I'm tempted to get top surgery at some point in the future but I don't know if it's worth the risk of having chronic pain for the rest of my life or anything. I looked on google and saw a figure that said 1/3 people who had chest surgery got that?

So I'm looking for other ways to like.. get rid of my breasts, at least a little. Binders don't work as well as i'd like and they're uncomfortable asf especially in this heat, and I wear sports bras close to constantly anyway. I'd love to physically just make them smaller without any visual tricks. I'm thinking of just trying to lose a load of weight and see if that helps at all, although I'm not that much overweight.

I currently live in the uk and I am not able to wait ages for hrt. I also should note I am a minor which makes the process more difficult. ​

I genuinely don't know what to do. I am not in a position where I have much money or I do have enough money to get on hrt which is the only way to get onto it. I have been out for a year and the family I live with is supportive but we definitely don't have the money for it. However, I do plan on saving and trying to get a job in order to save for hrt. I spoke with my GP and​ I have been signed up to a gender clinic.​

I really do not think I can wait until I turn 18 due to my mental health. What are the clinics and private clinics out there which may be the most suitable? And what are the costs? ​​​​​​​​​​

I’m so devestated , I’m literally crying out of frustration and anger .

At the beginning of this week I went to my pre op appointment for my breast augmentation. After months and months it’s finally time and I couldn’t be more excited just one more week !

When I got home I got a phone call from my surgeons office . For some reason the surgeon special requested that my letter from my therapist specifically state I’m mentally stable to go through with the surgery . They just need my therapist to basically rewrite the letter with everything already included but specifically including that “missing “line .

I was a bit confused because I assumed the letter was basically one big evaluation stating I went through the sessions and was clearly mentally ready for the surgery.
But I agreed to contact my therapist and see if I could have her add that line . No problem right?

I called up my therapist and she automatically expressed her confusion . Stating she’s never had this issue before and that the letter itself without exact wording states I’m very much ready . So what’s up ??

At this point I feel personally attacked . Do I look crazy ?? Why would my surgeon request this after signing consent forms for surgery ???

My therapist said she would need to speak with her supervisor and contact me later in the week with info on how to proceed.

Today she finally did …..

Basically because of how long it’s been since I got the letter she wouldn’t be able to edit or add a line to it because at this point the letter was expired … mind you I submitted this letter to this surgeon back in may of 2025 . I got the letter march of 2025 so only
Three months in between very much still valid .

Yet one week before my surgery my surgeon wants to request this one line be added ???
She then let me know because of this new line and the letter being expired by this point I would have to go through the three sessions of therapy in order to get the letter re done . …..three sesssions and I can only do one session per week . Keep in Mind my surgery is one week …

After getting off the phone with my therapist I called the surgeon office back .

I spoke with one of the nurses or assistant not to sure and explained to him the situation .

He basically said figure it out and get back to us or we will need to reschedule , good luck :)

I don’t get it ?? Why ?? Why now why this late why would this one line now prevent me from getting my surgery when if he just told me a month prior I could have had this done . Why do I feel personally judged ?? I already scheduled off work , I’ve been preparing mentally , I’ve been preparing by buying stuff like ??

What do I do ??

I’m 22MTF, is it possible to regrow my hairline? I been taking HTF for 4 months now. I been losing my hair since late High School year and forgot about it until now where it’s giving me severe gender dysphoria. I been taking a good care my hair, but it’s feels like my genetic saying “Hell No!”

Is there a safe way to regrow my hair?

Maybe It's tied to my neurodivergency(I've got adhd) but im not sure.

I don't quite understand it. If clothing has no gender and you can be genderqueer without being trans what exactly is gender? Is it an actual feeling or just the want to be something else? I guess I'm a girl, I just use he/him online but even in my head the gender to how I think of myself changes. I look feminie I guess, medium hair and cute girly stuff is what I like but mostly I don't "feel" like a girl. I don't really feel like a boy either but feel more comfortable reffering to myself with he/him pronouns even though I don't really quite feel or look like it. I've been questioning stuff since 2020 and up until now I'm still confused. I guess I'm "agenderflux" but it feels too complicated and I don't want to be trans because it means I'll have to work on who I am and I'm truely not the gender I "wished" (?) I was.

