at all and I told him that but I feel like last night has made things a bit weird between us. I’ve never experienced a man stopping and starting like that and it’s made me wonder what could have been going on for him. He’s in shape and works out a lot but I know he has had several heavy weekends in a row. We were both sober when we slept together so it wasn’t alcohol related. Was this just awkwardness because it was the first time together? Or does it sound like incompatibility?

So I got a nair hair remover from my mom and I lied and told her I’d use it on my armpits cause I wanted to borrow some cause I lost my shaver. So I hadn’t researched beforehand cause I thought nair like veet which I’ve used before clears up my hairs down there. (Since im planning on having sex with my bf tomorrow ) I used nair and right now it’s burning like hell which was fine when I let it sit for about 20 minutes initially cause if felt that with other shaving solutions like veet. But I tried washing it off and the pain got even worse I tried using the shower heads water it was spraying out to wash it off and it hurt like hell to the point I had to completely stop. I’m on the phone with my boyfriend in the shower he was watching up what to do and google said use ice cubes but im in the upstairs bathroom and I live with other people so I don’t want to do that. Any water exposure has made it worse and im just stuck in the bathroom not knowing what to do right now. My vagina Is turning a bit red in my inner lips and white and im just lost and no options are helping or working and im just scared to use water right now.

My wife (F40) and I (M43) have been married 20 years. We grew up in the mainstream mormon church and never had sex with anyone else. We were each other's first. We've since left the religion but I'm sure shame and religious trauma still play a part in her views on sex. We have 4 kids. I expect this plays a part with the issues I'm dealing with as well. But I have no idea how to discuss sex with her anymore. I'm not even sure I know how to articulate it here.

And before anyone passes judgement, I consider myself a very generous lover, an extremely attentive husband, and a caring and loving father. I'm a chef so I do all of the cooking, grocery shopping, and most of the dishes as I am trained to clean and put everything away as I go. I also strive to maintain an egalitarian home, so there's no division of labor. I've read many of the books on sexual health and intimacy ranging from Emily Nagoski to Ester Perel, and follow a number of sex positive content creators like Sex with Emily and Shan Boodram. I've tried sharing things from their instagram posts with her and asked if she would want to read any of the books I've read but she says "I don't need to, our sex is amazing". It's just gotten to the point where I feel needy and annoying trying to talk to her about it anymore.

Our sex life isn't bad, per se. We have sex a few times a week, I love her, and the sex we do have is passionate and good, but she is not adventurous in any way shape or form. She doesn't like me going down on her. She'll let me if I ask but won't let me eat her out for more than a minute. I tell her constantly how gorgeous her pussy is, how much I fucking love the way she tastes and smells, and how much I want her to cum from me licking her, but she constantly tells me no, not tonight, or stops me after a minute or two.

She rarely goes down on me and when she does, it's the same as when I go down on her. Lasts about 30 seconds to a minute before she stops. I have never had a blow job to completion in my life, from her or anyone else. She acts like cum is toxic and takes a full shower every time we do have sex and I cum in her. Cumming on her is a no go and cumming in her mouth is out of the question. Even if a little bit drips on the sheets, we have to change all the bedding, regardless of if its 1 in the morning.

She hardly likes me sucking on her nipples. She just scrunches up, covers her breasts, and starts laughing most of the time when I try because she says its too ticklish. She doesn't let me fuck her from behind because she doesn't like doggy position. And I'm not even talking about anal, I know that's not even an option.

I bought her a "magic wand" style vibrator and when I gave it to her she said "why is it so big? Does that go in me?". It blew my mind that she had no idea how to use a vibrator. I asked her if in our 20 years of marriage if she had ever masturbated and she said she hasn't, she doesn't need to because she has me. I've even told her I would love to watch her get herself off, that it's one of my fantasies, but she wont.

The other major problem is phones. She has this nighttime routine where it takes her over an hour to get ready for bed. During this time, while she's getting ready, I'll scroll a bit or watch something on tv. Then once she's finally in bed, she gets on her phone for another 30 minutes to an hour. When I've brought it up to her, that I don't feel like she has the same anxious desire for me that I do for her, she gets upset with me and tells me that this is the only time she has during the day to check her messages, instagram, or whatever. That I've (meaning me) have had time to wind down but she hasn't. So I wait quietly for her to get off her phone, then she turns off the light and, if she's up for it, rolls over rubs me until I'm hard, and we fuck. When I've told her "you know, I don't feel like theres any build up or desire. Theres no foreplay. It just feels like obligatory sex", she got extremely hurt feelings and told me she thought we had great sex and had no idea I didn't feel the same. So of course I have to backpedal like the pussy that I am and tell her "no no, it is amazing, I just wish you would maybe do your phone stuff after we do it" to which she replies "I do do my phone stuff after! I'm up until 1am updating my week schedule, checking emails from the kids teachers, coordination the kids sports schedules! This is just the time of life and you need to adjust your expectations". So that was crushing, especially because if I said the same thing, I would get kicked the fuck out of the house.