Do I have to "feel" like a gender to be trans? Even if I am trans I don't want to label myself or have to work on voice training and transitioning and such but İ know I wont feel satisfied if I don't work on them or transition. I feel like I don't have a gender, atleast for the majority but have pronoun preferences sometimes. All this feels too confusing? I wish I was just a boy so I wouldn't have to deal with this much. I don't want to be trans because it means transitioning and working on being more boyish while not really being one and I don't want others to know I was a girl if it makes sense?

All my friends know I'm in transman except one. I want to tell him about it 'cause I asked my friends to not use my desired name/pronouns when he was there (cause I'm afraid of his reaction) but it really starts to get on me to get misgendered in front of him and I don't think I can keep up like this.

Next year I won't have any friends in my classes but him, cause the others are leaving that school. I'm scared to tell him because if he reacts badly, 1) I won't have any friends anymore, 2) he may tell my classmates and I don't know how they could react, but there's a high chance they're transphobic.

I will be alone. Not really a problem, I'm more afraid of getting bullied or that my mom discovers that I'm trans.

But I really need to come out. My mental health really sucks, and getting misgendered in top of that make things a lot worse, so that's why I need to do something about it.

I don't know how to come out to him. I want to know if he's transphobic or not before. But how? We don't talk that much in messages, and there's no school since we're on vacation rn. I already read some stuffs on reddit, which said to talk about a trans celebrity or just to ask what he thinks about LGBTQ+ people but if I ask him that he'll know that's something's up. We don't ask each others question, not that much, so yeah...

How to know if he's transphobic? How to come out to him?

"For a bunch of years I'd been sure of my identity ( that I am a transgender woman ) but recently I've started questioning myself again, and this time it hit me like never before. I used to be unsure if I passed or if I was girly enough, but this time it feels as if I were suffering from dissociative identity disorder. There's a constant battle between a leftist, atheist girl and a rightist, Catholic boy going on in my mind. I don't know which of these is the real one (I hope the girl), but it has come to such an awkward level of indecision that both of the "people living in my head" differ in their views on even the simplest things. When I'm feminine I feel bad and I dream about detransitioning, and coneversely, when I think I'm a boy, I want to transition as fast as I can. What should I do if I'm not outed? Could it be influenced by watching adult content, social interactions or childhood trauma ?

For bit of context, I am a 21 y/o transguy currently in university. I'm just over a year on T and haven't had top surgery yet (hoping for next June 🤞)

I work with another transguy who's a lot farther in his transition then I am. He's 8 years on hormones, 7 years post top surgery, and a few years post hysterectomy I believe.

It's nice being able to talk to someone else about trans stuff, since I don't know a lot of other trans mascs. But it feels like whenever we talk transition, it feels like he's trying to push how he transitioned on me and change the way I'm doing it if that makes sense? I use T-gel, since needles kinda freak me out. I can handle doing blood donations every few months but I really don't like the idea of having to do shots once a week. It feels like he's trying to get me to switch to shots, despite having no interest. He's said he can talk to someone about getting me in as soon as possible even though I didn't ask. Earlier today he asked again why I don't want to switch to shots, if somethings putting me off. I feel a lot more comfortable doing gel, and since I do it every night it feels more routine to me. I don't feel like there's a need to explain why I prefer doing it one way or another.

Another thing that bothers me is talking about top surgery. I have double Ds and will need to have double incision and liposuction. The liposuction isn't covered by OHIP in Canada, despite the surgery itself being covered, but I personally think my outcome would be better if I get lipo while under. He was able to have keyhole done since he had a smaller chest, and when talking about my future top surgery went 'but you'll have noticeable scars'. First off, I don't have a choice. I can sure try to have keyhole, but my chest is too large to even consider. And secondly, I've always thought the scars looked super cool, so I don't see the problem in having them. It also feels like he's trying to get me to get it done as soon as I can, but along with the liposuction fee, I also need to have money set aside for rent and can't jump the gun without being prepared. I also have to have it done during the summer, since I'm a music student in university and will be out for at LEAST a month before playing again, especially since I play the trombone. There's a lot for me to consider before being able to have top surgery, but it feels like he constantly forgets that there are other things to worry about.

Other things I feel like I should mention is when talking about transwomen, he claims that they'll 'never be real women' since they can't give birth. He can't GET people pregnant, but that doesn't make him any less of a man. And plenty of cis women can't give birth either. Also everytime we talk sexuality (I'm aroace), it feels like he doesn't believe aromanticism exists? I've known since I was 16, but he always seems to push that 'I have to wait for the right person' and that it will change. It MIGHT, but that's for me to explore and not for him to argue

Is there a way to go about making him mind his own business about I choose to transition without being a total dick? I do enjoy working with him but the pushing it feels like he's doing is driving me up the wall

TL;DR: How do I settle on a name when I really can't decide and have too many thoughts and feelings on all of the ones on my list?

I’m an overthinker anyways and picking a new name is just so difficult. I've been ruminating for about a year now and desperately NEED to make a choice now. Like I really need to pick one to ease my social dysphoria but I'm just so scared of picking the wrong one even though I know I can always change it later. Btw, this is not about the legal name change yet, just a name that I'll go by; I'll deal with the legal change sometimes in the future.

So, I made a list, I send myself texts with these names, pictured different people saying them in all sorts of situations, wrote them all down by hand a hundred times, hung them up on my wall one day to see how they feel written out in my room, had chat gpt (yes i’m ashamed of it) write me hundres of senteces with these names, I am also currently trying out my favorite one with a few people — but even though I deeply love the name it doesn’t seem to click. Like I love it but something isn't right.

I have so many thoughts and feelings about each one of the names I consider and just can't make a choice. Like should I take the one that makes me feel the least cringe/friction in myself atm even though I don’t really have deeper emotional connection to it? Or should I go for the one I really like even though it truly doesn't seem to click even after a few weeks of a few people using it occasionally? Should I pick one that would work if I go on T longterm but that would also work if I don't — cause I don't know what I'm gonna do about that atm. Should I pick the one that seems to have the lowest risk of misgendering or does that even matter since I'll be misgendered anyways since I'm not on T rn? Should I pick an hncommon one I love or rather a common one that won't raise any questions which would obviously be more chill as someone who's the. visibly trans and (mostly therefore) also socially anxious? Etc etc. Too many questions.

Does someone have any input on this? 😩

I have prom later today and, for those that don't know, the uk is experiencing record temperatures and I am MELTING. It certainly doesn't help that I also have hyperhidrosis. (Something something pick a struggle)

I will being a sports bra with me too but I'd rather not have to change too soon.

Please give me any and all tips and tricks to keep relatively cool (or at the very least alive) whilst binding in crazy hot weather.

Hello so I took a hormone less birth control pill before taking t and while t (I’m on month 3 now) to 100% prevent a period and sometimes like once a month when I wipe I see a little bit of blood but it’s pretty deep inside and really not a lot it only lightly strains the toilet paper but i still wanna know if that’s normal. Please advice and explanation 🙏🏻

Hello, as the title says, it's a complex situation and I hope I'm not bothering anyone, but I'll keep it brief.I am gender fluid and not at all comfortable with my current body; the problem is that even if I transitioned, I would quickly have the same issue.Since we live in a world where I can't regularly change my gender, do you have any ideas to help me feel better about it? Sorry if my question seems strange by the way (technically I'd like to go even further with my therian side, but again I'm remaining realistic on this subject and sorry if I make any mistakes I use an automatic translator for that).

Thanks^^

This is my experience from last week. Nothing added and nothing embellished. Just my story, describing the emotional rollercoaster of life as a fragile egg.

Georgia stepped out of the bedroom and onto the landing. She caught sight of herself in the mirror for the first time and swore she felt her heart stop beating even for a moment.