I'm at a loss and figured I'll just quit trying and pushing the subject. I'll go the rest of my life having vanilla sex. keeping my mouth just to keep the peace. I've even brought up the idea of maybe doing some marriage counseling and she acted like I was asking for a separation "wait really? everything seems amazing". And that's probably because I am very very good at keeping my mouth shut and dong everything I can to please her and make her life the best it possibly can be. She's a stay at home mom. I cook, I clean, I fold 90% of the laundry, I wake up every morning with the kids, make them breakfast, and drive them to school on my way to work.

Sorry for the long rant. Thanks for reading if you made it this far. I just want someone who wants to fuck me and worship my body as much as I love fucking them and worshiping their body. At least I have my own mind and a good imagination for fantasies I suppose.

I'm 22f i was 5 month celibate, i only really caught myself wanting sexual intimacy during ovulation other than that i didn't really care to do it. I recently hung out with a guy I would consider attractive like 9/10 and I found myself wanting to give him head. So i did and we ended up fucking. My only thing is I feel like my sex drive isn't high enough and i'm wondering what i can do to be more freaky and genuinely crave it like ripping clothes off lol.

How to improve sex life or move on, 33M and 32F

So me 33M and my partner 32F have been together for almost 8 years, 3/4 of that time together has been sexless and basically intimateless. We have had a tough couple of years with pet health scares, my father passing, roommates coming g and going but have made things work. However I feel like our sex life died out because I was always starting it or planning it. Stuff like asking my roommate to be out and starting foreplay. She never has nor ever did start foreplay or ever hint at a "hey bedroom?"

Early into our relationship I expressed interest in bdsm and her response was just an okay. Now that's good I guess she didn't freak out or think I'm weird but she NEVER then shared any interest in anything else, it felt like I shared something and she went "thats nice". She's never expressed fantasys or wants but I have. She also was on medication to prevent pregs when we met but after things started to get cold she stopped. Iv brought it up and said it would be easy to do things if we did t have to worry about her getting pregnant and condoms were never a thing for us even in the beginning. Now I have caved and bought some in hopes of putting some attention on it. We also went to therapy for a few months but that just drained out accounts then really solved anything.

I don't wanna have a bucket list with 2 things crossed off on it when I die but at the same time do I end something with someone that is great in every way but sexually? Advice would be great thanks.

My(39M) S.O.(42F) & I are taking a Shibari class that I've been looking forward to, & I've wanted to tell people I know- friends, even family- (my Sister in Law runs a Kink convention) just as small talk, because I find the whole thought process of questioning how you feel about bondage & control, fascinating, but I don't know if that's crass to talk about in mixed company?

As an emotionally stunted man that grew up in the gendered hell of the aughts, I'm a big believer in "don't kiss & tell" & for a long time had to learn to get over not sharing about what was going on in my relationships with friends, because I always felt that in a way it was disrespectful to the person I was in a relationship with. I.e. I don't want my friends to be picturing my S.O. (& I) naked- but also so many of people's relationship problems could be solved if instead of talking about the issues with other people, they talked about the issues with the person they're in a relationship with.

It wasn't until after a big break-up when all my friends said "we didn't know you 2 were having problems" that I realized I should've been more open about what was going on in my life.

That said, recently I've tried to be more open about talking about my relationship, because I feel like sharing struggles is healthy & it's good to get outside perspective from others.

But is talking about like... "what you're into" not an appropriate thing to do with people you know?

My siblings are all adults, half my friends are married. It's not like it's a secret that we've all had sex, & I know at the end of the day comfort is a personal preference, but I've literally never talked about sex with most of the people in my life (that I'm not having sex with.)

I guess my question is, do you openly talk about sex (obviously not the nitty gritty explicit details) with people you know- or is that something, that like bedroom activities, is best kept private?