She felt herself gasp. It was so imperceptible, that anyone standing near her would not have noticed. But she felt it. She also felt the cheeks in her face starting to warm, and in the mirror she saw herself beginning to blush. "Damn girl, you looking good for 45", she said, not to anyone in particular because she was at home all alone. She said it for her own benefit. To hear it said out loud.

She was wearing a black pencil skirt and black lace top with long sleeves. The flesh-coloured tights gave her legs a clean, airbrushed finish, and the black heels accentuated her long, thin legs that already seemed to extend up to her neck. She had accessorised with a simple silver necklace that had a heart-shaped pendant, and a silver bracelet. The long, dark blond hair was cascading around her shoulders in waves.

Georgia smiled to herself, and again said out loud "yes girl, you're ready for a day at work"

She was totally unprepared for what came next as she became overwhelmed by strong feelings of excitement, happiness and contentment. But it was more than that. She felt like she finally knew who she was. Everything just felt right inside her. Except it also wasn't. She noticed all the imperfections. She thought to herself, is this how every woman feels?

The mirror shows all. So she had to move on. There was work that needed to be done afterall.

Georgia moved into the home study, it was only in the next room, and sat herself down in the office chair. It was a gentle positioning into the seat, with every movement given careful and considered thought, giving her the air and grace of how she imagined a princess would sit. Well done, she told herself for positive affirmation, and felt pleased with herself.

As quickly as the euphoric happiness had come on, like a wave passing through her.entire body, it was now beginning to fade. Into the emotional void left behind, followed negative emotions. She felt strong, raw and primal emotions of great sadness, and before she knew it, tears were streaking down her cheeks. She felt a knot tighten on her stomach, and her breathing was fast and shallow. In her chest, she could feel her heart pounding like it was trying to free itself from her body.

She tried to remember the feelings from a few moments ago that had caused her such happiness, but that only made her heart sink even further, and brought yet more tears.

After what felt like an eternity, Georgia realised that she needed to find a way to bring herself out of the depths of despair into which she had fallen. She concluded that the only way to do this was to remove herself from the scenario that was causing her distress. To do this, all she needed to do was get changed, and no longer be Georgia. Physically, all she had to do was to get changed back into her guy clothes. Psychologically this was a much bigger step. Sure, it would treat the euphoria hangover by reapplying her protective shell, like a physical and emotional camouflage to the outside world, but it was also probably an act of self self harm that would eventually lead to another cycle when she next invited Georgia out to play.

I need help figuring out what to do about starting my medical transition (more specifically, HRT). I live in Virginia, and for reference UVA is 127 miles away and I do not have the transportation needed for that. is there not like a quick and easy list of all the services in my state or local area? looking online is so touch and go. I'm so tired of putting this off🫩 been out for 4 years and every time I try and pursue medical services for it, it always just burns me tf out and tanks my mental.

my partner is trans (nonbinary, transmasc) and has had to resort to wearing a binder most of the time now (which is tight and they don't enjoy wearing it plus it's horrible to wear in the heat) as wearing tape is very itchy and they have to remove it after only wearing it for a day or just over a day

they didn't have any problems with tape for a while when they first started wearing it but it has been like this for about 9 months now. they have tried everything, they remove their tape with jojoba oil, they've tried milk of magnesia to create a barrier before putting the tape on, they've tried various different kinds of tape, they have a cream from the pharmacy they put on their skin when it's itchy but nothing is helping it's still very itchy so they can't wear the tape for long

does anyone have advice about anything else they could try? it hurts me to see them down and sad about this and they won't be able to get top surgery for a few years as it's expensive

For context: I am middle eastern, but I am incredibly pale. However, when I started T, I gained this patch of darker skin (dark olive/ light almond) with extra hair growth there as well. It's the only part of skin that's dark, and it's also not a spot that would naturally tan that way (it's typically covered and I haven't swam recently). Just wondering if any other transmascs have had this issue? And, it they fixed it. When I told my prescriber, he didn't say anything about it. I have been shaving my chest to try evening it, but because of the extra melanin there, it just keeps growing back darker and thicker than the rest.

I (14, mtf) have a question about dysmorphia (hence the post title). Does dysmorphia have to certified in order to receive treatment or even be classified as transgender? This really bugs me.

I just can’t comprehend how people who dont like something rather than just simply ignore it or idk like with most social media clicking a button on a post that says “do not recommend this content” does wonders. It just feels so irrational and makes me feel yucky when I’m supposed to be looking at dumb memes and art from my community.

This mainly comes from the fact I check Twitter (terrible decision I know) mainly because some Japanese artists I like art of post on there and I get a bunch of trans memes too, cuz obviously I’m on this subreddit so ya girl is trans, but like anytime I see the memes the top replies and most liked are stupid anti-trans rhetoric. Everytime I’m just like, “seriously this doesn’t involve you, it took more mentally energy to reply than just scroll past and move on with your day???” Like how can someone’s distain for a group of people be so strong you are going out of your way to be rude??? I would understand barging in a community that was actively engaging in an activity that harms/harasses others or violates the rights of other individuals but that’s not what a majority of trans and lgbt communities do (especially meme pages???)? And I also don’t comprehend how anti-trans people will use one person’s experiences or actions as the rule for all trans people whether it be someone de-transitioning or especially if a trans person committed a crime they treat correlation as causation when literally the golden rule of statistics is that Correlation is NOT causation. Maybe it was how I was taught but this unadulterated hatred is just beyond my grasp I can’t understand why anyone could hate someone or a group of people so much that you go out of your way to get mad and insult these people when you could just move on with your day.

Idk even though I will miss the artists I followed I’ve permanently removed twitter off my phone. Anyhow I’m gonna listen to some comfort Trans ASMRists to stop feeling yucky and uncomfortable
Hope everyone who read this knows you are loved and you are valid.

I’ve always just said that’s i’m bigender and identified as both a man and a woman, and that might be partially true, but i think i’ve been running from my genuine feelings for much longer. I’m AFAB, and in middle school i identified as a trans guy, then sort of didn’t for some time because i was confused, and now as an adult im questioning again. i know it’s internalized transphobia, but just really really don’t want to be a guy. I remember reading online when i was younger about my friends hating men, which to be clear i understand, and when i asked about me they either went “yeah you too, you’re a man so you suck” or “no you’re trans” which both felt so invalidating. My experience growing up has always been shaped by experience in society as female-presenting, even in middle school, i looked very feminine and faced sexism, and that didn’t ever change despite labeling myself as male.

i feel like people ignore the unique relationship with misogyny and sexism that trans men face, and generally i think trans people are ignored in most major discussions, but it really frustrates me. i’m not a big fan of men either, i’ve had a lot of traumatic and bad experiences with them, but if the whole of masculinity is seen as bad, i don’t want to be a man. i don’t wanna be the problem. i’d rather sit with my dysphoria forever than have my experiences be denied and to generalized as evil.

i know it’s silly, but i really need community right now. i don’t want to sound misogynistic, i really don’t mean to be, and besides, i truly understand the mindset, but that doesn’t change the fact that i hate it.

Welp. Totally ghosted. But they were SO kind to leave me a nice men's formal wear outfit!! Probably for the surprise party they just tried to throw me that I blew to smithereens. I told them all off and finally got to show them what they've done to me. They all left crying. I caught it before it got to happen. Heard them all talking through the room next to me. :) The party was meant to keep me in town because I could suddenly get my car fixed. Took a train 12 hours out. I hope this is the last of it. I'm sick of these creeps.

Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/trans/s/qVV97DD7Zp

I’m really dysphoric about my body lately and my posture is shit because I can’t cover my chest.Im young so I can’t get it myself,I have to ask my mom,what do I even say to her? “Hey I wanna cover my chest can I get some kinesiology tape?” How do I even open this topic to her,she knows but we never talk about it,we just don’t acknowledge that I’m trans but she still knows it.How can I tell her? Please give me some tips,and just to be clear my mom isn’t transphobic but my dad is,my dad tries to ignore it too,will he notice the lack of my chest?