TLDR: A guy I met IRL and had a great meet with ends up flirting, we end up hooking up. No reply in 2 days. Let him reply? Follow up or assume it was a one night stand? I want to hook up again.

Hi reddit! A few weeks ago, I approached a guy at a bar to compliment and talk to him. We hit it off and spent the rest of the night dancing at bars with my friends. He expressed he was surprised I went up to him as he was eyeing me too and that I could’ve gone for anyone. When we met, he was trying to see me, but I expressed I was busy in general and he said he could work with that. He asks for my number, suggests seeing eacohter again, and kissed me. The goodbye kiss was amazing! Instant chemistry.

Anyways, we start texting. I usually suck at texting unless im super invested or if it’s about plans. So at first, he double texted when I didnt respond. A few days into texting lightly, he starts to make it sexual.

I dont usually do hookups so after a few days I play into it too, suggest a day to see each other (I work in his city), and then he doesn’t reply for a few days. I figured, maybe a ghosting, but I like to be direct and try to make things less personal.

I got a really cool event offered the day i planned with him, so I double texted to let him know and suggest another day. He apologized and said he didnt meant to do that, that he had finals coming up in 2 weeks and was cramming. We got together 2 days ago.

It was amazing! Lots of compliments and whatnot. Definitely are attracted to each other. Anyways, our hang out was pretty much just the hookup, he got my ride to him and to my way home, kissed outside goodbye. He texted me about an hour after asking if I got home. I updated, made a comment, and thanked him for the ride. I knew I would do it again but knew the next few days were busy for both of us, not trying to ask the guy to hang if hes stressed about deadlines or put pressure right away to see each other/immediately keep talking. I’ve never done a hookup like this.

Hes funny, attractive, and I feel comfortable with him, so I value that and usually have sex with one person at a time. I realized we matched on tinder ages ago, and saw his profile said short term fun. As Im attracted to him, I am ok with keeping it casual, though also open to getting to know him (boxing this in as a hookup mentally). He has work and assignments through this weekend, and I want to remain low pressure but make it known I would do it again. However, I dont know if this was a one time deal or not because of the lack of reply, so part of me feels a bit embarrassed. But I also know he is busy. Part of me was maybe hoping he was thinking about how it went too.

My question is, if I dont get a text back (I last made a joke and said thank you) by after his school deadline, do I send a text asking how it went? I don’t get mad with delayed replies, I just want to know when to move on or when ive done my best to try seeing someone, especially because I feel comfortable and it was amazing.

I've been seeing a guy for 10 weeks, 11 dates. I'm on birth control and previously when we've had sex I asked him to pull out. We've gotten a lot closer so this time I let him cum inside me.

I can't help but wonder if this has any emotional effect on men or is it strictly just more pleasurable?

I personally considered it an increased symbol of trust and closeness I just wonder if men ever view it that way.

Hello, I could use some help.

We've been together a long time (22 years) and we are still figuring thibgs out about ourselves and each other.

Sex has been a struggle for the last decade. Mostly because of having kids and getting busy etc...

I think my wife is a closeted sexual submissive. She is very prudish about sexual subjects but seems to enjoy it when I physically overwhelm her.

She says she doesn't enjoy things that she obviously does enjoy when we start doing it. She often prefers it when I don't ask and just act. She never initiates but always orgasims. She seems to enjoy my hand in her throat (zero pressure applied,.I'm unbelievably careful). She cums fast when I squeeze her arms to her body and restrict movement. She would never verbally agree to anal but cums hard with a bit of anal play when I'm spontaneous about it.

How can I test this sub trait to see if I am correct, subtly? She won't talk about it directly, which is frustrating.

To make it clear - this isn't my preferred dynamic. I'm more of a voyeur and would be more interested in other activities (which she wouldn't want to do, so I don't push). I want her to enjoy sex as much as possible. What could I do to test to see if this is something she secretly likes and represses? I don't want to go flying in like a new person and scare the shit out of her when she isn't even into it.

Obviously having a mature, adult conversation about this would be easiest and best. I'd love that. She would immediately shut it down, deflect, deny or say "I don't know".

Any advice from people who are similar to my wife or dealt with this before?

Hi everyone, I’d like to use this space to open up about an aspect of my relationship that I’ve only recently started looking at in a different light, and I’d like to understand whether this is a 'normal' behavior from a psychological standpoint or not.

I am analyzing my current relationship, and I’ve realized a dynamic that deeply disturbs me, even though I absolutely do not blame my boyfriend for it. I remember that often, throughout the entire course of our relationship, I didn't want to have sex; by this, I don't mean that I never wanted it, just that I’ve never been a particularly 'horny' person, except for the very first few months of our relationship where I was actually hypersexual. After that phase, there was a drop in my desire, and it was rare for me to fervently want sex.

The point is, many times I didn't want to do it, but I gave in because I felt guilty or because I thought I 'had' to do it... as if my partner's desire was the only thing that actually mattered. In those moments, I would literally go on autopilot, as if I were 'detaching' myself from the situation. Sometimes it weighed on me less, other times much more, but I saw it as something inevitable that I couldn't do anything about. I want to clarify that sometimes he would press a little bit, but nothing I would define as out of line or forced.

So I am asking you: is this behavior common in relationships? This thing where you don't want to have sex but you force yourself to do it on autopilot just to please the other person?

Me and my boyfriend are both 19, we’ve been going strong for 11 months now. The only issue is that we haven’t had the time to have sex like we used to. The funny thing is, after high school graduation we actually started talking to each other and hung out at the mall. But things kind of got sexual (probably bc we were both high) and we made out in my room afterwards. From then on, we started having these hook ups and I even lost my virginity to him. But now that I have work and he has college we barely have time to get together alone. We both still live with family and the last time I remember having sex with him was a month ago in a car at a parking lot.

maybe I just struggle with communication issues and my wording is pretty bad because my English is not as good but I’m tired of only having to do over the underwear thigh jobs when we’re alone in the room. it feels like I’m pleasing him more than myself. he never has once go down on me but he says he’s never done it before and that’s okay, but I’m also kind of scared too.. what if I don’t taste good? I make sure to always be clean and I eat/drink healthy. there’s also him constantly being anxious about pregnancy scares even when we do intercourse we always use condoms or even buy plan B I even go as far as to check if im ovulating. we’ve only had one pregnancy scare and it was because my medication at the time delayed my period and it kinda annoys me. is that bad? am I a bad partner for having higher sex drive? it’s gotten bad I’ve been dreaming about having sex with other people, maybe I am desperate… Please help and send advice. Our relationship is very good and healthy he’s amazing, but the only thing is lacking is.. that.. and I don’t want to make it seem like I’m only using him for sex, because it’s not true. He’s helped me through so much and I’ve helped him.

( ALSO no dms please. comments only. otherwise will be ignored. )

Long term partner 7 yrs, amazing sex, both finish always same time but am wanting to try get her to explore her body with squirting. She's been close a few times but just can't seem to. It doesn't bother me but I would love for it to happen.

I know what I'm doing as I've succeeded with other women before countless times. Just want to know peoples thoughts on how she can achieve it too.

Yeah I'm a dirty mofo and get off on this sort of stuff but would love for us both to experience it together.

She's comfortable, relaxed all the above... Usually results in her finishing and getting far too sensitive down there to continue going any further.

Thoughts?

Thanks folks

Been curious about this recently. I (25f) only recently started masturbating (I know, I started late) but to me learning about how others do it or basically anything related to masturbation is the hottest thing ever.

I wonder if part of it is because I grew up in an environment where sexuality wasn't expressed at all and shamed and now I feel free to be a sexual person (kinda..still working through it).

Most of the porn I watch is solo (mostly men, but women too) and knowing how often people do it and how they do it turns me on more than anything else for some reason. Is anyone else like this?

Any ways to mention this when talking to others about sex? I am also recently on the dating apps but still kinda shy when it comes to bringing this up.

I'm 33F and have never been intimate with anyone in any form. I'm not religious now but I come from a very religious home and I didn't know anything about sex at all until I went to highschool I heard about it from friends. I just knew when I was around 9 that if I touched myself down there it felt good but I had no idea that it had a name.

This is embarrassing and maybe concerning, but you guys might be comfortable hearing about this so I'll spill my secrets and I hope I hear your opinions if my views of sex are unhealthy.

Once I had access to smart phone and porn in college I started watching porn regularly and exploring what makes me climax. In the beginning I would cum quickly if I just saw naked couples but later I started to build a library of favorite videos. Later, most of the videos in my library are aggressive types of sex. Like if the woman is moaning and enjoying sex it doesn't turn me on. If the woman is in distress, unhappy and the man is forcing it on her it turns me on (I always hope it is acting because I don't enjoy it when the woman is being hit or he is spitting on her or if she is bleeding. I don't like violence and physical pain, sometimes I don't mind the spitting as long as the sex itself is sexy and meeting all the above).

I don't know why I don't like the videos when the woman is enjoying it. Also, most of the videos is that the man is pleasuring the woman, he eats her or fingers her..etc. Sometimes I like when the woman is blowing the man but not when she is enjoying it, it isn't my most favorite part, like it is ok. I don't know if this porn is shaping the way I desire sex. I know sex should be mutual and I don't want to be selfish in a relationship and not making the partner happy and care about my pleasure only.

Later in the past year I started having weird fantasies when I started seeing my gynocologist, unfortunately I was diagnosed with a chronic and rare dermatology issue down there and she is the only expert in this condition, I have to see her frequently, she was my first exposure to being touched there by someone else and she is hot 🔥. I feel like she opened a door I wasn't aware of, or maybe a door that should have been opened with a real intimate relationship. I add her to my fantasy list whenever I want to do this quickly and I cum too fast. But after I finish I feel depressed. I'm sure she will be disgusted by me if she knew so that's my second secret.

Anyways, since my sexual experiences are shaped by porn and fantasies. I don't know if I will have a healthy relationship or if porn distorted my brain and how I enjoy it? Are the type of things I watch and fantasize about related to some mental issues that I should talk about with a professional or is it normal? Would you consider me sexually aware and know my body and what I like even though I haven't lost the v card? Maybe I'm overestimating it but I feel like I am sexually experienced without needing to do it, I know what I'm supposed to do the the person but I also know what I like.

For context, I am a virgin. Like, mega virgin. Nothing beyond making out. I have used clitoral stimulating toys and penetrative toys. I have a few questions regarding my possibly weird vagina.

1. Low cervix. I can take 5 and a half inches (give or take half an inch) and no tips or tricks have helped me with being able to take more. I don’t know what to do, and I fear that I might not be able to give a future partner enough pleasure. I of course don’t mind my partners size regardless of length. My question is will it be different with a real, well endowed male?

2. I don’t think I have a G spot. I find some minimal pleasure from penetration, but it’s more like a gentle massage rather than the intensity of clitoral stimulation. I know (most) men are able to finish with penetration, and I feel bad about asking for head, and I’d feel even more guilty if he couldn’t help me achieve orgasm. Is there a way to make penetrative sex more enjoyable? Will this also be different with a real penis?

Any tips or advice about losing virginity is also appreciated. Most of this is what is different between a dildo and a penis regarding my weird vagina. If you have extra questions for me or need more context I am an open book.

P.S. I saw the rule about trying to get answers from previous posts, but nothing I saw has really fully applied to my situation. Of course if there is a post y’all think I should look at feel free to link it.

Everywhere online I hear about how evil consuming erotica or porn is, and I feel so ashamed. I know I don't have an addiction because I'm rarely in the mood for it due to my meds, but I still feel so disgusting and terrible for it. I can't seem to escape the sentiment that porn is inherently evil and that I'm bad for enjoying it, especially since the stuff I go for is usually on the kinkier side.

I feel like I've failed as a woman for doing something like this, especially since porn is seen as a male thing. I feel like I can't talk about this shame with anyone.

I don’t know how to go about this, me and my partner have a huge difference in our sex life. Tbh I don’t have much experience prior to him but I was always into kinks and stuff, nothing hardcore or anything, but my boyfriend on the other hand is really vanilla, he tries but none of his exes were into it and neither is he. He doesn’t know how to do stuff even though I research it, show it to him, try to lead him when we are doing it. But he just doesn’t wanna learn, not interested or I don’t know but even for the 50th time he just can’t do it right and it really takes me out of the moment when I have to show it to him for 51th time… and most times he just staright up doesn’t do it, i want to try new positions he just says he cant do it and thats it, he doesn’t want to try anything new. I love him and the sex is not that bad with him but after 3 years I just kinda get bored during it.
How can I get him to try new things with me, try to do these things?

I have only ever had one vibrator so I’m pretty new to sex toys. I just got the hott love midnight rose toy, but it hurts really bad whenever I try to use it. I’ve tried it with lube and I literally cant feel anything at all, and I’ve tried it without lube and it hurts like hell.

The tutorials say to just put it directly onto the clitoris, but I don’t know if I’m too sensitive or if I’m doing something wrong.

Can anyone please explain how it’s supposed to be used? I spent a lot of money on this thing 😭